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Post by lurker on Aug 10, 2023 12:51:09 GMT
I am so very sorry. Treasure your memories. May they bring you comfort.
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 10, 2023 12:54:44 GMT
I’m so sorry. 🙏
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Post by alsomsknit on Aug 10, 2023 12:55:24 GMT
I am so sorry!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Aug 10, 2023 13:17:41 GMT
I'm so sorry (((hugs)))
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Aug 10, 2023 13:26:13 GMT
I am very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Aug 10, 2023 13:29:44 GMT
My deepest condolences to you and your family. May he rest in eternal peace.
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Post by gramasue on Aug 10, 2023 13:36:54 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by Tamhugh on Aug 10, 2023 13:38:07 GMT
Im so sorry for your loss. I do want to address your SIL's guilty feelings over not being there. I have a set of pamphlets about death and dying that were written by a hospice nurse. She states that, to an extent, people have some control over when they die. If your BIL died when neither of you were there, that may have been a choice he made - so that you wouldnt have to watch those final moments. I have experienced this in my own life when dh's grandfather died. He died on the one night thst none of his children nor his wife were at the hospital with him, but just after all of his granchildren had made it to visit him. Please let your SIL know this. She should not feel guilt on top of her grief. When my mom was in hospice care at the end of her life, the nurses kept telling us we had to give her space a few times a day, even if it was only for 10 minutes or so. They said mothers didn’t like to die with their children in the room. We kind of rolled our eyes. On her last night, we walked a visitor to the end of the hall and by the time we got back, she had passed. I do believe your brother wanted to spare his loved ones from that last moment.
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 10, 2023 13:38:19 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Please accept my deepest sympathies.
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Post by scraphappy0501 on Aug 10, 2023 13:47:22 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family, as well as (((hugs))).
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 10, 2023 14:29:57 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Mary Kay Lady
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Aug 10, 2023 14:31:15 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Aug 10, 2023 14:38:53 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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Post by ajsweetpea on Aug 10, 2023 14:55:25 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. He was truly blessed to have you there with him throughout his battle. Sending you so many hugs.
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Post by luckyjune on Aug 10, 2023 14:57:20 GMT
Sending peace and love to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
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Post by dmopal on Aug 10, 2023 15:01:48 GMT
I'm so sorry...
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 10, 2023 15:06:15 GMT
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
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Sarah*H
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Post by Sarah*H on Aug 10, 2023 15:19:49 GMT
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Aug 10, 2023 15:21:26 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by stormsts on Aug 10, 2023 15:22:10 GMT
I am so sorry for you loss.
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emptyskullz
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Post by emptyskullz on Aug 10, 2023 15:27:05 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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Post by sideways on Aug 10, 2023 15:33:55 GMT
Im so sorry for your loss. I do want to address your SIL's guilty feelings over not being there. I have a set of pamphlets about death and dying that were written by a hospice nurse. She states that, to an extent, people have some control over when they die. If your BIL died when neither of you were there, that may have been a choice he made - so that you wouldnt have to watch those final moments. I have experienced this in my own life when dh's grandfather died. He died on the one night thst none of his children nor his wife were at the hospital with him, but just after all of his granchildren had made it to visit him. Please let your SIL know this. She should not feel guilt on top of her grief. I’m sorry for your loss. I want to reiterate this. My mom’s hospice nurses told us the same thing. People will often wait until they’re alone to pass. That’s what my mom did. She passed in the middle of the first night that nobody stayed over with her. My sister has been lamenting over the fact that “mom was alone” for years now. I keep having to remind her what the nurses said and that mom was not alone. She passed during the first eight hours that nobody was with her in the hospital in five days.
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Post by kristi521 on Aug 10, 2023 15:43:54 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss! I am glad that you have had the time to spend so closely with him recently. May those memories bring you some comfort.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 10, 2023 15:44:28 GMT
I am sorry for your loss but am glad that your brother is at peace and pain free. Be gentle with yourself, knowing without question that you were what your brother needed this past year. Blessings to your entire family.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 10, 2023 16:08:59 GMT
I am so sorry. May his memory be for a blessing. ❤️
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Post by silverlining on Aug 10, 2023 16:54:32 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
I hope you realize that you and your family did an incredible job of caring for him. You made a huge move to be with him. He died at home in the place where he wanted to spend his last days and surrounded by his loved ones.
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Post by maryland on Aug 10, 2023 16:59:04 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by flanz on Aug 10, 2023 17:01:36 GMT
I'm so sorry for the hole in your heart, Katy. I hope that knowing you did all you could, that you were really there for your brother and his wife, eases your pain as you mourn this huge loss.
Echoing what so many others have shared... my dad also waited until he was alone to take his final breath. I do believe it can be a choice for lots of folks on the brink.
xoxox
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Post by kristi on Aug 10, 2023 17:10:36 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother {HUGS}
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leeny
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Post by leeny on Aug 10, 2023 17:13:51 GMT
Very sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family.
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