What would you expect - Update

Just allow them to bring their own food as you would do elsewhere, don’t take it personally and leave it at that. Just have a good visit and good conversations and be gracious with each others choices

That’s what we do.

Yes, not everyone is gracious about that and some people get all hurt if you won’t eat their food. It’s a real pain in the ass when people wont just accept a simple ‘no thank you’. Some people have to quiz you or trick you or make a big deal out if it. That’s a short rd to me not socializing with that person again.

Some food requirements are medically necessary and even cross contact with the problematic food can cause medical issues. Each person needs to be able to make their own food choices take or not take what ever risks without judgement or stigma at social events.

That was very rude of them to say that. Would I think that? Probably. I'm a picky eater. If I knew you well enough I might say that I was willing to try anything but would ask if you would be offended if I did not clean my plate or something like that. I don't care how it is prepared some foods are just not to one's taste at all. You said that you bring your own food to other people's gatherings. That may offend them.

I'm not really sure. To be perfectly honest, I would probably avoid an all vegan meal because I truly hate beans and am not fond of several of the things on your menu. I realize this isn't the PC response but it is how I feel about food. I have gone to dinners or events and tried things I knew I would not like to avoid offending the hosts.

I have to be honest, this would piss me off and I would probably uninvite them. 

However, trying to be the better person I would realize that I also bring my own food to their events and they seem to be ok with it; so maybe I should extend them the same grace? 

It's more the comment and the way it seems to have been delivered than the actual bringing of food that would put me off. 

They are incredibly rude. If they didnt want to come, they could decline or they could bring a dish that they would want to eat, much as you do when you go to gatherings.

I agree that they are being rude. But I also wouldn't be bothered by the comment because the issues of veganism, vegetarianism and any specialized diet can bring out the awful in people on both sides of the equation. Let's be real, there are some crazy, militant vegans out there who want to preach and convert and make their dietary choices the center of attention. It's the same for keto. And gluten free. And dairy free. Substitute your eating style of choice. And by this point in our lives, most of us have also been subjected to a lot of "you are going to love these gluten free dairy free sugar free smores cookie bars, they taste just like the real thing!" to know that sometimes some particular substitutions are not to our taste. Obviously that doesn't excuse rudeness and most of us will gratefully eat the dishes we are served at gatherings and keep our thoughts to ourselves. Among close friends, I think there is some leeway to be honest and to make jokes but that also doesn't work for everyone in every situation. And your friends should know you well enough to know what's okay to tease about and what isn't.

My friend and family groups have seemingly every possible eating style - vegans, vegetarians, omnivores, gluten free, dairy free, pescatarians, keto, only eat poultry, don't eat anything with legs including some crustaceans but other fish are okay... it could be a minefield, right? But it's not because everyone is pretty much go with the flow. When people are entertaining, they seem to have the most success with dishes that aren't trying to be substitutes for anything. Lentil chili was a flop but taco soup was a win. Oil and vinegar based picnic salads vs. ones made with vegan mayo, etc. Berries are great for summer gatherings because even people on low carb or keto diets can eat them. And some foods are universal like grilled veggies, hummus, salsa, veggie trays, etc. Cauliflower and zucchini may be the two most useful foods in the world when trying to make something so delicious that everyone loves and will eat, lol! I'm definitely not trying to tell you how to entertain - you should do whatever makes you happy since you're the host! - I'm just offering some suggestions that work for our gatherings that make dietary styles/choices not an issue.

I would happily take their place and eat everything you are planning on preparing, and I'm not vegan or vegetarian.

I would expect a vegan meal. That meal sounds delicious. I assume they think that they won't feel full and satisfied so will need a meat burger after. They can stop at McDonald's if they want, just don't tell anyone! Rude idiots.

I would never expect a vegan to make me a meal with meat. Your meal sounds delicious. If I was hungry on the way home, I'd stop somewhere. I would never say that to a host. However, I can see many people saying this thinking that it wouldn't be offensive since so many people crave/need meat to feel full. I would reserve that anger for their comments at the meal though. The comment about Mc Donalds seems insensitive. Comments about the meal while they are at your house would earn them a banning from future meals though. It just seems like a really rude thing to do.

I thought the comment was very rude. I’m not vegan but I make lots of bean soups in winter, chickpea curry over rice, pasta and bean salads that are in fact vegan.

If I was going to a Vegan friend’s house for a meal, I would only expect to be served Vegan food.

However, not everyone enjoys vegan food, so if they wanted to go to McD’s after, that’s their business but they should keep their mouth shut about it.  That’s just rude to say something like that to someone who invited you to dinner.

Thank you scrappinghappy!

It wasn’t a hit against the food choice but the food quality.
A home cooked meal (whether plant based, meat based, or any other kind of natural based) is higher quality than fast food. (Especially one from an un-originated place (Ok yes, the movie The Founder triggered me)

I’ve bagged groceries a ton over the past 5 years and some of those customers have become good friends.
I don’t judge our friendship over their food choices even though they aren’t my own.
And they don’t judge me over mine.

Is that really a thing?

I’m judging the friends of the OP because I think they were being inconsiderate and disrespectful.

Have food choices become a such a sensitive topic to discuss?
Maybe I shouldn’t touch on it any more if it’s become political because I don’t know how to navigate through those discussions.

I think I’ll just stick with my numbers because that I do know my way around and I don’t mind being judged on that.