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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 5, 2023 8:20:07 GMT
Saturday morning I lost my lifelong friend and partner, the love of my life and husband, Will, to cancer. He fought it for more than four years and his body finally said enough and sadly he had to leave us. Half of me is missing and I will never be the same. After 53 years of marriage, living without him is going to be rough and I am not sure I can do it. I keep expecting him to be over there in his chair, or coming down the hall and I almost see him out of the corner of my eye. But, he is not there. I know I will continue to miss him for the rest of my life and look forward to the time we meet again. Will had prostate cancer and it made the last four years of his 81 years a misery. He hung on to see his daughter through Breast Cancer and to learn of his grandson starting high school. the last three or four days were spend in the hospital being kept comfortable under hospice but between one minute and the next he slipped away from us. My daughters (ages 51 and 48) are really taking this hard. I think for myself I am just numb. I was his caretaker the last four years, giving him his meds and pain pills and doing all I could to keep him comfortable. Now I don't know what to do with myself. My family and friends will have to help me figure it out.
Tomorrow we go to the funeral home to choose his casket and to discuss with them the last tasks we can do for him here on earth. I have his favorite Westerm suit out for him to wear, and need to find his boots. They called and wanted to know if we wanted the awesome white beard shaved off and I was horrified - - no never! He had a thick santa claus white beard even after all these years of fighting cancer and it is going to stay! Please be sure to insist your loved loved ones do not skip the cancer check ups they should be getting. Getting a prostate check up is not comfortable, but it needs doing.
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Post by sunshine on Jun 5, 2023 8:27:21 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
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Chinagirl828
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Post by Chinagirl828 on Jun 5, 2023 8:31:09 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Zee on Jun 5, 2023 8:33:55 GMT
I'm so sorry 😥
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Jun 5, 2023 8:43:07 GMT
Big hugs!!! I am very sorry for your loss
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Post by compeateropeator on Jun 5, 2023 8:53:18 GMT
I am so so sorry for your immense loss. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.
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sueg
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Post by sueg on Jun 5, 2023 8:57:55 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending my prayers to you and your family.
Take care of yourself in this difficult time. Of course you are feeling numb and lost. Allow others to help you and give yourself the time to grieve.
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Jun 5, 2023 9:01:22 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family x
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 5, 2023 9:07:49 GMT
So very sorry for the loss of your beloved Will. May you and your family find peace and comfort during the difficult days days ahead.
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Post by KelleeM on Jun 5, 2023 9:10:41 GMT
I’m so very sorry for your tremendous loss.
There are other widows here, including me, who understand much of what you are currently, and will continue to, going through. Lean on us and everyone here. There are many things I could say to you right now but they won’t help in this moment, this week or maybe even in the next year.
Sending you hugs and strength to get through the next days as you lay your beloved husband to rest.
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Post by corinne11 on Jun 5, 2023 9:13:36 GMT
So very sorry for your loss.
I totally agree with you regarding telling every man of a certain age to get tested regularly. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer a few years ago. As he had always had regular check ups ( he was 59) it was detected early enough to choose the path he wanted to go regarding treatment as luckily it had not spread too far. As he was considered relatively young he was offered different options- pellets, radiation which had the least side effects. The doctors told us that it can be a slow process and many men die of old age rather than the cancer itself.
However, he decided he wanted it removed as soon as possible, so the surgery was done remotely via a Robotic Prostatectomy. It was really strange to think that the surgeon was sitting in the corner of the theatre at a computer.
He was kept in hospital for a day and then came home with a catheter for a few days. His recovery was reasonably pain free with few complications.
Life is a bit different but we consider ourselves so lucky to have had the choice, have the surgery available so quickly and our medical health here in Australia covered most of the cost.
Corinne
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Post by fruitysuet on Jun 5, 2023 9:30:36 GMT
I'm so sorry to read this. I can't imagine how difficult this is for you. All those years together. Many memories. They may not comfort you now, but I hope they do some time in the future. Take care.
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Post by JoP on Jun 5, 2023 9:31:46 GMT
I’m so terribly sorry for your loss 💔, I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by atomicdog on Jun 5, 2023 9:34:50 GMT
I'm so, so very sorry. Offering up prayers of comfort for you.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jun 5, 2023 9:39:18 GMT
I’m so so sorry. Sending my deepest sympathies to you and your family. 😞
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Post by littlemama on Jun 5, 2023 9:41:07 GMT
Im so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for peace and comfort for all who loved him.
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Post by leannec on Jun 5, 2023 9:52:00 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss! Big hugs to you and your family ...
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Post by gar on Jun 5, 2023 9:57:43 GMT
I’m so very sorry 😞
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Post by karenlou on Jun 5, 2023 10:02:37 GMT
So very sorry for your loss... Love and Prayers to you and yours
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Post by *sprout* on Jun 5, 2023 10:07:25 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jun 5, 2023 10:08:47 GMT
My condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by peasapie on Jun 5, 2023 10:24:08 GMT
My heart is with you today, with sincere sympathy and hopes that you have lots of support around you. I hope the love you shared for so many years will surround you now.
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Post by winniegirl on Jun 5, 2023 10:25:05 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Jun 5, 2023 10:32:23 GMT
I'm so sorry. May his Memory be Eternal.
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Post by destined2bmom on Jun 5, 2023 10:33:51 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Please accept my deepest sympathies.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 5, 2023 10:43:58 GMT
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Losing your partner of 53 years is devastating, I'm sure. I will keep the two of you in my prayers. ❤️
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Post by GamGam on Jun 5, 2023 10:49:43 GMT
I am so very sorry to read of your loss. May the angels escort him into Paradise and give you gentle comfort.
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Orangutan
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Post by Orangutan on Jun 5, 2023 10:52:24 GMT
I’m so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself the best you can.
We are also a couple of years into the prostate cancer journey so news like this always scares me.
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Post by paperaddictedpea on Jun 5, 2023 10:57:35 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Sharon on Jun 5, 2023 10:57:50 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss.
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