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Post by craftedbys on Jun 1, 2023 19:58:10 GMT
As y'all mostly know my 95 year old father had been living with me and my family for the last two years.
On Sunday morning he has a major stroke. And was taken to the hospital by ambulance.
I kept wanting to post but have been shuttling back and forth between the hospital and home to keep things going.
Yesterday it looked as though he could be moving forward to improve enough to go to a nursing/rehab facility.
Today his breathing is labored and he has developed aspiration pneumonia. The doctor was in and basically said this is the end.
We are now moving on to comfort measures.
I have called our church and a priest is on his way to give him Last Rites.
But for now, I am all alone with my dying father.
DH has been up here every day for longer than I have because he knows how hard it has been on me.
I told him not to come up today because I know he needed a break and Dad had been improving.
I guess I am posting now to try to take my mind off of everything.
? Dad has been saying for the last several months he is ready to go and be with my mom (although I think he wanted to pass in his sleep)
So can I selfishly ask for prayers for myself and my family?
This week has been so very hard and not a single person other than DH (and my kids) has asked how ~I~ am doing. I know that it's not about me, but I could use some support.
Apologies for rambling.
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Post by Lori McMud on Jun 1, 2023 20:10:05 GMT
I will add your family and dad to my prayers. I have walked this path and it is hard. Even though you know he is ready and has a long life, it still hurts. I was with my dad (along with my mom) when he passed. It was one of the hardest things I have experience, but I am grateful I was there when his time came. We did not always get along the best, but when push came to shove, he was always there when I needed him.
Hugs to you and may your memories be of comfort to you as you navigate through this.
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Post by katiescarlett on Jun 1, 2023 20:11:18 GMT
I'm so sorry!! ((Hugs)) and prayers for you.
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Post by compeateropeator on Jun 1, 2023 20:12:13 GMT
I am so so sorry. Sending nothing but hugs and good thoughts to you and all those that love him. I know No words will help but want you know that love and support can be found here.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jun 1, 2023 20:12:36 GMT
I am so sorry. I know how hard it is to lose your dad. I pray for a peaceful passing. Blessings to you and your family.
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Post by Ramona on Jun 1, 2023 20:14:04 GMT
Prayers for you, Craftedbys, and your family. This is a very hard situation, there are no right or wrongs on how you feel or handle things. Your DH will be there to comfort you. Please feel free to continue to let us know on how you are doing.
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Post by gillyp on Jun 1, 2023 20:15:11 GMT
You are not rambling and you are not selfish. You deserve support and I hope the words you will read from Peas only too willing to be 'with' you, will help you feel some peace as you face this with your dad. I send you my very best thoughts for ease and peace for you both and for your DH and family.
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Post by angieh1996 on Jun 1, 2023 20:16:26 GMT
I am so sorry about your dad. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I pray for peace for all of you.
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Post by nightnurse on Jun 1, 2023 20:16:32 GMT
I am sorry. What a hard thing to go through. And yes, it IS about you, too. It’s physically and emotionally exhausting, and such a mix of emotions. Geriatrics has been my specialty most of my career and in my experience, most elders are not as well cared for as your dad. Being able to spend the last years of his life at home is such a gift you’ve given him. I hope knowing you did all you could-and more!-gives you some comfort. I hope his passing is peaceful for you both.
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Post by stormsts on Jun 1, 2023 20:19:34 GMT
I am so sorry! I will add you to my prayers. I hope his passing is peaceful.
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Post by gar on Jun 1, 2023 20:21:53 GMT
I’m so sorry, my thoughts are with you ((hugs))
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Post by MZF on Jun 1, 2023 20:32:03 GMT
I'm sorry ((hugs)) to you and your family.
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Post by disneypal on Jun 1, 2023 20:40:04 GMT
So can I selfishly ask for prayers for myself and my family? Of course - I will be praying for your family (and it isn't selfish at all to ask for prayers). I'm so sorry, I know how hard it is.
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Post by flanz on Jun 1, 2023 20:41:30 GMT
Sending you lots of love. A thought... your dad may be waiting to hear you let him know it's okay to let go, that you'll be alright. xoxo
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Post by GamGam on Jun 1, 2023 20:44:52 GMT
I am so sorry 😢. May your Dad pass peacefully, and May the angels escort him into paradise.
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Post by Sue on Jun 1, 2023 20:46:26 GMT
I'm so sorry that your father's time here with you is coming to an end. I wish you peace and comfort in the hard days ahead and a peaceful passing for your Dad.
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Post by putabuttononit on Jun 1, 2023 20:55:01 GMT
I’m so sorry! Praying for your comfort and for his peace and pain-free end of life. My dad is terminally ill and I know this is coming. I’m so sad for you and all you’re going through 💔
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 1, 2023 20:55:32 GMT
I am sorry. It's really hard.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 1, 2023 21:06:12 GMT
I’m so sorry. Big hugs and prayers for your family.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 1, 2023 21:09:34 GMT
Sending a hug of support.
May he passed in his sleep and find peace.
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Post by Lexica on Jun 1, 2023 21:11:16 GMT
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. And please, it is NEVER selfish to ask for prayers and support. You will be in my prayers and I hope the end for your father is peaceful.
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Post by gensmith on Jun 1, 2023 21:11:20 GMT
I’m so very sorry to hear about your Dad. Sending hugs to him, you and your family . We care how you are doing. Come and talk anytime you need to.
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Post by danalz on Jun 1, 2023 21:14:31 GMT
You are not selfish at all. I walked your journey two months ago with my mom. It's hard, painful and exhausting. Give yourself some grace and ask for the hugs and support you need. Thinking of you during this difficult time.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 1, 2023 21:17:16 GMT
I’m so sorry Hugs
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Jun 1, 2023 21:19:50 GMT
How are you doing? This is a difficult time. What helped for us was to let our loved ones know it is okay to rest. Let them know you will all be fine. Sometimes, a loved one doesn’t pass until everyone is out of the room for a few minutes. Don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for help.
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Post by canadianlinda on Jun 1, 2023 21:22:37 GMT
I’m so sorry. I hope your Father passes peacefully. Hugs for you, I know this isn’t easy.
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Post by TXMary on Jun 1, 2023 21:25:19 GMT
I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is to lose your dad. Prayers for him and for you. You are not being selfish. It's one of the hardest things in life and it's exhausting. Take care of yourself and reach out when you need to. Hugs.
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Post by scraphappy0501 on Jun 1, 2023 21:26:02 GMT
I'm so sorry! Sending prayers for peace and comfort for you, your dad and your family.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 1, 2023 21:26:05 GMT
It isn't selfish at all. Hugs and prayers to you during this very hard time.
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Post by lisae on Jun 1, 2023 21:33:39 GMT
You are not at all selfish. Both of my parents passed with this same condition. I'm very sorry. I hope it is as peaceful as possible.
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