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Post by Judie in Oz on Nov 16, 2023 18:30:28 GMT
It's been a long while since we've been to an engagement party. I'd like to put some money in a card for the couple (DH's niece). Is there a current figure that seems acceptable to give?
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Post by pantsonfire on Nov 16, 2023 18:35:22 GMT
I have never been to one. None of my family of friends had one.
Anyways if it was me I'd do $50 and then $50 as a wedding gift if I didn't want to choose from the registry.
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Post by craftymom101 on Nov 16, 2023 18:36:57 GMT
I haven't been invited to an Engagement party but my gut reaction is $50-$100 cash, depending on your relationship with your niece.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 16, 2023 18:44:35 GMT
I’ve been to a couple engagement parties, but I don’t think I brought a gift.
I would also do $50-100.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 16, 2023 18:54:04 GMT
In general, I usually decline to attend engagement parties.
I've given...
$50 to a Niece. No party was held.
$25 to the neighbors kid. They were an *any excuse for a party* kind of Family, I was invited to the backyard BBQ (had accepted the invite to the BBQ and found out the day of..... it was to celebrate the engagement), and didn't want to attend empty handed. I was invited by the Parents, and had only met-socialized with the kid a few times in like 3-4 years.
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Post by katlady on Nov 16, 2023 18:58:19 GMT
I've never been to an engagement party. The amount I give depends on my relationship to the person. For a close relative, I would give around $100.
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Post by amom23 on Nov 16, 2023 19:13:35 GMT
Engagement parties aren't a thing here so I've never been to one. I'm just thinking that's a lot of gifts/money if you attend an engagement party, a bridal shower and the wedding.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 16, 2023 20:14:06 GMT
I dont know anyone who has had an engagement party, but I would think the purpose is just to celebrate with close friends and family, not receive gifts.
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Post by dewryce on Nov 16, 2023 20:19:57 GMT
I dont know anyone who has had an engagement party, but I would think the purpose is just to celebrate with close friends and family, not receive gifts. That was my impression as well. Add another to the $50 - $100, depending on the relationship, column. |
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Post by librarylady on Nov 16, 2023 20:48:38 GMT
I dont know anyone who has had an engagement party, but I would think the purpose is just to celebrate with close friends and family, not receive gifts. Engagement parties are not a thing here. If I were invited, I would not know to arrive with a gift. I would think it was just to share in the joy of the future event.
As to how much to give--depends upon your family's income. Wealthy family gives more, modest earners give less.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 17, 2023 3:43:48 GMT
Interesting that engagement parties don't seem to be a thing in the US, and yet baby showers and bridal showers (which aren't common here) are.  Mind you, I don't think that engagement parties are all that common here either. I think I've only been to one or two in my life. Judie in Oz for my niece I would put $100 in a card. ETA: And the fact that the couple is having a gift grab engagement party for which I am giving them money, means that I will be giving them less than I otherwise would have for their wedding. |
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Post by pilcas on Nov 17, 2023 14:16:49 GMT
Engagement parties are common in my area, NYC and it’s suburbs. I have never gone to one. My nephew had one but it was mostly for their friends and was a backyard BBQ. I have heard of several that were held at catering halls, friends of my daughter.
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 17, 2023 15:44:04 GMT
Engagement parties have become common here. People don’t bring gifts.
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Post by Judie in Oz on Nov 17, 2023 15:59:16 GMT
Interesting that engagement parties don't seem to be a thing in the US, and yet baby showers and bridal showers (which aren't common here) are. Mind you, I don't think that engagement parties are all that common here either. I think I've only been to one or two in my life. Judie in Oz for my niece I would put $100 in a card. ETA: And the fact that the couple is having a gift grab engagement party for which I am giving them money, means that I will be giving them less than I otherwise would have for their wedding. I re-read the invitation. They have stated no gifts. Says they are having an intimate ceremony at a later date. Will most likely give them a gift at a later date. |
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Mind you, I don't think that engagement parties are all that common here either. I think I've only been to one or two in my life.
