breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Jul 24, 2023 1:18:03 GMT
DH left yesterday morning to take our teenagers to their grandparents for the week (he'll be back this evening) and while it's just DS (9) and I here, I have:
gone to the library, taken DS out to lunch, gone to the grocery store, took DS for sno cones, cleaned my kitchen, did 6 loads of laundry, cleaned off my patio, made ice cream, made a pie, read 200 pages of a book, renewed my car license, ordered DS birthday presents, paid three bills, and researched the $$$ drawer we need replaced in our fridge.
Maybe most of the family should go away more often!
ETA: DS and I (mostly DS) also put together a 900 piece Lego set, I've had laying around since 2019.
Do you suddenly have energy to do all the things when you are (mostly) alone, or is it just me?
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Post by dewryce on Jul 24, 2023 1:24:04 GMT
You’ve been busy!
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Post by ntsf on Jul 24, 2023 2:20:09 GMT
I cleaned out the basement when dh was gone for three weeks.. I plan to do the other half when he is gone 3 weeks in oct. if he was gone one week a month, it would be about right.
just not having to think about meals, etc.. I get so much done.
being retired, I have the time to do this stuff...he used to travel a lot and be gone for weeks. or months occasionally.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Jul 24, 2023 2:32:19 GMT
I’m exhausted from reading about all your hard work! When hubby is away I hoard the remote.
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jul 24, 2023 2:38:51 GMT
I get a lot done without my husband around too. Doesn’t seem to work for him when I am gone though.
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Post by Linda on Jul 24, 2023 2:59:18 GMT
I'm not sure I'm necessarily more productive when he's gone but I'm definitely LESS when he's home sick or taking a day off.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jul 24, 2023 3:03:49 GMT
I get way way more done when DH is out or sleeping. For me, it’s because I don’t want/need an audience while I’m cleaning nor do I want to clean around him.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 24, 2023 3:19:22 GMT
I get a lot done without my husband around too. Doesn’t seem to work for him when I am gone though. Ha ha ha! I could have written this post! I also tend to get a lot more done when DH isn’t home. Especially things that have me running back and forth through the family room tidying up running loads of laundry to and from the laundry room, or noisy things like running my vacuum or my stand mixer. His favorite hobby is watching tv and when he’s home I feel compelled to sit with him (even if I’m not watching) instead of being off somewhere else by myself. |
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Post by Zee on Jul 24, 2023 4:38:55 GMT
I am very productive when he's gone because there is no one to talk to or hang out with so I might as well get other things done.
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Post by katlady on Jul 24, 2023 6:36:12 GMT
I am very productive when he's gone because there is no one to talk to or hang out with so I might as well get other things done. Yes, this! And to the OP, it would take me at least a week, maybe more, to do everything you did in 2 days! 🤣 |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 24, 2023 10:38:21 GMT
just not having to think about meals, etc.. I get so much done. That’s the biggest factor for me. It frees up more of my day to tackle bigger projects without interruption. |
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Post by johnnysmom on Jul 24, 2023 11:06:43 GMT
just not having to think about meals, etc.. I get so much done. That’s the biggest factor for me. It frees up more of my day to tackle bigger projects without interruption. Yep. No worries about what’s for dinner, stopping to eat, working around him if he goes bed early/sleeps in late, etc. I won’t say I’m always productive when he’s gone, it’s just if something is going to happen it’s more likely to be when I have a couple days to do it on my terms. |
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Post by lisae on Jul 24, 2023 11:54:31 GMT
Enjoy your me time and productive time! The first thing I do when DH goes out of town is to clean house because then I get to really enjoy it for days.
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Post by MZF on Jul 24, 2023 12:53:24 GMT
I get a lot done without my husband around too. Doesn’t seem to work for him when I am gone though. Same here. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2023 13:02:37 GMT
YES! THIS! My DH has been working from home since Covid and I keep trying explain that while I adore him, he REALLY needs to start working from his other office again! While he may not be "bothering" me, because I have such a caregiver personality - I always feel like I am "on call" to make sure he is taken care of and that I am not disturbing him. So I try to clean quietly - not interrupt his constant phone calls - keep checking in to see if he wants breakfast...lunch.... - he bounces ideas off of me and likes my input so he does interrupt me for that. My grandmother always joked that when my grandpa retired she HAD to go back to work just to get some space. LOL. (And she did go back to work part time for a printing company for some "mad money".). I get SO much more done when I am home alone.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 24, 2023 13:46:59 GMT
In addition to what I posted earlier, I should add that when my DH has an unexpected day off it totally throws my own schedule into chaos. I usually have an idea of what I want to get accomplished on any given day such as shopping, laundry, office work, cleaning, some sewing project I want to tackle, something I want to bake. Then he announces that he doesn’t have any calls to go out on that day and he has the day off, YAY!!!, and suddenly I find myself doing other things like clearing brush, splitting or stacking firewood, shoveling mulch, whatever happens to be on HIS to do list.  Then he wants to go out for a 2-2.5 hour lunch with friends and asks me if I want to go too. Meanwhile, none of MY stuff gets done and I end up having to reshuffle my whole week to accommodate the lost day.  I don’t know how retired people do it. |
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Post by Linda on Jul 24, 2023 14:00:04 GMT
In addition to what I posted earlier, I should add that when my DH has an unexpected day off it totally throws my own schedule into chaos. I usually have an idea of what I want to get accomplished on any given day such as shopping, laundry, office work, cleaning, some sewing project I want to tackle, something I want to bake. Then he announces that he doesn’t have any calls to go out on that day and he has the day off, YAY!!!, and suddenly I find myself doing other things like clearing brush, splitting or stacking firewood, shoveling mulch, whatever happens to be on HIS to do list.  Then he wants to go out for a 2-2.5 hour lunch with friends and asks me if I want to go too. Meanwhile, none of MY stuff gets done and I end up having to reshuffle my whole week to accommodate the lost day.  I don’t know how retired people do it. YES - this is exactly. I have a loose plan of what I want to get done and then he's sleeping in, watching tv while I was planning to vacuum, wants to go out and get a leisurely lunch, etc... and it completely throws me off. |
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Post by smartypants71 on Jul 24, 2023 14:00:12 GMT
DH is fly fishing in Iceland right now. I don't have any projects to complete, but I have definitely notice that I am not having to pick up around the house as much. I've also noticed that I eat way less (he's a snacker)!
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Post by maryland on Jul 24, 2023 14:09:26 GMT
My husband used to travel a lot for work and I would get so much done! Not having to cook and being able to leave a mess while working on a project were what helped. Then he would conme home and the house would look great! He got a new job and he never travels anymore as he has his sales people do that now. So our house is way behind, haha!
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jul 24, 2023 14:28:38 GMT
In addition to what I posted earlier, I should add that when my DH has an unexpected day off it totally throws my own schedule into chaos. I usually have an idea of what I want to get accomplished on any given day such as shopping, laundry, office work, cleaning, some sewing project I want to tackle, something I want to bake. Then he announces that he doesn’t have any calls to go out on that day and he has the day off, YAY!!!, and suddenly I find myself doing other things like clearing brush, splitting or stacking firewood, shoveling mulch, whatever happens to be on HIS to do list. Then he wants to go out for a 2-2.5 hour lunch with friends and asks me if I want to go too. Meanwhile, none of MY stuff gets done and I end up having to reshuffle my whole week to accommodate the lost day. I don’t know how retired people do it. YES!!! Every once in a great while DH wakes up on a weekend with an agenda of things he wants to do to "get it done". Yet the things on my list the he needs to take care of for weeks/months are rarely if ever on his agenda.  |
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Jul 24, 2023 14:40:26 GMT
DH has worked from home since April of 2020... he's ALWAYS here. I get to experience all the work phone calls live and in person, the rants about co-workers whenever he needs to rant, and I can't vacuum or use noisy appliances when he has a call (Thursday that was the entire day.) My house was much cleaner before he worked from home.
And whoever said when their DH takes a day off, it throws off their entire week... YES!
He's home now, and back at work, so back to the regular DH-centric schedule.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 24, 2023 15:28:45 GMT
I get so much done when dh is out of town.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 24, 2023 15:49:03 GMT
I pull out the bleach spray and clean. Dh is very sensitive to bleach and I don't have elbow grease. So, when he's gone I can clean and then he doesn't have to do it later. I know. I'm boring. breetheflea, you've had an unbuilt lego since 2019?  More fun. Less work. Can that be a motto for you? |
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Jul 24, 2023 15:51:32 GMT
I'm the opposite. When no one is here I turn into a slug. Dh was gone this past weekend and I watch TV and drank wine. Then I feel low because I got nothing done.
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Jul 24, 2023 16:05:43 GMT
I pull out the bleach spray and clean. Dh is very sensitive to bleach and I don't have elbow grease. So, when he's gone I can clean and then he doesn't have to do it later. I know. I'm boring. breetheflea , you've had an unbuilt lego since 2019? More fun. Less work. Can that be a motto for you? It's a Harry Potter set. I didn't have a place to put it until recently... It now is at home next to the Hogwarts Express  |
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Post by scrappert on Jul 24, 2023 17:31:41 GMT
I am also very productive when no one is around. That is how I prefer to do all the cleaning!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 24, 2023 22:51:56 GMT
I pull out the bleach spray and clean. Dh is very sensitive to bleach and I don't have elbow grease. So, when he's gone I can clean and then he doesn't have to do it later. I know. I'm boring. breetheflea , you've had an unbuilt lego since 2019? More fun. Less work. Can that be a motto for you? I’m almost embarrassed to say I have two, the Disney train and 100 Acre Wood.  |
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Then he wants to go out for a 2-2.5 hour lunch with friends and asks me if I want to go too.
I don’t know how retired people do it.
Then he wants to go out for a 2-2.5 hour lunch with friends and asks me if I want to go too.
I don’t know how retired people do it.
