snowdie
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Post by snowdie on Oct 31, 2023 2:44:07 GMT
I want to wear a dress to a funeral I know will be upcoming. What are women wearing on their legs now? I know at weddings I see so many in black dresses with bare legs. The last funerals I attended I knew the families would be in pants so I wore black pants. The weather here will be cold/chilly. I don’t have lots of time to shop but I want to look very nice because this friend means so much to me. Shoe suggestions are welcome too. I am not very comfortable in heels. Thank you for any and all suggestions.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 31, 2023 2:49:19 GMT
I have a dress with 3/4 sleeves and is lace. I bought it in Hawaii and have worn it 5x already. I have pearls and a fancy scarf (funeral in black)
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Post by twistedscissors on Oct 31, 2023 3:30:06 GMT
Idk but I’m really considering buying me some pantyhose 😱 because dress shoes just feel better on my feet with hosiery. My ballet flats wore a blister on one of my toes Sunday in only like two hours at church. Does that make me ancient? 😂😂
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Oct 31, 2023 3:56:16 GMT
I would wear black tights.
I'm sorry for your loss
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Post by grammadee on Oct 31, 2023 3:59:10 GMT
Can you wear black tights with flat dress shoes or black leggings with leather boots? Choose a scarf or jewelry in your friend's favourite colour? Or a colour that represents something about her?
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Post by dewryce on Oct 31, 2023 4:15:51 GMT
Can you wear black tights with flat dress shoes or black leggings with leather boots? Choose a scarf or jewelry in your friend's favourite colour? Or a colour that represents something about her? Love these ideas. OP, I’m sorry you’re losing someone that means so much to you. |
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Post by quinlove on Oct 31, 2023 5:44:29 GMT
Can you wear black tights with flat dress shoes or black leggings with leather boots? Choose a scarf or jewelry in your friend's favourite colour? Or a colour that represents something about her? I agree with all these suggestions. So sorry for the loss of your friend. ❤️ |
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Post by manda on Oct 31, 2023 6:06:28 GMT
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Post by monklady123 on Oct 31, 2023 10:43:01 GMT
Couldn't you just wear a nice pair of dress pants and avoid the whole problem? Nice pants, nice top, simple jewelry...you'll look perfect. Personally I feel that your friend would want you to be comfortable. -- I know that my comment doesn't answer your question...But, I haven't worn a dress or a skirt in years and years, and I've been to a lot of funerals.
I'm sorry about your friend.
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Post by lisae on Oct 31, 2023 11:55:37 GMT
Idk but I’m really considering buying me some pantyhose 😱 because dress shoes just feel better on my feet with hosiery. My ballet flats wore a blister on one of my toes Sunday in only like two hours at church. Does that make me ancient? 😂😂 I still wear regular hose occasionally. Tights are just too thick for a lot of things. If the dress is black, you might choose the 'barely black' or whatever color they call them. I usually wear a black dress, sometimes pants if it is very cold weather. In winter, I might wear boots with a black or gray skirt. I've been to two funerals where I wore the deceased's favorite color. One lady, named Ruby, loved purple. I wore a purple dress and found all the women in the family in purple and many of the other mourners. The men wore purple ties. I didn't know this ahead of time but was glad I'd chosen the dress I had. |
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Post by allison1954 on Oct 31, 2023 12:18:22 GMT
Truly, when my DH died, Ididnt give a flip what people wore or that they looked good.
Pretty much, if they weren’t wearing a clown suit, Ididnt even notice.
It only mattered that they were there.
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Post by maryannscraps on Oct 31, 2023 13:11:14 GMT
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Last winter, when my FIL passed away, I struggled to find something to wear in all the commotion and travel across the country. Most of the women wore black dresses and bare legs with either flat or heeled black shoes (the weather was warm, so tights were unnecessary.)
After that, I bought a couple black dresses just in case. Unfortunately, I’m of the age where my friends’ parents are getting into their 80s and 90s, so I’ve worn all the dresses I bought. In cool weather, I wear tights or black hose. In warm weather, bare legs. I have a couple pairs of black dressy shoes that are comfy for me. I don’t really wear heels anymore.
My black dresses were bought from amazon and from Nordstrom online. I think I ordered 7-8 and kept 4.
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Post by auntkelly on Oct 31, 2023 13:56:01 GMT
I almost always wear black dresses to funerals. I generally go w/ bare legs, but I think tights or panty hose would be fine on a cold day.
If it’s extremely cold, I sometimes wear a pleated midi skirt w/ boots and a thin sweater on top. (I wear this look every winter, but it happens to be very trendy this year).
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Post by KelleeM on Oct 31, 2023 14:05:53 GMT
Truly, when my DH died, Ididnt give a flip what people wore or that they looked good. Pretty much, if they weren’t wearing a clown suit, Ididnt even notice. It only mattered that they were there. I agree with this 100%. Dress for your own comfort. I have many coworkers come to my late husband’s wake straight from work. One man, who has a bit of a dirty job, wore jeans and a hoodie. He apologized to me. When I returned to work I made a point to tell home how much I appreciated that he was there and I would never judge anyone for what they wore. I will always remember who was there. Im so sorry you’re losing a dear friend. |
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Post by KikiPea on Oct 31, 2023 14:23:58 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Bare. I rarely wear anything on my legs while wearing a dress unless I’m freezing.
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Post by rymeswithpurple on Oct 31, 2023 15:09:46 GMT
((hugs))
When we went to DH's former boss' sister's funeral, it was December and chilly -- I wore a black dress, cardigan, black tights, and a very (very) low pair of heels (probably less than 1/3", because otherwise, I would be falling all over the place).
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 31, 2023 15:36:36 GMT
Truly, when my DH died, Ididnt give a flip what people wore or that they looked good. Pretty much, if they weren’t wearing a clown suit, Ididnt even notice. It only mattered that they were there. I agree with this 100%. Dress for your own comfort. I have many coworkers come to my late husband’s wake straight from work. One man, who has a bit of a dirty job, wore jeans and a hoodie. He apologized to me. When I returned to work I made a point to tell home how much I appreciated that he was there and I would never judge anyone for what they wore. I will always remember who was there. Im so sorry you’re losing a dear friend. When my loved one died a few also came directly from work - and they're construction folks - so full on work gear. I was so touched that they made the effort to attend even though they couldn't afford to take the day off work. It truly is about showing up - nothing else matters. |
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Post by Merge on Oct 31, 2023 15:44:13 GMT
I agree that showing up is what matters. If I decided to wear a black dress and it was cold, I’d likely wear black semi-sheer tights and black flats or booties.
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Post by ~summer~ on Oct 31, 2023 16:05:26 GMT
I’m sorry for your loss.
I would wear bare legs.
If it were cold I’d do tights with boots.
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 31, 2023 19:23:57 GMT
I’d wear black pants, but that’s me. And I’d wear something in a color she liked, piece of jewelry, a scarf, a cardigan, etc.
For some reason I really do not like the “all black” look for funerals. I didn't even do all black for my husband's Celebration of Life.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 31, 2023 19:32:24 GMT
I’d wear black pants, but that’s me. And I’d wear something in a color she liked, piece of jewelry, a scarf, a cardigan, etc. For some reason I really do not like the “all black” look for funerals. I didn't even do all black for my husband's Celebration of Life. I hear you, but everyone seems to be all over the place with this. In the last few years we've seen - Hawaiian shirts, favorite color, favorite team and the traditional black. Some really seem to be embracing the non-traditional celebrations, but we've seen a fair amount of the others as well. |
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Post by Gennifer on Oct 31, 2023 19:36:04 GMT
People don’t really wear black to funerals in Utah, so, since it’s cold, I would probably wear a dressy jumpsuit. If you feel like a dress is necessary, I would pair it with coordinating tights and knee-high boots for warmth.
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Post by katiejane on Oct 31, 2023 19:36:04 GMT
If it is a mourning dress funeral and hot, I would wear black and have bare legs, if cold I would wear my opaque tights. If a dress code with the person's favourite colour I would add a scarf and wear opaque tights in that colour if I have them. If a smart but no mourning clothes, i wear a work style dress.
Like others have said, they will be grateful you turned up. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 31, 2023 19:49:37 GMT
Truly, when my DH died, Ididnt give a flip what people wore or that they looked good. Pretty much, if they weren’t wearing a clown suit, Ididnt even notice. It only mattered that they were there. I agree, 100%! That said, my go to in cold weather is a black skirt with black tights. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend, snowdie. |
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Post by pilcas on Oct 31, 2023 19:50:05 GMT
Black hosiery. Here in NY nobody wears bare legs with dresses in winter.
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Post by tealpaperowl on Oct 31, 2023 19:58:42 GMT
Pantyhose if I wear a dress. The last funeral was in January and I wore a black pants suit and jacket.
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Post by dewryce on Oct 31, 2023 20:00:41 GMT
Idk but I’m really considering buying me some pantyhose 😱 because dress shoes just feel better on my feet with hosiery. My ballet flats wore a blister on one of my toes Sunday in only like two hours at church. Does that make me ancient? 😂😂 I still wear regular hose occasionally. Tights are just too thick for a lot of things. If the dress is black, you might choose the 'barely black' or whatever color they call them. I usually wear a black dress, sometimes pants if it is very cold weather. In winter, I might wear boots with a black or gray skirt. I've been to two funerals where I wore the deceased's favorite color. One lady, named Ruby, loved purple. I wore a purple dress and found all the women in the family in purple and many of the other mourners. The men wore purple ties. I didn't know this ahead of time but was glad I'd chosen the dress I had. Lots of us wore purple to my Granma’s service as well, and I hope people wear it to mine, such a happy color! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Oct 31, 2023 22:18:46 GMT
I would wear pants. I’m not going to freeze just because it’s a funeral. No one is going to care what you wear, just that you were there.
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snowdie
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Post by snowdie on Nov 1, 2023 1:52:08 GMT
Thanks for all your kind words. I should have put in my original post that my friend of 47 years was always impeccably dressed and that is why I want to look well dressed for her. That being said, she truly never ever cared what I wore! She is nonjudgmental and kind in every word she speaks. It is my way of honoring her. Thank you for all the suggestions.
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Post by danalz on Nov 1, 2023 19:20:00 GMT
Tights.
I order all of my tights from snagtights.us
It takes a few weeks to get them but they are worth it. So many colors and patterns in a large variety of sizes
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