scrappyesq
Pearl Clutcher
You have always been a part of the heist. You're only mad now because you don't like your cut.
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Jun 26, 2014 19:29:07 GMT
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Post by scrappyesq on Aug 17, 2023 14:41:23 GMT
Our relationship is in the newer side but we've established that we have different opinions on tons of things. We still discuss everything ever mindful that the other person may disagree. I would never want him not to tell me what he thinks, and I'm sure he feels the same way. I don't understand the immediate inclination to "drop" someone. Some of our differences of opinion have led to hilarious conversations, and still others have led to looking at things from a different perspective. Aren't those exchanges part of what a relationship is about?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 17, 2023 15:41:06 GMT
I can't think of a single subject where either of us would hesitate to share an opinion to the other. Me either. It just seemed so foreign to me to think, throw him out because he has no business having an opinion. I doubt anyone would leave their spouse/SO over a basic matter like the quantity of clothing except if it became a routine subject for arguments and led to a more significant divide in fundamental life values. Yes, this is the way I feel too. I can wear whatever I like. He has no input whatsoever. I also get to pick what he wears and he also has no input to that whatsoever either. However, I am a well put together woman. He tried to leave the house the other day wearing tevas and socks. #justified This cracked me up. Come on over and see if you can get Jeremy to throw away that damn green sweatshirt I talked about in the OP.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 17, 2023 15:44:48 GMT
That's not to say that we can't change our minds and opinions on things but that there are some values so fundamental to who we are as people and this relationship that it would be impossible to carry on if they were changed in a significant way. I agree with this too. There are some things that I would consider a change to be worthy of divorce. Even though I consider my change regarding clothing to be values-based, I also know that I didn't have these particular values when I chose my husband so I can't rightly force him to change his values too on this issue.
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 17, 2023 17:00:26 GMT
I assume anyone commenting on any TikTok video is most likely a 15 year old kid with absolutely no life experience or relationship nuance. They only comment hyperbole for a reaction.
I can’t really think of any subject that’s off limits, a marriage is a partnership and we are always getting each others insights and opinions. There’s also not much we disagree on or subjects that we avoid because we can’t agree.
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Post by lisae on Aug 18, 2023 2:00:17 GMT
We seldom talk about politics anymore. I miss it but not enough to listen to his opinions on the current president. We both have similar opinions on the former guy. It's important to me that we discuss issues to the point that we each know the other's opinion but that is as far as we go. We don't try to change the other's mind.
He has never objected to an item of clothing I've worn. He likes some things more than others and I value his opinion. There is one thing of his I hate - his overalls. I admit that I've made them disappear. He looked like my grandfather. They aged him at least 10 years probably more and he is already several years older than I am. I just hated them. Plus they take up half a load in the washer and bang around in the dryer. No, those things will never see the light of day again. He mentions them from time to time and I just change the subject.
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