bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 14, 2023 16:43:13 GMT
it's my last full day in the office (I was let go from my job in early August, but they asked me to stay on).
There is a happy hour planned for me tonight, as an introvert I'm dreading it. DH and I commuted in this morning and we were talking about it. He basically said if you don't want to go then don't go but I have friends driving into our downtown area just for this and that's not something I take lightly. I need to be there.
I know there are better things out there, I have, as the therapists say "evidence" that there are better opportunities. I will land on my feet. Frankly, the way things are going around here I'm ok that I've been let go. But I woke up this morning with a sense of dread and finally just acknowledged that today is just going to be hard, and that's ok. I've been here almost 20 years, and intended to retire here. It's ok to acknowledge that this is not how I wanted my career here to end and I'm angry and sad that I'm being forced out.
So, today is just a hard day. I come in tomorrow to hand over things then have the afternoon open for something fun if I'm up for it or to just go home and burrow under the covers if I need that. My IL's show up next week so at some point the house needs to be magically made "company ready" which will give me a task.
Just needed to get that out.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 14, 2023 16:47:33 GMT
HUGS!!!
I certainly hope they have already provided you with a glowing letter of recommendation about your excellent work and work ethic!!
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Post by quiltz on Sept 14, 2023 16:48:37 GMT
There is a happy hour planned for me tonight, as an introvert I'm dreading it. DH and I commuted in this morning and we were talking about it. He basically said if you don't want to go then don't go but I have friends driving into our downtown area just for this and that's not something I take lightly. I need to be there. Please go as there are people who care about you that will be there. It is more difficult to "receive than it is to give". This time you are on the receiving end and be gracious about this. {{{hugs}}} |
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Post by used2scrap on Sept 14, 2023 16:58:49 GMT
I’m sorry you are going through this. Be gentle with yourself today and onward. I hope in time you’ll be able to look back that it was a blessing in disguise moving you towards something you didn’t know was waiting for you.
Hang in there.
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Post by wellway on Sept 14, 2023 16:58:55 GMT
Hugs.
Let your friends act as a buffer, if need be. Just in case have a few words ready in case you are called to give a short speech.
I hope the future has wonderful unexpected opportunities in store for you.
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Post by elaine on Sept 14, 2023 17:02:17 GMT
(((Hugs))) I wish that I had something to say to make it easier. Take care of yourself and allow all the people who love you to show you how much you mean to them.
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Post by flanz on Sept 14, 2023 17:05:54 GMT
I'm sorry. I have a feeling that you'll end up being glad that you attended. I sure hope so!
Is it possible for you to "hand over things" today?
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Post by Tearisci on Sept 14, 2023 17:38:12 GMT
Hugs. Just have to get through tonight and then you can move upwards and onward!
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 14, 2023 18:15:58 GMT
It does sound like a difficult day. As for tonight, tell yourself that you can do anything for an hour. If after that you want to leave your gathering, then you have done your part in the evening. I always dread that sort of thing and then end up happy that I went. Good luck in your future endeavors.
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 14, 2023 18:27:48 GMT
Please go as there are people who care about you that will be there. It is more difficult to "receive than it is to give". This time you are on the receiving end and be gracious about this. {{{hugs}}} I know, and I am touched people are willing to drive in when they don't have to. I'm sure it will be a lovely evening. |
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Post by gramasue on Sept 14, 2023 18:28:09 GMT
That sucks, and I don't blame you for feeling sad. You put a lot of years into the company. Hopefully, you can look at it as an opportunity to go out with grace. Good luck tonight!
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Post by auntkelly on Sept 14, 2023 18:38:52 GMT
I don't blame you for being angry and sad.
I do hope you can enjoy the happy hour.
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iowgirl
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Post by iowgirl on Sept 14, 2023 19:21:31 GMT
Honestly, if I had been let go, and didn't leave on my own wishes - I'd say "peace out MF'ers", and bounce. My husband says I'm a bit to honest in my interactions sometimes though.
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Post by brynn on Sept 14, 2023 19:51:51 GMT
((Hugs on today being hard)) I feel good things will happen in the future.
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Post by peasquared on Sept 14, 2023 19:53:54 GMT
I'm sorry you have been put into this situation. When I have to be somewhere I don't want to be, I just keep picturing myself driving away after it's over and how relieved I'll be.
It helps.
I hope it all go goes as easy as possible. Best of luck in all your future opportunities.
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Post by scrappinmama on Sept 14, 2023 20:16:21 GMT
I'm sorry this day is so hard for you. I hope your happy hour lifts her spirits tonight.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 14, 2023 20:39:06 GMT
I hope you have a fun time.
Best wishes as you look for that even better job.
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Post by luckyjune on Sept 14, 2023 21:02:48 GMT
Congratulations on 20 successful years at your job! Onward and upward to the second act...your encore career! Something AMAZING is out there for you!
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Post by disneypal on Sept 14, 2023 21:17:46 GMT
I am sorry - I can imagine the mixed emotions you are feeling.
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Post by scrapperal on Sept 14, 2023 21:31:38 GMT
Hugs! Hope happy hour is more happy than sad.
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Post by lucyg on Sept 14, 2023 22:04:42 GMT
Hugs to you. I’m sorry you’ve been put in this position, but hopeful that the party turns out to feel rewarding, not like torture. Good luck in the future! Meanwhile, take some time to yourself so you can feel more centered as you move on.
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Post by RosieKat on Sept 14, 2023 22:04:59 GMT
I"m so sorry, that does sound tough.  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 14, 2023 22:21:05 GMT
Honestly, if I had been let go, and didn't leave on my own wishes - I'd say "peace out MF'ers", and bounce. My husband says I'm a bit to honest in my interactions sometimes though. This is me too. I’d have a really hard time putting a smile on and pretending everything is okay when to me it doesn’t feel that way. I’d probably end up being arm twisted into at least going to make an appearance and then bailing as soon as I reasonably could. |
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Post by anaterra on Sept 14, 2023 22:42:54 GMT
{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}
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Post by scrapmaven on Sept 14, 2023 22:45:45 GMT
I hope that today was easier than you anticipated. I wish you a very happy next step in life.
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Sept 15, 2023 1:16:06 GMT
I hope you enjoy your happy hour.
As a fellow introvert I understand.
There’s a new moon tonight.
Hopefully that brings you some comfort and toast to new beginnings 💖
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 15, 2023 2:39:26 GMT
I hope it went okay
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Post by seaexplore on Sept 15, 2023 13:18:00 GMT
How did it go?
I had a similar thing happen to me a few years ago. I taught at the same elementary in the same grades in the same classroom for 23 years. I planned to retire from there after 40 years. I brought my own kids to my school the year before to make my life easier. My district decided I could not continue teaching there with the credentials I have (but for 23 years it was just fine) so I was involuntarily moved. My options were high school or continuation high school. Neither of which I wanted but I chose continuation high school. Cried openly. People rallied around me (I’m an introvert) and I was uncomfortable with the support but took it because it came from a place of love. Now, I’m in my 2nd year and LOVE my job. I’ve pulled my very high achieving kids from the district I teach in back to our home district and life is amazing!
All that to say that there is something amazing waiting for you and I hope you had a decent time last night.
Also, I’m with the other who said peace out. I have nothing left but disdain for the admin for forcing my move. And when they couldn’t find someone to take my spot until many many weeks into the school year I had such a fabulous level of satisfaction. They had me who was there all hours giving every hit of energy I had to the kids and school who went home and had no home life because I was giving more once I got home. Nope. They ended up hiring the superintendents son (who I really like) with no degree in the subject I taught. Put him on an emergency credential and now he’s in school to get the proper credentials to teach those classes (which I have). No love lost and peace out bitches! My life is so much better!
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Post by hop2 on Sept 15, 2023 14:31:39 GMT
Hugs
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 15, 2023 18:47:28 GMT
Thank you all. I've had some time to process this from the initial notification, which is why the last couple of days have been so strange. I think it just made it really real. I know I'll wind up in a better place. and I've been given the gift of time to figure out what that looks like without having to panic about making ends meet.
The happy hour ended up being a great evening. The people I expected came, people I did not expect came, and a couple of former co-workers came (one of which I see often but others in my group hadn't seen her in years. I got to watch them reconnect which was joyful).
I was able to go in this morning (with only a slight headache lol) and sign my paperwork then pull an "Irish goodbye" and snuck out without saying anything once I had all my stuff turned in.
I am more sad than angry, this was part of a large layoff and my company is going to experience a huge knowledge drain because of it. The next few months are going to be very very difficult for those left behind.
I'm enjoying lunch from a favorite restaurant and am enjoying this beautiful early fall day. At some point I need to actually start cleaning my house.
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