The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on May 11, 2023 18:34:04 GMT
My son and his gal are tying the knot in 9 days!
She has been sporting a beee-u-tiful engagement ring. The wedding band is more simple that fits up underneath the engagement ring (as most of them do)
Here is the question....
Does she wear her engagement ring down the aisle and then my son slips the wedding band on?
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Does she walk down the aisle with a naked finger and he places both of them on at the same time?
When she asked me, I wasn't sure. What do you think?
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lesley
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Post by lesley on May 11, 2023 18:38:02 GMT
My DD and her wife both wore their engagement rings on their right hands as they walked down the aisle, and then moved them over once their wedding rings were on. I’ve no idea if there's any hard and fast rule of etiquette about it, they just went with what they were comfortable with. 😊
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Post by disneypal on May 11, 2023 18:39:00 GMT
She walks down with a naked finger and after the wedding band is placed on, the engagement ring will later be added back on top of the wedding ring.
But I don't think there is a certain etiquette - so she can do it whichever way she wants  |
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Post by bethany102399 on May 11, 2023 18:39:11 GMT
I wore mine on my right hand, then moved it over once DH put the wedding ring on. It was one less thing for others to worry about and I'm meticulous about my ring as I'm terrified to loose it. I didn't want to hand it over to anyone else on the day.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on May 11, 2023 18:41:03 GMT
I wore my engagement ring, and after he put the wedding band on during the ceremony. I discretely rearranged them as soon as I had a chance. We did a "ring warming" where we passed our rings around (securely tied into a hollowed out book that we used as our ring box) and everyone prayed over them, gave them their blessings, etc. It was my favorite part of our ceremony - watching our friends and family give their support. Anyway, I didn't want to send the engagement ring around, and I think most couples are a little nervous about a lost ring, so the less rings out of sight, the better.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 11, 2023 18:42:50 GMT
My set is like this. I wore my engagement part of the ring on my right hand, DH put the wedding band part of the ring on, and then I slipped the engagement ring off and onto my left hand a minute or two later.
The wedding band part of my ring looks incomplete without the engagement part, so I wanted to be sure that I had the engagement ring part close by so that it was a complete set after the wedding.
She could certainly wear the engagement part on her left hand or whatever is comfortable for her. My rings hooked together, so it was easier to that part myself.
Also, she may want to just have the groom slip the wedding ring part on her finger and then wiggle it down into place herself. That’s what I was advised to do so that DH wasn’t struggling to get it on completely.
Congratulations!
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Post by dewryce on May 11, 2023 19:08:03 GMT
I don’t know the answer to your question as I wore a plain gold band and my engagement ring was a separate ring entirely. But I wanted to say congratulations and give you good wishes for a wonderful event!
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Post by bluebird71 on May 11, 2023 19:15:07 GMT
Traditionally, she wears her engagement ring on her right hand for the ceremony.
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Post by MsChiff on May 11, 2023 19:16:40 GMT
I wore mine on my right hand and then slipped it to the left after my DH put my wedding ring on.
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Post by janeinbama on May 11, 2023 19:40:57 GMT
Agree. Right hand for the ceremony. This keeps the bride and groom from fumbling with rings during the ceremony (past wedding coordinator at my church]. Most likely, the photo will make pictures with it on her left hand prior to the wedding.
Congratulations Mother of Groom!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 11, 2023 19:49:21 GMT
No need to beat the horse as you already have your answer, but congratulations! I'm sure it will be a lovely ceremony.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 11, 2023 19:57:05 GMT
And expect him to totally forget and try and put the wedding band on her right hand as he'll see the engagement ring and think that's the correct finger. That's what my husband did and SOOO many people mentioned that their husband did the exact same thing.
ETA and congrats!
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Post by birukitty on May 11, 2023 19:57:56 GMT
I wore my engagement ring, and after he put the wedding band on during the ceremony. I discretely rearranged them as soon as I had a chance. We did a "ring warming" where we passed our rings around (securely tied into a hollowed out book that we used as our ring box) and everyone prayed over them, gave them their blessings, etc. It was my favorite part of our ceremony - watching our friends and family give their support. Anyway, I didn't want to send the engagement ring around, and I think most couples are a little nervous about a lost ring, so the less rings out of sight, the better. I love this tradition of using a book as a ring box, but my curiosity is burning and I have to ask...which book did you choose? |
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Post by scrapmaven on May 11, 2023 20:09:17 GMT
The wedding ring always goes closest to the heart, so if the rings are attached then the engagement ring is worn on the other hand or left off in that moment. My rings were sautered together before I got married. So, that made it easy at the ceremony.
How exciting that this is coming up for you and your son. I'm so happy for you.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on May 11, 2023 20:39:17 GMT
The wedding ring always goes closest to the heart, so if the rings are attached then the engagement ring is worn on the other hand or left off in that moment. My rings were sautered together before I got married. So, that made it easy at the ceremony.
How exciting that this is coming up for you and your son. I'm so happy for you.
I had mine put together `before the ceremony also. My wedding band would look odd without the engagement ring in it, it wraps around the solitaire. |
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Post by scrapngranny on May 11, 2023 20:43:28 GMT
I would say put her engagement ring on her right hand and slip it to the left hand after the wedding ring is on.
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Post by lisae on May 11, 2023 21:18:10 GMT
I think she can do as she wishes. I wore my engagement ring on my left hand as I had for the previous year and then rearranged them after the ceremony. The ring finger of my right hand is considerably larger than the left and I would not have been able to wear the engagement finger on my right hand.
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Post by maryland on May 11, 2023 22:59:51 GMT
I have only heard of getting an engagement ring first, then at the wedding, getting a wedding ring. So wear the engagement ring for the wedding, then adding the wedding ring.
I didn't know some got the engagement ring at the wedding, but it makes sense if it's not in the budget when the couple gets engaged. I got my "engagement" ring after we were married for 10 yrs.! We were saving for a house, so no engagement rings or big wedding.
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Post by Darcy Collins on May 11, 2023 23:09:10 GMT
I have only heard of getting an engagement ring first, then at the wedding, getting a wedding ring. So wear the engagement ring for the wedding, then adding the wedding ring. I didn't know some got the engagement ring at the wedding, but it makes sense if it's not in the budget when the couple gets engaged. I got my "engagement" ring after we were married for 10 yrs.! We were saving for a house, so no engagement rings or big wedding. I think it's very rare for one to get the engagement ring at the wedding. I think most are referencing the decision to put the wedding band on first and then add the engagement ring to that finger so that they can remove the solitaire if/when they need to. At least that's what I'm saying. |
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on May 11, 2023 23:28:00 GMT
Thanks for all the replies!! She has decided (thanks to you!) to wear her engagement ring on her right hand down the aisle and then slip it over to the left after he places the wedding band on.  |
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Post by twistedscissors on May 11, 2023 23:33:10 GMT
My wedding band fits inside my engagement ring. I wore engagement ring on my left hand, DH added wedding band during ceremony. Then after when we had a few minutes I took them off and placed the band inside the engagement ring.
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Post by littlemama on May 11, 2023 23:46:53 GMT
We had mine fused together before the wedding (my wedding ring was a wrap), so I got them together. I think most people dont wear the engagement ring at the wedding, just add it back after
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Post by CeeScraps on May 12, 2023 0:01:17 GMT
I was finger naked for awhile. We had my wedding bands soldered to my engagement ring.
I’d go down naked. He could put both rings on her finger or just the wedding band, then the engagement ring once the ceremony is completed.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on May 15, 2023 14:19:01 GMT
I wore my engagement ring, and after he put the wedding band on during the ceremony. I discretely rearranged them as soon as I had a chance. We did a "ring warming" where we passed our rings around (securely tied into a hollowed out book that we used as our ring box) and everyone prayed over them, gave them their blessings, etc. It was my favorite part of our ceremony - watching our friends and family give their support. Anyway, I didn't want to send the engagement ring around, and I think most couples are a little nervous about a lost ring, so the less rings out of sight, the better. I love this tradition of using a book as a ring box, but my curiosity is burning and I have to ask...which book did you choose? I wanted one hidden Harry Potter touch, so it was Deathly Hallows, and the hollowed out section started with The Wedding chapter title right above the opening. |
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Post by birukitty on May 15, 2023 17:50:16 GMT
I love this tradition of using a book as a ring box, but my curiosity is burning and I have to ask...which book did you choose? I wanted one hidden Harry Potter touch, so it was Deathly Hallows, and the hollowed out section started with The Wedding chapter title right above the opening. As an enormous book lover I this! |
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Post by moodyblue on May 15, 2023 18:00:51 GMT
My engagement ring and wedding band are a set that fit together and the jeweler recommended having them soldered together so that they would always look right rather than separating a bit when on my finger. We chose to do that before the wedding so I didn’t wear anything for a couple days before the wedding.
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Post by Gem Girl on May 15, 2023 19:10:33 GMT
I agree with the "wear on right hand" comments.
Personally, I asked my MIL to hold it for me. She had no daughters, and I wanted her to feel included.
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