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Post by candleangie on Nov 4, 2023 14:35:07 GMT
If you were consistently using a word wrong or mispronouncing something, would you want someone to tell you? Things that you probably just misheard and they stuck with you?
This is purely a curiosity question.
Example: “I need to replace the inners of my potty” (innards)
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Post by mich5481 on Nov 4, 2023 14:42:21 GMT
Yes, but tell me privately, not in front of an entire group.
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Post by busy on Nov 4, 2023 15:01:18 GMT
I suppose it would depend on the word. Innards of a potty - not something I’m likely to use a lot, so telling me seems like it might be more embarrassing than the mispronunciation.
Now if it were a word that one would be likely to use daily or weekly, then absolutely. But privately.
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Post by Linda on Nov 4, 2023 15:16:06 GMT
It doesn't bother me to be corrected provided that it's done kindly. Most of the time if I'm mispronouncing a word - it's one I've only ever seen in print not heard said aloud and my phonics skills aren't the best
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Post by Lurkingpea on Nov 4, 2023 15:18:30 GMT
Yes if it was something I would use professionally or someone’s name. Also privately.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 4, 2023 15:38:48 GMT
A friend mispronounces some words because there are some sounds she can't "hear" It's only a couple words and she knows she does but can't fix it so No I probably would not say anything
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Post by librarylady on Nov 4, 2023 16:05:04 GMT
I have walked down this path. First, I would want to know so that I was not unwittingly embarrassing myself. We had a dear friend (who taught at a well known private school that had strict academic standards) who kept mispronouncing a word. (I can't remember what the word was as it was a long time ago.) I then thought *I* was the one who didn't know the correct pronunciation. So, I consulted the dictionary and learned that the friend was wrong. One day, it came up again, and after our SS class, I drew him aside and said, "Um, __ you are pronouncing __ incorrectly." His reaction told me that others had already informed him. He told me that his 8th grade teacher had said it that way and he KNEW Mrs. __ would never had used the wrong pronunciation and he was going to continue with his way of saying the word. (I felt like he mentally added "so there!") ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png)
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Post by femalebusiness on Nov 4, 2023 16:09:49 GMT
I would absolutely want to know. The sooner the better. I'd prefer that I was told quietly but I'd rather be told loudly in front of people than to not know and keep pronouncing it wrong.
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Post by lainey on Nov 4, 2023 16:12:52 GMT
I don't understand your example (potty?) but yes I'd want to know, I'd feel a bit of a numpty but I'd laugh.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Nov 4, 2023 16:18:19 GMT
It would depend on a lot of factors. Is the pronunciation colloquial? Leave it alone. In a professional setting, it really depends in how close your relationship is. It could be appreciated or offensive. Friends, only you can judge how it will be received. There's no hard and fast rule for this. I might appreciate it, might make you an enemy to my neighbor. There's always the anonymous route, send them a link to pronunciation. You can also use the word yourself in conversation with them. Of course, they probably think you are pronouncing it incorrectly.
You might also need to determine if you are going to look like a pedantic know it all to the person you are correcting. Some people don't want to be corrected and it's not anyone else's job to police their language/vocabulary.
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Post by sabrinae on Nov 4, 2023 16:19:03 GMT
It depends. Innards is a word in some regional dialects including Appalachia where I’m from. So generally no. Innards is the internal workings of an any thing or the entrails and organs of an animal. It’s even in the Oxford dictionary.
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Post by greendragonlady on Nov 4, 2023 16:29:40 GMT
I don't understand your example (potty?) but yes I'd want to know, I'd feel a bit of a numpty but I'd laugh. I think it means the innards (inner workings) of a toilet. And I would want to know, but not be mocked, just informed.
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Post by garcia5050 on Nov 4, 2023 16:44:04 GMT
It depends on the person/scenario. My boss mispronounces names all the time, and you can correct her, but she’ll still call people the wrong name. So I stopped correcting. For example, she’ll pronounce Zeke as Zeekee. Or someone with the last name of Smithers, she’ll say Smitters. It’s very odd. She also says irregardless a lot and says she knows it’s not a word, but will keep using it because she can’t help herself. I ordered a quiche for breakfast at the work cafe (I asked for the special) and the employee (a homeboy) pronounced it as queesh. I didn’t correct him, but his coworker did. The guy looked at me for confirmation, and I said yes, he’s right, then the homeboy looked annoyed at me because I didn’t tell him.
I would want someone to tell me, but not everyone does. And then you’ll be accused of being a know-it-all.
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Post by gramasue on Nov 4, 2023 17:17:59 GMT
I don't mind if it's done kindly, or in fun. For example, I have always pronounced the word coupon with the emphasis on the U - cUpon (with you in the middle). My daughter says it's "coopon" and gets the biggest kick out of making fun of me whenever it comes up in conversation. I don't care. I will continue to say C-YOU-PON because I like the way it sounds. I guess if someone else were to correct me, I would simply laugh and say "I know".
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Post by roundtwo on Nov 4, 2023 17:25:19 GMT
Yes, but tell me privately, not in front of an entire group. I don't hear words right so I am always happy to be corrected but please do it in a way that doesn't make fun of me. I can't hear; I am not lacking in intelligence.
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Post by peabay on Nov 4, 2023 17:28:45 GMT
Yes, I would. But I agree with the above - pull someone aside, don't do it in front of others.
I had lunch with co-workers the other day and was laughing and talking. It wasn't until I walked out of the room and ran into someone else that she told me I had lettuce in my teeth - I really wished the others had said something earlier.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 4, 2023 17:54:19 GMT
Yes
In my early 20s I was misspelling definitely as definately for a while - putting it on work presentations etc - one of my friends/coworkers finally pointed it out to me…I was like thank you!!!
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 4, 2023 17:55:38 GMT
I would definitely want to be told. I've had mixed results with others when I've told them.
If it's someone that I won't see again or a word that won't be used, I won't say anything. If it's someone closer to me, I'll decide based on their personality.
I once corrected my SIL on the word karaoke. She was pronouncing it ka-roe-kee. Even after I pulled it up online with the pronunciation, she still insisted that she was right. I no longer correct her and there are more mispronunciations.
When DS was little, there was a lot of noise and confusion in the house one day. He pronounced that it was "complete chay-ohs". Of course he meant chaos! I think that he had mostly read the word and in his head pronounced it that way. Twenty years later, it's one of those family sayings that we still use.
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Post by MichyM on Nov 4, 2023 18:29:10 GMT
Yes. HOWEVER, one of my very closest friends (like a sister to me) and I were discussing Israel and Gaza last week, and she continually mispronounced Hamas (she pronounced it with a long A for both syllables). She does not watch TV or listen to the radio, so she had nothing to influence her about how it is pronounced correctly.
I gently corrected her, we were alone, and I could tell right away that she was not happy with me. I thought I was doing her a favor, but I wish she had taken it better. Especially because it was just me. 🤷🏼‍♀️
I always want to be corrected, gently of course, but yes yes yes, get me on the right track!
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Post by dewryce on Nov 4, 2023 18:42:34 GMT
I agree with the majority. Yes, please correct me, but do it kindly and privately. Unless I’m with anyone in my circle, then I fully expect them to give me hell about it ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) . I feel that way about a lot of things, and definitely don’t get mad about someone helping me out unless they’re a jerk about it, it’s actually appreciated. I mispronounce a lot of political names because I read my news, not watch it. And if I do it incorrectly for long enough in my head it becomes a very hard habit to break. I still mess up Nancy Pelosi’s name sometimes. There’s a post going around IG about the one word you’ve pronounced incorrectly that embarrasses you to this day. Mine is Yosemite. And I’d heard it a million times earlier in my life. But I was reading a book and hadn’t heard it in a while and in my head I pronounced it YO-ze-mite as I read the whole thing. I saw a book in my therapists office with Yosemite in the title and was telling DH about the one I had read and he about died laughing. Still gives me hell about it, as he should ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/laugh.jpg.gif)
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Post by Darcy Collins on Nov 4, 2023 18:48:24 GMT
Sure - I read a meme a while back of mispronunciation being the bane of the well read - it’s true - most people I know who read more than watch tv end up with some pronunciation in their head that isn’t quite right. I know it’s true for me as my husband just cracked up over my pronunciation of the chiefs quarterback. I take zero offense so have zero issue being corrected.
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Post by disneypal on Nov 4, 2023 18:51:58 GMT
Yes, as long as I am told privately and politely.
I would want to know if I was pronouncing or using a word incorrectly
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 4, 2023 19:46:31 GMT
It depends. Innards is a word in some regional dialects including Appalachia where I’m from. So generally no. Innards is the internal workings of an any thing or the entrails and organs of an animal. It’s even in the Oxford dictionary. Innards is a word. Inners, not so much. I would want to be told even if it’s not a very commonly used word. One of my sisters frequently mispronounces words even if she is corrected repeatedly. I have long thought she has some kind of undiagnosed learning disability because she has always had issues with language her entire life. And one of my brothers always writes “did’nt” instead of didn’t. 🙄
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Post by birukitty on Nov 4, 2023 20:11:26 GMT
Yes, I would absolutely want to know and I would prefer to be told with kindness. Doesn't have to be privately. DH tells me quite often and I appreciate it. In fact he just did it again today-can't remember the word right now.
I always fall back on the excuse "Well, English is my second language" which while true doesn't really apply since I learned English when I was 6 years old which was quite young. I think for me it is mostly because I read so much and I learn so many words from reading.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 4, 2023 21:02:42 GMT
Like the friend who asked if I used to go to the "Eh Pah Scop A Lee An" church? Yes, we all corrected her... but bit until after we stopped laughing.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 4, 2023 21:06:08 GMT
Yes I would want to know, but being corrected in anything should be done privately except in the classroom, and kindly, always.
MIL always pronounces Wetherspoons as Witherspoons. I have no idea why, as her hearing is fine and she's perfectly intelligent. But she won't be changed. Having said that, I had only ever seen the word tousled written down, and when I first read it as a child my brain decided it was pronounced tussled, and I never heard it until MIL said it when I was in my 40s. I don't know whether I ever used it out loud and embarrassed myself, but nobody ever told me!
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 4, 2023 21:18:21 GMT
she continually mispronounced Hamas (she pronounced it with a long A for both syllables). The way you describe your friend pronouncing it is how I pronounce it and hear it on the news. Unless I am not understanding your explanation. It is pronounced (here, anyway) with a long 'a' sound, but more like huh-muss. I will try to find a video with the way I hear it pronounced. ETA: Here is a video which gives the pronunciation the way I say it and hear it on the news, which is how it is said in Arabic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=Si8DoXwVRSsI also found a video where it is pronounced more like ha-mass (as in church mass), which was an American video.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 4, 2023 21:30:48 GMT
I had only ever seen the word tousled written down, and when I first read it as a child my brain decided it was pronounced tussled, and I never heard it until MIL said it when I was in my 40s. I don't know whether I ever used it out loud and embarrassed myself, but nobody ever told me! Um, I am 56 years old and only found out today with your post that it's not, in fact, pronounced tussled! ![:grin:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/TKS2q_7siLiFtq0xPQvx.jpg) Which is weird, because if you read it phonetically, it's nothing like 'tussled' !!
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Post by chaosisapony on Nov 4, 2023 21:40:47 GMT
Yes I would definitely want to be corrected. I read a lot and encounter a lot of words that I've never heard spoken before. They stick with me but when I go to speak I have no idea of what the correct pronunciation is. I would never be offended by someone correcting me.
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Post by sabrinae on Nov 4, 2023 22:18:13 GMT
It depends. Innards is a word in some regional dialects including Appalachia where I’m from. So generally no. Innards is the internal workings of an any thing or the entrails and organs of an animal. It’s even in the Oxford dictionary. Innards is a word. Inners, not so much. I would want to be told even if it’s not a very commonly used word. One of my sisters frequently mispronounces words even if she is corrected repeatedly. I have long thought she has some kind of undiagnosed learning disability because she has always had issues with language her entire life. And one of my brothers always writes “did’nt” instead of didn’t. 🙄 I misread. I thought she was questioning the use of innards, but upon rereading that’s clearly not what she was saying. I also live where warsh is frequently used for wash and libary for library. Or borrow something to someone instead of lend which then becomes “Barrey”.
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