MDscrapaholic
Drama Llama
Refupea #146
Posts: 6,342
Location: Down by the bay....
Jun 25, 2014 20:49:07 GMT
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jun 1, 2023 21:46:24 GMT
Big hugs as you go through this. Your Dad was one of the lucky ones in that you opened your home and your life to him. May the days ahead be peaceful for both him and you.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 1, 2023 21:47:58 GMT
I’m very sorry to read this. I wish you and yours peace.
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Post by brynn on Jun 1, 2023 22:03:09 GMT
You and your family will be in my prayers. May your father pass peacefully.
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Post by Texas Scrap on Jun 1, 2023 22:05:57 GMT
I am so sorry! Praying for you and your family.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jun 1, 2023 22:25:09 GMT
Prayers today and in the coming days. Take care of yourself. He would want you to.
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Post by gramasue on Jun 1, 2023 22:35:06 GMT
Prayers said, and hugs sent.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 1, 2023 22:40:03 GMT
Sending you lots of love. A thought... your dad may be waiting to hear you let him know it's okay to let go, that you'll be alright. xoxo This is often the case. I told my DS his wife and kids would be ok if he wanted to go... He had had a long time suffering.. Wishing you peace and comfort in you choices.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jun 1, 2023 22:55:11 GMT
I am so sorry. This must come as a shock because it did for us as well when Mother died. Please take gentle care of yourself and be kind to yourself. These are both musts. I am just so sorry.
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Post by gryroagain on Jun 1, 2023 23:03:15 GMT
Im so sorry. I lost my dad 3 years ago after a brain bleed from a fall, that was after a series of issues stemming from a stroke 7 years prior. He was not going to recover and his directive was very clear, so we let him go because that is what he wanted. It was really hard- really really hard. I am so glad I was able to be there though, and you are blessed for this too. As hard as it is to watch them slip away there will be peace being there with him for the end.
Take the time to grieve and process, lean on your husband and family. It’s really hard, and reach out for those who will help you. Imagine the biggest hug ever coming thru the screen for you- I wish I could in person.
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peasquared
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,435
Jul 6, 2014 23:59:59 GMT
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Post by peasquared on Jun 1, 2023 23:03:16 GMT
I am so very sorry. I lost my dad last summer; I know how hard it is. Even when you know it may be coming. I'm keeping both you and your dad in my prayers. I believe wholeheartedly in what flanz said. It seemed like my dad was waiting to hear my sister and I say we would take care of our mom, that it was okay if he had to leave. Please remember, we are here for you, always!
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 1, 2023 23:06:17 GMT
I'm sorry you're going through this, it must be so hard. I am sending you all my good thoughts, and wishing peace for you all.
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Post by FrozenPea on Jun 1, 2023 23:12:40 GMT
I am so sorry. Wishing you and him peace.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 1, 2023 23:45:46 GMT
oh my goodness, you need a hug. I’m so sorry about your dad. Sending wishes for peace and comfort to him and to you.
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Post by twinks on Jun 2, 2023 0:07:54 GMT
Sending you a big hug. I am so very sorry. You must be exhausted. Take care of yourself. I will be praying for your Dad, you and your family.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 2, 2023 0:08:09 GMT
Watching a parent decline and die is difficult. I hope there's some peace in the process for you both.
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Post by mom on Jun 2, 2023 0:31:48 GMT
How are you doing? Can we do anything for you to make his a slight bit easier?
I am sorry for your dads decline. Take care of yourself. We are here to support you.
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hutchfan
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,090
Jul 6, 2016 16:42:12 GMT
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Post by hutchfan on Jun 2, 2023 0:41:49 GMT
Very sorry that you are going through this, sending hugs to you, saying prayers for your dad and family.
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Post by quietgirl on Jun 2, 2023 1:54:58 GMT
I'm sorry about your dad
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scrapngranny
Pearl Clutcher
Only slightly senile
Posts: 4,762
Jun 25, 2014 23:21:30 GMT
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Post by scrapngranny on Jun 2, 2023 2:38:56 GMT
I will pray for comfort and peace for family. Tell your dad how much you love him and will miss him, but that it okay to let go. I told my dad that mom was waiting for him and that we will all be okay if he was ready to go see her. When he finally took his last breath it was very peaceful. I was glad to be alone with him and holding his hand. I pray you are able to get to a place to know he was ready for Heavenly Peace.
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Post by worrywart on Jun 2, 2023 2:40:05 GMT
I'm so sorry. Prayers for you, your dad and your family. It is hard but try to take care of yourself (((hugs)))
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 2, 2023 2:46:25 GMT
I’m so very sorry. Sending you and your family wishes for peace and comfort. ((hugs))
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 2, 2023 2:49:35 GMT
This is unbelievably stressful and sad. You'll get through this and you'll grieve and heal, but right now it's exhausting both physically and emotionally. Make sure that you're taking breaks to rest. The nurses are taking good care of your dad and you need to take care of yourself, so that you don't get sick. ((((HUGS)))). My thoughts are w/you and your dad.
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Post by craftedbys on Jun 2, 2023 3:06:59 GMT
Thank y'all for such love and support. It gives me comfort knowing I am being lifted up by the Peas.
I went back and forth all afternoon after DH got to the hospital to be with me if I should stay or leave.
Part of me doesn't want him to pass alone, but I just don't know if I have the emotional strength to be there.
I still have some guilt about not sitting next to my mom when i knew she was close to death, but instead sat in the other room and just kept checking on her. One of the last times i checked on her, I held her hand and told her I loved her and promised to take care of my Dad and that she could go. She passed a short time later before I went back in.
I finally decided that I would treat it like every other night for the last six months. He wanted me to help him get ready and get in bed and tuck him in. He didn't need the help, but wanted me there. So every night I would tuck the covers up around him and tell him to have a good night and that I would see him in the morning.
So right before seven this evening I gave his hand a squeeze so he would open his eyes. I pulled his blankets up and stroked his head and gave him a kiss on the cheek like I have done a million times in my life and told him I lo e him and would see him in the morning, and if he needed to go during the night I understood and would see him again one day.
As I turned to walk out the door I hear DH tell my had that he would take care of me and make sure I would be ok.
I am going to turn my phone off; the hospital had DH's number and will call him if anything happens.
I will decide tomorrow if I am going to go back to the hospital or not.
Thank you again for all of the love.
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mimima
Drama Llama
Stay Gold, Ponyboy
Posts: 5,015
Jun 25, 2014 19:25:50 GMT
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Post by mimima on Jun 2, 2023 4:05:21 GMT
Oh, oh, oh. Huge hugs and prayers as you are with him in this sacred time. Hugs
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Jun 2, 2023 4:14:59 GMT
We also never said goodbye. Instead, we said “see you soon”. Mil really appreciated it.
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Chinagirl828
Drama Llama
Melbourne, Australia
Posts: 6,466
Jun 28, 2014 6:28:53 GMT
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Post by Chinagirl828 on Jun 2, 2023 6:32:33 GMT
Sending gentle thoughts to you, your father, and your family as you go through this difficult time.
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Post by auntiepeas on Jun 2, 2023 6:59:24 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending up prayers for comfort and peace.
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RedSquirrelUK
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,730
Location: The UK's beautiful West Country
Aug 2, 2014 13:03:45 GMT
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jun 2, 2023 8:14:25 GMT
Prayers sent, for peace, strength, courage and healthy grieving.
I was with my dad when he died and it was the single most agonising thing I have ever done. I don't know you, and I want to gather you up in my arms and give you a cuddle. God bless you all.
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Post by busy on Jun 2, 2023 10:44:44 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by auntkelly on Jun 2, 2023 12:00:15 GMT
I’m thinking of you. I will say prayers for you and your father.
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