Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 15:30:41 GMT
OMG I am sooooo sick of the shenanigans. I want this divorce to be over so badly I can’t stand it. I am so ready to get on with life without HIM in it. You would think when one is going through a divorce, when one has a crap ton of money that he has been keeping from his wife, when one tried to get away with not having to pay temporary alimony, that one would stop living the high life, wouldn’t ya?? You would think one’s attorney will tell him, “Hey, cool it on the wild spending and traveling until this divorce is final because you aren’t helping yourself any!” Wouldn’t you think all that? Well, Hell’s Bells. He just continues with the crap. Thanksgiving weekend, he told me he had to work out of state all weekend. Yeah, I didn’t believe him. But what he actually did was run a half marathon in the Philippines.  I just can’t with him. It’s bad enough that he has a crap ton of money in a savings account that my name is not on, so I can't access any of it, while I constantly worry about money. I know I will get half of it in the divorce, but still. Who even knows when that will be. (This is not his business account, it's a personal one). UGH. I don’t say this lightly, but I truly despise the man. I’m doing all the things I can think of to bring some joy and peace to my life, but it sure is not easy. I am looking forward to a time when do that will not require so much effort on my part. Thanks for always reading and caring. I look forward to the day when it is over and I can really spill all the gory details of what a d!ck he really is. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 30, 2023 15:57:34 GMT
My sister had the same kind of schumck for a husband, just add in some nasty porn to the mix. Hang in there.. and while it might be over you still might see some crap afterwards.. at least you won't be tied to him anymore. HUGS.
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Post by casii on Nov 30, 2023 16:03:14 GMT
If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness.
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Post by femalebusiness on Nov 30, 2023 16:20:28 GMT
If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness. Now that's a friend!! 😂 |
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Post by anaterra on Nov 30, 2023 16:21:48 GMT
If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness. That made me laugh... thats funny |
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Post by Rhondito on Nov 30, 2023 16:28:42 GMT
How did you find out?
Did you tell your attorney?
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Post by Tearisci on Nov 30, 2023 16:33:22 GMT
Ugh, divorce is so hard. I hope you have a good attorney and that everything he's doing is being documented. Hoping its over for you soon!
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 16:36:19 GMT
How did you find out? Did you tell your attorney? At this point, I'd rather not say how I found out.  Don't worry, I didn't do anything shady. But he definitely ran it because I found his name on the race results. Unless there is another person with his name in my city who ran the exact same time as his lady friend. LOL And yes, I told my attorney. |
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 16:38:04 GMT
Ugh, divorce is so hard. I hope you have a good attorney and that everything he's doing is being documented. Hoping its over for you soon! I feel like my attorney is not someone I would want to mess around with. LOL Everything he is doing is documented. And I let her know everything I find out about him. One of the things I am most looking forward to is not caring what he is doing. The only reason I care now is because I want to give my attorney any information I can. |
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Post by anaterra on Nov 30, 2023 16:44:58 GMT
Are you any closer to get the divorce finalized??? It sucks to struggle so hard while this asshole just blows money on bs... my heart hurts for you
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Post by quinmm14 on Nov 30, 2023 16:46:19 GMT
Ugh, divorce is so hard. I hope you have a good attorney and that everything he's doing is being documented. Hoping its over for you soon! I feel like my attorney is not someone I would want to mess around with. LOL Everything he is doing is documented. And I let her know everything I find out about him. One of the things I am most looking forward to is not caring what he is doing. The only reason I care now is because I want to give my attorney any information I can. Yep, you need to care as long as it affects your pocketbook. I'd be stalking the slimy bastard all over the internet, just sayin. And we women need an attorney that we'd be scared of, they're the best, lol. I hope this is all over soon for you. |
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Post by scrappinmama on Nov 30, 2023 16:49:35 GMT
I'm sorry. I can't imagine how stressful and frustrating this must be for you. Hopefully there will be peace for you on the other side of this divorce.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 16:49:57 GMT
Yep, you need to care as long as it affects your pocketbook. I'd be stalking the slimy bastard all over the internet, just sayin. I do. LOL People keep telling me to stop doing that, but I won't. I really don't care at this point, other than finding out as much slimey shit about him as I can so that it will hopefully help me in the long run. When the divorce is final, no way will I stalk him. I want him out of my mind and life in every single way. I will have to see him at my son's wedding, but other than that, I want nothing to do with him. I don't even want him to have my phone number or know where I live. |
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 16:52:34 GMT
Are you any closer to get the divorce finalized??? It sucks to struggle so hard while this asshole just blows money on bs... my heart hurts for you Sort of but not really. Right now, we are waiting for a forensic accountant to do his thing and delve into his finances and figure out how much his company is worth. We have a trial date set if we can't come to a settlement, but that is not until freaking JULY. UGH. My attorney is pretty confident that once the accountant is finished with his work and we know exactly how much money he has and what his business is worth, we will be able to settle it without going to trial. I'm not sure I believe that though because he is such a shady f*cker who is going to do everything he can to give me as little as possible. |
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Nov 30, 2023 16:55:08 GMT
JULY!!!!! HOLYYY MOLYYY.....
(((( BIG HUG ))))
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 30, 2023 17:11:31 GMT
You can do the waiting. Yes, you can do all the rest too. The more info you have, the better the outcome!!
Again, you CAN do this!!
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Post by flanz on Nov 30, 2023 17:25:19 GMT
Are you any closer to get the divorce finalized??? It sucks to struggle so hard while this asshole just blows money on bs... my heart hurts for you Sort of but not really. Right now, we are waiting for a forensic accountant to do his thing and delve into his finances and figure out how much his company is worth. We have a trial date set if we can't come to a settlement, but that is not until freaking JULY. UGH. My attorney is pretty confident that once the accountant is finished with his work and we know exactly how much money he has and what his business is worth, we will be able to settle it without going to trial. I'm not sure I believe that though because he is such a shady f*cker who is going to do everything he can to give me as little as possible. I must say I've never heard of a divorce taking nearly this long. I think I'd be a basket case. (((( hugs )))) |
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 17:30:51 GMT
Sort of but not really. Right now, we are waiting for a forensic accountant to do his thing and delve into his finances and figure out how much his company is worth. We have a trial date set if we can't come to a settlement, but that is not until freaking JULY. UGH. My attorney is pretty confident that once the accountant is finished with his work and we know exactly how much money he has and what his business is worth, we will be able to settle it without going to trial. I'm not sure I believe that though because he is such a shady f*cker who is going to do everything he can to give me as little as possible. I must say I've never heard of a divorce taking nearly this long. I think I'd be a basket case. (((( hugs )))) The biggest cause for the delay was actually getting him served. He worked out of state for about 8 months, starting right after I filed. My lawyer got it published in the paper, which enabled her to do some things, but for others, he had to have the papers in his hands. And even when he returned from out of state, he proved difficult to "catch" to serve. One day, the server came to the door when I knew he was home, and he wouldn't answer. He was finally officially served in early June. That's when he finally hired an attorney. He's apparently not been very cooperative with his attorney, and several hearings have gotten delayed and rescheduled. Now, the only hold up is doing a valuation of his business. Once that is finished, my attorney thinks there won't be any more hold ups because at that point, it's pretty cut and dried because my state is a 50/50 state. We don't have child support or custody issues, so that is why she thinks that we won't have to wait until July. But we shall see! |
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Nov 30, 2023 17:32:02 GMT
I think I'd be a basket case. Some days, I am.  |
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Post by sunnyd on Nov 30, 2023 17:49:00 GMT
I know this doesn't help any but I HATE HIM TOO for you!!  |
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 30, 2023 17:56:45 GMT
One of the things I am most looking forward to is not caring what he is doing. The only reason I care now is because I want to give my attorney any information I can. That is how my sister is.. she hates that she still needs to 'protect' him for the kids sake.. if it wasn't for that and her alimony she probably could have ruined his whole career. Ya know, bringing prostitutes to the office on a Saturday is great on a resume. (She found this tidbit after the divorce when one of his friends blew the whistle on him and kept proof) |
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Post by gryroagain on Nov 30, 2023 18:02:39 GMT
One of the things I am most looking forward to is not caring what he is doing. The only reason I care now is because I want to give my attorney any information I can. That is how my sister is.. she hates that she still needs to 'protect' him for the kids sake.. if it wasn't for that and her alimony she probably could have ruined his whole career. Ya know, bringing prostitutes to the office on a Saturday is great on a resume. (She found this tidbit after the divorce when one of his friends blew the whistle on him and kept proof) OMG I married your sisters ex too! Get him Just T. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 30, 2023 18:04:17 GMT
Sorry you're having to deal with so much.
Document everything.
Wishing you strength and healing.
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Post by roundtwo on Nov 30, 2023 18:11:22 GMT
One of the things I am most looking forward to is not caring what he is doing. The only reason I care now is because I want to give my attorney any information I can. This just the hardest part - you want to move on, you know you need to move on but the dick just keeps doing crap that holds you back. You will get there and we are all cheering you on as you navigate this shit show. Hopefully the audit will be finished soon and you can be free of him very soon!! If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness. Best course of action for the foreseeable future??  |
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Post by tracylynn on Nov 30, 2023 18:24:49 GMT
Are you any closer to get the divorce finalized??? It sucks to struggle so hard while this asshole just blows money on bs... my heart hurts for you Sort of but not really. Right now, we are waiting for a forensic accountant to do his thing and delve into his finances and figure out how much his company is worth. We have a trial date set if we can't come to a settlement, but that is not until freaking JULY. UGH. My attorney is pretty confident that once the accountant is finished with his work and we know exactly how much money he has and what his business is worth, we will be able to settle it without going to trial. I'm not sure I believe that though because he is such a shady f*cker who is going to do everything he can to give me as little as possible. I imagine he's going to be in for a shock once the forensic accounting is complete and his lawyer explains exactly what's-what to him. Especially once it's laid out all the dirt you have on him and all the lies he's been telling about money. I can't imagine a trial would go over that well for him when he's looking at all the facts. But, maybe he's just that stupid too. I'm sorry you're dealing with this - but I agree with others, keep on him until it's over. Catch him in every shady lie you can. |
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Post by lisaknits on Nov 30, 2023 20:12:59 GMT
((HUGS)) Sounds like you're doing a great job keeping track of his racing around the world while lying about his money situation! Keep at it.
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Post by mom on Nov 30, 2023 20:22:31 GMT
If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness. Hell, I will pay their entry fees of your friend if they'll trip the bastard. |
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Post by mom on Nov 30, 2023 20:22:50 GMT
Document, document, document.
His bullshit will come back to bite him.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 30, 2023 20:27:43 GMT
When you get really down about the time involved to be free of the weasel.........
My aunt's divorce took 7 years! yes, 7 years!
By then I would have had an emotional breakdown.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 30, 2023 23:55:19 GMT
If you ever get his race schedule and I have friends who are doing the same race, let me know and we'll trip a bastard. Great Scott, he has no shame or self-awareness. Hahahaha I bloody love this!  We have a trial date set if we can't come to a settlement, but that is not until freaking JULY. UGH. July?! OMG that feels like a lifetime away! I really hope it is all finalised well before that. But if it takes that long to nail the bastard good and proper, then it might just be worth the looooooong drawn out wait. |
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Don't worry, I didn't do anything shady. But he definitely ran it because I found his name on the race results. Unless there is another person with his name in my city who ran the exact same time as his lady friend. LOL And yes, I told my attorney. 
