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Post by ilikepink on Dec 10, 2014 18:51:02 GMT
I was also a lurker when you went through all of that, and prayed for you. Glad to hear you are on the other side and looking forward. The pain and the lessons learned become part of who we are, but not all of who we are. Keep moving forward, you are an inspiration to your DD, all of us, and women you don't know - the mean people don't win in the end.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2014 19:00:57 GMT
I've followed your story closely. So happy to see you're keepin' on. You're so strong! I have to say that I don't think your DD should have told you about xDH's sugar mama. No purpose served there...
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Post by scrappinmama on Dec 10, 2014 20:01:34 GMT
I do remember your story. You are such a strong woman. I'm glad to see that you have pieced your life back together.
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 10, 2014 22:07:22 GMT
Another lurker who remembers your story here.
You are an amazing woman. I am so proud of you for coming through this and being so strong, and I hope you can continue to grow and flourish.
Big hugs x
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Post by Dictionary on Dec 10, 2014 22:18:37 GMT
It is so nice to hear of how much you have gained and accomplished after such a horrible event. You have a great perspective on life and that is wonderful to hear. Thank you for sharing and congratulations on being a grandmother!!!
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Post by birukitty on Dec 10, 2014 22:36:31 GMT
I'm so happy to hear your update after the horror of what you went through. I can hear the strength and growth in your words and know that you have become a much stronger woman who has come out the other side wiser, and much stronger than she was before. You are like a lion now. You can see the truth of all of that manipulation and know all of the lies he tried to pull on you. That's 95% of the battle.
I was married to an abuser myself for 7 years who was a master manipulator. He beat me with a fire poker (that's the day I left) and choked me while I held our 3 year old saying "This time I'm going to kill you". The choking incident happened after I left him, moved out and had my own apartment. But you are so right-the bruises heal and it's the emotional abuse that lasts and lasts. 21 years later I can sometimes still hear his voice in my ear "Why don't you clean the shit out of your ears so you can hear me?" It hardly every happens now. I have to really think about it to bring up those memories, so don't worry-they will not haunt you forever.
I did find love again, and because I'd been through the therapy I knew what kind of man to watch out for and ending up choosing the complete opposite. DH is the kindest, sweetest, man who never yells. We work out our differences by talking them out-the way it should be. We just celebrated out 19 year anniversary this year. I was NOT looking for love. It just found me. We are best friends and share a lot of the same interests-mainly photography. That helps a lot too.
But enough about me-I am so happy for you. You are well on your way to healing. Celebrate every day your freedom, that it's up to you to make decisions in your life and only you. I loved that part of it. I left our town of Arlington, Va. where we lived and which I always hated and moved to Annapolis, MD for a new start because I loved sailing, the town and because my sister lived here. It was only an hour away so XDH could still get his visitation in. But that moment that I realized I don't have to stay here, I can move wherever I want-was such a sense of freedom. I had my own wedding photography business back then, so it could just as easily move with me. It was like euphoria. I made the decisions now. No one but me. Well, for the most part. I got sole custody so that had a big part of it.
Anyway, I just want you to know that I am so proud of you. Keep enjoying every day of your freedom and explore all of those new things you were telling us about. You will find your niche. And a grandson due in April. How wonderful! The icing on the cake! I am so very happy for you.
Debbie in MD.
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Post by gale w on Dec 10, 2014 22:36:43 GMT
Thanks for posting this update. I remember your posts. I'm so glad you're doing better and congratulations on your new grandbaby!
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Post by Tamhugh on Dec 10, 2014 22:50:40 GMT
I am so glad that you are doing so well. I hope that your new life is so much better than the one before all of this happened. And when those demons come, laugh in their face because you have proven that you are so much stronger than they are!
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Post by scrapnnana on Dec 10, 2014 22:57:05 GMT
I am glad to hear you are doing so much better. I do remember you and what you went through. Congrats for getting through such dark days to being able to enjoy life again, and enjoy your grandbaby!
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Post by kikitwo on Dec 11, 2014 3:08:34 GMT
I remember reading about your experiences. I admire you for pulling through!
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Post by theshyone on Dec 11, 2014 4:56:39 GMT
It's amazing how things can change in just two short years isn't it?
hugs
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 11, 2014 6:41:27 GMT
Wow!! I finally get online after a hectic day and am humbled and overwhelmed by so much love!! This is the most amazing place! What kept me so busy, you ask? First a dear friend insisted on treating me to a haircut and color at her salon, ( I'm cute again  ). Then I get home and--are you ready for this?--helped cut and wrap an alpaca! My son got one from a local co-op, and now most of its in the freezer, and tomorrow I'm going to make sausage of the rest. It's a good thing you can find a recipe for anything on Google! Don't ask how it tastes, I haven't eaten any yet, but I will tomorrow' when I'm cooking test bits of the sausage to make sure the spice is right. I hear it's tasty. I do know it was grass fed, hormone free and had plenty of room to run around. I love how many of you shared your experiences or words to help me keep my spirit up. And not dwell on the past. I'm going to print all this up and keep it handy to help with the bad days. Thank you all so much!! |
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Post by my3freaks on Dec 11, 2014 8:07:04 GMT
I also remember your story from the beginning. I'm so happy to hear that your getting back to doing things that you enjoy and that your family had such a happy occasion to look forward to. Nothing can heal the spirit like a new baby in the family. You sound hopeful for the future, and that's great to hear!
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). Then I get home and--are you ready for this?--helped cut and wrap an alpaca! My son got one from a local co-op, and now most of its in the freezer, and tomorrow I'm going to make sausage of the rest. It's a good thing you can find a recipe for anything on Google! Don't ask how it tastes, I haven't eaten any yet, but I will tomorrow' when I'm cooking test bits of the sausage to make sure the spice is right. I hear it's tasty. I do know it was grass fed, hormone free and had plenty of room to run around. 