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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2014 14:32:41 GMT
Stop caring about what they say.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2014 14:33:19 GMT
I think you should not try to censor yourself...just let it fly. Tell them what a jerk they are AND THEN come right back here and tell us all about the explosion Yes yes, and bonus points if you can get a picture of everyone's reaction. Threads are useless without pictures.
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Loydene
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Post by Loydene on Dec 14, 2014 15:46:56 GMT
I've always done a pretty decent job of not showing my real feelings, but recently it's gotten more difficult for me to keep my thoughts to myself. Dh and I have noticed that my inner filter isn't working. I've noticed that I've become more brutally honest about things, Frankly -- and I don't mean to be snarky, but real concern -- I think your statement of is greater concern than being civil to the person. Why is it more difficult to keep your thoughts to yourself ?? why isn't your inner filter working?? why are you more "brutally honest"?? I would be concerned about some underlying medical issue. Hope that you are basically okay ...
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georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Dec 14, 2014 15:56:47 GMT
When I can't stand what is going on around me, I unplug. I wear audio enhancement devices in both ears. You might be able to get away with wearing an earplug and saying "I've some sort of inner ear disorder tonight, I can't hear a thing".
Or send messages to us here about everything she does and says!
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scorpeao
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Jun 25, 2014 21:04:54 GMT
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Post by scorpeao on Dec 14, 2014 15:57:58 GMT
I've always done a pretty decent job of not showing my real feelings, but recently it's gotten more difficult for me to keep my thoughts to myself. Dh and I have noticed that my inner filter isn't working. I've noticed that I've become more brutally honest about things, Frankly -- and I don't mean to be snarky, but real concern -- I think your statement of is greater concern than being civil to the person. Why is it more difficult to keep your thoughts to yourself ?? why isn't your inner filter working?? why are you more "brutally honest"?? I would be concerned about some underlying medical issue. Hope that you are basically okay ... The underlying issue is the aging processes. I've found as I've gotten older that I will start calling people out on their bad behavior. I think it's because I'm no longer afraid that someone might not like me.
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Dec 14, 2014 16:02:25 GMT
I'll second the don't drink... I have a much harder time controlling my tongue if I've been drinking!
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Post by BeckyTech on Dec 14, 2014 16:17:58 GMT
Are the lies this other person is telling about you or a direct member of your immediate family? If they are not affecting you directly, then I would disengage. Enlist your DH in a prearrangement that anytime there is a lull, you can turn to each other and engage in quiet conversation, ignoring what is going on at your table. Discuss innocuous things, like your plans for the weekend, or whatever.
Or you could emulate Detective Joseph Kenda (Homicide Hunter on Discovery ID). Look directly at the person, raise one eyebrow, and in a deadpan voice slowly say "My, my, my."
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2014 16:43:29 GMT
Stay sober and take lots of bathroom breaks.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 14, 2014 16:55:54 GMT
I wouldn't care if they want to lie thru their teeth. As long as they aren't lying about me, to my face, I'd just smile and nod my head. Trust me, everyone else know she's lying and they are being polite. And because I'm not perfect, on the way home I would be laughing about all the whoppers on the way home with DH.
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IPeaFreely
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Jun 26, 2014 8:32:27 GMT
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Post by IPeaFreely on Dec 14, 2014 17:22:54 GMT
would you really confront someone in public? would you really start something? i can't imagine.
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Post by Prenticekid on Dec 14, 2014 17:34:41 GMT
Nancy, long story short, this person twists everything to make themselves look perfect. I've caught them in two huge lies in the three days, but I can't call them on their behavior due to various relationship dynamics. I like the take a drink of water before you talk advice....but.... Why do you feel the need to call them on it? It's not really about having a filter. It is about you and why you let it get to you. It's kind of like the person who cuts you off on the highway. There is absolutely no need to go after them to let them know they cut you off and you are mad about it - they know. They did it anyway. You know they are the a$$hole and that you are not and you get on with the rest of your day. Besides, we all have shortcomings and I'm sure you have no intention of going about pointing out every one of them, right?! LOL Besides, if you are picking and choosing, again, its not about the filter.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 14, 2014 22:53:42 GMT
Nancy, long story short, this person twists everything to make themselves look perfect. I've caught them in two huge lies in the three days, but I can't call them on their behavior due to various relationship dynamics. I would hope that they would be the uncomfortable party- not you. I am sure they are twisting it though to make themselves look better. A cool shoulder with a tiny bit of good manners seems appropriate. Remember this is their issue and thankfully not yours or who you want to become. Good luck! Let us know how it works out. I do love a good update.
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Nicole in TX
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Jun 26, 2014 2:00:21 GMT
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Post by Nicole in TX on Dec 14, 2014 23:03:52 GMT
I think you should not try to censor yourself...just let it fly. Tell them what a jerk they are AND THEN come right back here and tell us all about the explosion
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 14, 2014 23:39:23 GMT
Angie, in the end you probably feel pretty good about the event too. That is what really counts. People burn themselves and we often don't find out about it. Let us hope this happens to him.
The high road is less crowded and a much nicer way to travel (well, usually).
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