S/O school reunion, is there one classmate you wonder about

My HS was relatively small--110 in my graduating class.

A classmate was raped when we were in 9th or 10th grade. I have no idea if the male was prosecuted or what happened. Classmates passed the story verbally, I don't remember reading of the incident in the local weekly paper. She came back to school the next week with lots of scratches on her arms and some bruises. Everyone pretended we didn't know. We sort of avoided her. I feel so bad for her experience and the cold response. From class newsletters I know she entered the military after graduation and married. I hope her life has been happy. I don't think she returned to the area.

I graduated in '83 so getting knocked up was a pretty big stigma, plus it was a small town in NC. I don't wonder, because I know where she ended up, but had a classmate get pregnant, have the baby, and give it up for adoption. She stayed in school and was a popular student. She went on to retire from the marine corps as a full bird colonel with a doctorate. Not the ending I would have imagined back then.

Absolutely! There are a few people I often wonder about. Some didn't have the best time in junior high and I hope/pray they are doing great and thriving in their adulthood. One is the first friend I made in kindergarten. We lived next door to their family and they were the kindest people ever. We lost touch after we moved a few years later but I still wonder about their family to this day. They have really common names so I wouldn't begin to know how I could find them. 

I wonder about the girl who got pregnant in Year 9. Her son would be 41yo now. For comparison, my kids are 25 and 18. I can’t imagine having a 41yo!

There was a girl in middle school that didn't have a lot of friends, and we became friends & she became super possessive of my time. She'd call every single day, multiple times. I'd try to talk quickly & get off because I had things to do and she'd get upset. She literally wanted to talk for hours each time she called.

And it was too much for me at that age to deal with her, so I started having my mom tell her I wasn't home. At school, I think we only had 1 class together, if I recall, or maybe even just homeroom or a class that was only a semester or quarter long, so I didn't see her much at school. But even then, I did my best to avoid her. I felt bad about it at the time, but I couldn't figure out how to get her to be less clingy, and that was the best I could do at 12 years old.

Later, she must have left the district, although I'm not sure when exactly that happened. She wasn't in our graduating class.

So part of me still feels badly about it. And I hope she found a nice group of friends or at least one more attentive friend wherever she went after she left our school district.

One of my best friends in HS has seemingly disappeared. We met a few times for lunch in college and then drifted apart. This was in the 80's. I tried to find her in later years but she doesn't appear to be on any social media sites. Another friend told me she ran into her a few years ago but didn't get any details on what she was doing or where she was living. I love to get in touch with her if I could find her.

Another one was a boy from middle school. He was a very talented musician, had perfect pitch and a wonderful singing voice. He was also very badly bullied. This was in the 70's and the attitude then was "boys will be boys" and "they need to work it out for themselves". He changed schools before we went to HS. I wonder now and again what happened to him and I hope his life got better. He was a really nice guy.

I have someone like that too - a girl I was friendly with had a baby at 15. He'd be 43 now (and my kids are 31 down to 20.) Very hard to imagine! 

Not from school, but there are some former coworkers that I was friends with at jobs pre-internet that I would like to know where they ended up but I really don’t want to troll the internet creeping on people. Although I did recently reconnect with a former work friend from 30 years ago that reached out and we had a really nice lunch! So maybe it’s not all that weird, LOL.