johnnysmom
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Post by johnnysmom on Jul 27, 2023 11:31:19 GMT
I haven’t read all the responses yet….but here’s what I’ve seen with ds22 dating a Catholic girl since they were 15/16 (not sure how devout but he’s gone to mass with her many times, not just Christmas/Easter).
They use birth control. She’s been on the pill and at least for awhile there they doubled up with condoms. She’s very pro-life so in the event of bc failure there’s no option other than becoming parents. That said they’re not sure they ever want kids.
There has been talk of marriage but no timeline or proposal. They will marry in her church if/when the time comes.
She goes to college about an hour away. Ds just transferred to that college and now they each live in one bedroom apartments about 2 blocks from each other. I don’t particularly want them to live together yet (I went from my parents house straight to living with now dh and have always encouraged my kids to live alone first) I’m still surprised they don’t live together. Ds has never said why they didn’t choose to live together, just that they don’t want to yet 🤷🏻♀️They spend the night at each others places, and he’s stayed the night many times at her parents’ house, in her bedroom with her and her parents are ok with that.
She has college and career goals, settling down, getting married and having kids is not her priority.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 28, 2023 15:15:03 GMT
My husband is a devout Catholic. I was raised a Southern Baptist.
I attend Mass with my husband and we raised our kids Catholic. There have been many times that our religious differences have been a source of conflict in our marriage. However we've made it work for 34 years.
I don't think your daughter should assume that her boyfriend is a cafeteria Catholic unless he has told her that. I think she should also be aware that he might become more devout as he ages or when he becomes a parent. There are a lot of devout Catholics in my area, which isn't surprising since I live in a very conservative part of the country.
Also, there is a large Traditional Latin Rite Parish near me. Those families tend to home school their children and live a very conservative lifestyle, centered around the church.
I think it is great that your daughter and her boyfriend are talking about these issues and I hope they continue to do so. The marriage preparation classes the Catholic Church offers are good, but I think you have to be engaged to take them. I think that's a little late to be discussing some of the more important religious issues for the first time.
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Jun 1, 2024 22:16:07 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Aug 23, 2023 13:15:53 GMT
Update and thanks in OP
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