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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 23, 2023 22:13:09 GMT
Zero. While we have a guest room, I’d rather not have guests. There are plenty of hotels close to us of varying price ranges so they can get a room. We also do not stay with relatives/friends we we travel, getting a hotel room instead. I really need my quiet down time which having a hotel affords me.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 23, 2023 22:19:22 GMT
I don't love having guests because I keep weird hours and also because there are people living in all the rooms here so guests mean requiring kids to move (which I do, but everyone sleeps less well). We can get about 3-4 people in by consolidating like that, assuming the 3-4 people don't mind sharing two connected rooms and a bathroom.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 23, 2023 22:21:27 GMT
I don't love having guests because I keep weird hours and also because there are people living in all the rooms here so guests mean requiring kids to move (which I do, but everyone sleeps less well). We can get about 3-4 people in by consolidating like that, assuming the 3-4 people don't mind sharing two connected rooms and a bathroom. When I was growing up, I had the room with the queen sized bed, so I was always tossed out when we had company. It made me very aware of what I did with my own kids when we had company.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 23, 2023 22:33:49 GMT
I don't love having guests because I keep weird hours and also because there are people living in all the rooms here so guests mean requiring kids to move (which I do, but everyone sleeps less well). We can get about 3-4 people in by consolidating like that, assuming the 3-4 people don't mind sharing two connected rooms and a bathroom. When I was growing up, I had the room with the queen sized bed, so I was always tossed out when we had company. It made me very aware of what I did with my own kids when we had company. I basically grew up a martian (my parents had no friends, there no relatives on my dad's side and my mother was always estranged from some of her family and often estranged from the rest) so I always feel like I lack perspective on what is and isn't reasonable to do--we never once had a visitor.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 23, 2023 22:36:53 GMT
When I was growing up, I had the room with the queen sized bed, so I was always tossed out when we had company. It made me very aware of what I did with my own kids when we had company. I basically grew up a martian (my parents had no friends, there no relatives on my dad's side and my mother was always estranged from some of her family and often estranged from the rest) so I always feel like I lack perspective on what is and isn't reasonable to do--we never once had a visitor. I think that is okay too. We didn't have a ton of company, but I was kicked out a few times a year. Do you like having company now or do you prefer to have a less people-y house?
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 23, 2023 22:38:14 GMT
I checked zero. We do not currently have our spare room set up with a bed. We could get an air mattress if necessary.
But no, I don't want overnight guests. Most family lives close and/or has other places they could stay. If my sister needed to, she totally could.
Otherwise, just no. Now when dd is out of the house, she and her future spouse/partner are always welcome.
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Post by milocat on Jul 23, 2023 23:23:17 GMT
I'd be comfortable with up to 4 people staying with me. But I have no room for anyone. We live in Timbuktoo so it would have to be an option since the nearest nice hotel is an hour away. People who come stay at my mom's as she's got 2 spare beds and bedrooms.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 23, 2023 23:33:57 GMT
I answered 7-10 because we have had at least that many in the last year. We had eight adults and three children for Christmas week last year. Last week I had three girlfriends one night. Right now a daughter in law and two grandsons are here for two weeks. And while they are here, a girlfriend will be here for two nights next week. Heck, we’re grand central station here half the time. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. My husband, bless his heart, embraces my notion of hospitality and rolls with the plans.
We have two dedicated guest rooms each with a queen size bed. There’s also an office that can accommodate an inflatable mattress. Then there’s the couch and space to tuck other inflatables in various rooms.
The only thing that limits how many people at once and for how long is more what our guests are willing to tolerate. If you don’t mind piling in and sharing, then come on!
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Post by justkat on Jul 24, 2023 0:08:22 GMT
For me it would 100% depend on who the people are....close family/close friends no limit...general family/friends eh probably no more than 8 people....just kids 4 at a time lol...shrug it's hard to say in general terms but I'm usually a more the merrier type person
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Post by whipea on Jul 24, 2023 0:13:34 GMT
None. Do not like having people over that much, especially overnight. Have enough of people all week at work and enjoy my isolation and peace when I am home.
Also, dislike having to wear a bra in the house and having my space disrupted. Have plenty of room, just two of us and have five bedrooms and five bathrooms so space is not an issue.
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Post by Gem Girl on Jul 24, 2023 0:21:57 GMT
The only thing that limits how many people at once and for how long is more what our guests are willing to tolerate. If you don’t mind piling in and sharing, then come on! Not the first time I've wished I lived nearer to you and that we could be friends. You're just always reasonable, easy-going, and fun.
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Post by gotranch on Jul 24, 2023 0:23:44 GMT
I have enough bedrooms and beds to sleep 9 extra people in good comfortable beds. I love company and visitors! My dds tease me about how many extra beds I have, but I come from an extremely large family and want them to come visit me. They all live far enough away that an overnight stay is necessary because of travel distance.
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Post by Gem Girl on Jul 24, 2023 0:30:40 GMT
I voted 0, because that's a long time to "want" to. If needed, I guess it would depend on the circumstances. We're not really set up for overnight visitors.
I am recalling, though, when my mother held a surprise family reunion party for one of her father's significant birthdays. Cousins, aunts, and uncles (many new to me) came from a few states away and stayed for a Friday-Sunday. Since we were children, our bedrooms were conscripted for the cause, but we thought it was great fun to "camp out" in the living room with our newly met cousins who were in our age range. I also recall that people were finding one another a bit less charming by the end of the visit, but that also could have been a case of everybody's being ready to have his/her own space again.
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Post by tampascrapper on Jul 24, 2023 0:48:24 GMT
Since I only have a one bedroom, 1-2 people is enough for me
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 24, 2023 2:13:57 GMT
3-4 if they are couples. 1-2 if not. We have two guest rooms as empty nesters. I wouldn’t want any guests sleeping on a sofa or blow up air mattress.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 24, 2023 2:37:56 GMT
I was in a very small 3 bedroom house and 8 relatives showed up to spend the weekend with me. ...and Monday began the new school year! We all survived.
I am already anxious about 4 guests coming in October.
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Post by mamallama on Jul 24, 2023 3:58:03 GMT
I said 3-4 because I’ve done that with my kids and their SO’s in the past. They are all still young and don’t have kids of their own yet. I love the time I get with them so they can stay as long as they want.
Anyone other than my kids it would be 1-2. My best friend from out of state has been here almost two weeks and I was just joking earlier that we should just be sister wives because have just fallen into a routine like an old married couple. (My DH is out of town so there’s no third wheeling). As far as I’m concerned she could stay as long as she wanted. She was here for just about as long last year but she specifically made the trip to help me purge before a move. So she’s pretty awesome.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 24, 2023 4:34:42 GMT
I voted Oprah because it would depend on which house we’re talking about. At my house in the city, we could accommodate 2-4, up to two in the guest room, up to two more on the futon in the living room. If I absolutely had to, we could also put up to two more in DD’s room and put her on an air bed in the bonus room behind our bedroom.
At the lake cabin it’s a different story. We can easily host up to five in the guest room alone, and could put two more in DD’s room if they didn’t mind bunking together. Our guest room has a king, a queen and a twin, DD’s room has a queen and a twin. Our master has another king bed but we’re not sharing, LOL. If we needed to put up more people we could put a queen air bed in the media room and another in another big lower level room that currently just has a bunch of tables and chairs in it but the people in that room would be getting up REALLY early because we don’t have curtains on the windows in there and it gets the morning sun. And technically someone could sleep on the basement couch too, it’s fairly comfortable. The main floor couch isn’t comfortable to sleep on.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 24, 2023 10:29:07 GMT
The only thing that limits how many people at once and for how long is more what our guests are willing to tolerate. If you don’t mind piling in and sharing, then come on! Not the first time I've wished I lived nearer to you and that we could be friends. You're just always reasonable, easy-going, and fun. Aww, thank you. I bet we’d be good friends!
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Post by hop2 on Jul 24, 2023 10:47:40 GMT
That question is NOT a question of mere numbers. There’s some people who are not welcome in my house at all. There’s people whom I could tolerate for a few days then they’d grate on my nerves. There’s people who could easily stay indefinitely with no real problems.
The length of time anyone can be tolerated is definitely a person to person thing.
I have space for maybe 7-8comfortably staying. But I’m used to living alone now so I’m not eating them here for long. I could in certain circumstances deal with 8 of my favorite people for 7-10 days before I went completely bonkers. Less time if I’m not off work
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 24, 2023 11:28:32 GMT
I have room for 2 individuals or 2 couples. I don't mind most of my friends staying a night or two. It's usually fun.
My son and grandkids come for a week or more. That is fine, because my DS is very independent. He visits friends, drives his son to school and hockey, and also completes his "honey do" list for me!
My former DIL visits, too, but she's a bit more work. She isn't familiar with the area, so is reluctant to drive here. I adore her, so it's all good.
Now that I'm widowed, I refuse to let my in-laws stay with me. Think some smokers, some don't like to bathe, and some are just plain annoying. It's easy to decline them staying with me.
I prefer to stay at a motel, unless it's at my DS's house. I have stayed with friends, but just one night at a time.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 24, 2023 13:30:28 GMT
We've done as many as 12, but that included kids who we could throw on the basement couches. Comfortably we can do 6-8 if the kids are at school 4-6 if they're home.
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 24, 2023 13:37:08 GMT
We have hosted a family of 4 (my niece, her husband an their two boys who were 7 & 3 at the time). They were wonderful guests! However, after 3 full days, I was ready for my space back! LOL
We just had my DH's sister and neice for 6 nights and it was about the same. I was sad to see them go, but also, glad to not have to host anymore. LOL
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Post by Anita on Jul 24, 2023 13:50:13 GMT
I was excited when we bought this house almost two years ago because it was the first time we had an actual spare room for a guest. I've come to regret it. I've had an occasional guest or two who are lovely and stay only a couple of nights, or a night before we leave on a plane. But last year, my mother just showed up unannounced and declared that she was moving in. Took me a month to get rid of her, and it got really ugly. But she's mentally ill and that's a really long story.
My daughter has a group of friends who typically come over almost every weekend. Sometimes just one, sometimes three or four. Mostly they stay in the guest room or on the couch down in the basement. I have no issue with that, but around January one of them just...stayed. After a while, we asked him why he was still in our house. His parents were divorcing, things were up in the air, that sort of thing. We wound up kind of adopting him as a bonus kid. We have had to teach him things like how to do laundry and clean up after himself. He's just now moving out...seven months later. Granted, he has a job and we hardly see him because he was respectful of our time. I'm glad we could be here for him during his transition with his family, but I swear after this, I'm seriously considering turning the guest room into an office because I am just ready to be able to say "Sorry, we don't have room for you!" when someone wants to crash here.
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Post by shanniebananie on Jul 24, 2023 14:03:47 GMT
I have hosted my brother's family of 5, my parents, and my sister and husband at our house for several days twice in the last 10 years. It requires a lot of organization but we have have 5 bedrooms, game room and media room and two patios to spread out. It is a lot of fun, but exhausting.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 24, 2023 16:55:51 GMT
For me it would 100% depend on who the people are....close family/close friends no limit...general family/friends eh probably no more than 8 people....just kids 4 at a time lol...shrug it's hard to say in general terms but I'm usually a more the merrier type person I definitely think this is a variable for many people. When they are someone who hosts you or someone you really enjoy, the number can probably go up.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 24, 2023 17:00:49 GMT
I voted Oprah because it would depend on which house we’re talking about. At my house in the city, we could accommodate 2-4, up to two in the guest room, up to two more on the futon in the living room. If I absolutely had to, we could also put up to two more in DD’s room and put her on an air bed in the bonus room behind our bedroom. At the lake cabin it’s a different story. We can easily host up to five in the guest room alone, and could put two more in DD’s room if they didn’t mind bunking together. Our guest room has a king, a queen and a twin, DD’s room has a queen and a twin. Our master has another king bed but we’re not sharing, LOL. If we needed to put up more people we could put a queen air bed in the media room and another in another big lower level room that currently just has a bunch of tables and chairs in it but the people in that room would be getting up REALLY early because we don’t have curtains on the windows in there and it gets the morning sun. And technically someone could sleep on the basement couch too, it’s fairly comfortable. The main floor couch isn’t comfortable to sleep on. I think that perhaps people are more willing to put up with more people when it isn't their primary residence. My son looked at our company this weekend and said, "Yeah, your home is not kid friendly, that's for sure." I said, "Yeah, you're 27. I feel like you've outgrown that stage." I did shut my scrapbook room and people stayed out of that bedroom.
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Post by peabay on Jul 24, 2023 17:02:41 GMT
totally depends on who they are. When my dds and their partners come? It's 7 people and we just squeeze in. And I'm blissful.
Anyone else? Probably 4 is enough.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 24, 2023 17:04:11 GMT
That question is NOT a question of mere numbers. There’s some people who are not welcome in my house at all. There’s people whom I could tolerate for a few days then they’d grate on my nerves. There’s people who could easily stay indefinitely with no real problems. The length of time anyone can be tolerated is definitely a person to person thing. I have space for maybe 7-8comfortably staying. But I’m used to living alone now so I’m not eating them here for long. I could in certain circumstances deal with 8 of my favorite people for 7-10 days before I went completely bonkers. Less time if I’m not off work Yup, that is why I was asking each pea to comment. The answers were what I expected. I think we are all pretty different. I'd assume people were thinking about who they would allow in their home and not the people who aren't welcome. I have a limit with people I love and want to be around. It really isn't so much a person-to-person thing.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 24, 2023 17:06:41 GMT
I was excited when we bought this house almost two years ago because it was the first time we had an actual spare room for a guest. I've come to regret it. I've had an occasional guest or two who are lovely and stay only a couple of nights, or a night before we leave on a plane. But last year, my mother just showed up unannounced and declared that she was moving in. Took me a month to get rid of her, and it got really ugly. But she's mentally ill and that's a really long story. My daughter has a group of friends who typically come over almost every weekend. Sometimes just one, sometimes three or four. Mostly they stay in the guest room or on the couch down in the basement. I have no issue with that, but around January one of them just...stayed. After a while, we asked him why he was still in our house. His parents were divorcing, things were up in the air, that sort of thing. We wound up kind of adopting him as a bonus kid. We have had to teach him things like how to do laundry and clean up after himself. He's just now moving out...seven months later. Granted, he has a job and we hardly see him because he was respectful of our time. I'm glad we could be here for him during his transition with his family, but I swear after this, I'm seriously considering turning the guest room into an office because I am just ready to be able to say "Sorry, we don't have room for you!" when someone wants to crash here. I think both of situations you described would be really challenging. Having an uninvited guest would be hard no matter how many days.
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