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Post by putabuttononit on Dec 26, 2023 9:18:01 GMT
We had a fun day but I’m just so weepy. Last night would have been my parents 59th anniversary. He wanted to make it so badly! Mom had an extra rough day yesterday and again today. I went over and stayed until she went to bed. She hasn’t lived alone for almost sixty years, and she feels lost and adrift. Glad I live so close.
Watching my mom suffer is killing me too. This just sucks in every direction.
We had so much fun last Christmas and Dad knew it was probably his last. We all “knew” but not really. It’s too hard to grasp.
He was one of my best friends and I miss him so terribly.
(Dad passed away from pancreatic cancer in late fall)
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Post by kimba on Dec 26, 2023 10:23:18 GMT
I'm so sorry. This is how my dad feels, he was married for 63 years.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Dec 26, 2023 10:33:09 GMT
The 1st of all the holidays is always so tough.. especially these Thanksgiving, Christmas then New Years... but fathers day n his bday... also pretty tough...
As a sidenote... how are things with ur dh??? You posted about struggling... the holidays sometimes magnify that..
Big hugs wishing you the best!!
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Post by mommaho on Dec 26, 2023 10:46:20 GMT
I am sorry for your loss, even when we know it is coming it is hard as I lost my Mom this fall as well. Hugs to you and your Mom. I cry over a song, a memory, and for no reason at all and I remember doing the same thing my Dad passed in December of 1993. For me it is just easier when people ask how I'm doing I just say I am doing ok, but I'd rather not talk about it. We all grieve in our own way.
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Post by lisae on Dec 26, 2023 13:06:05 GMT
I'm so sorry. All the firsts are difficult and you had 2 right together. I'm sure your mother was grateful for your support.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 26, 2023 13:12:57 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by stormsts on Dec 26, 2023 13:17:34 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hugs to you and your mom.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 26, 2023 13:33:25 GMT
The first is always the most difficult. It does get better.
I remember the first Christmas after my Dad died. I was walking back to the bedroom and Mom met me in the hall. We both just hugged each other and shed a couple of tears. Then, we faced the day.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Dec 26, 2023 14:22:53 GMT
Huge hugs.
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Post by malibou on Dec 26, 2023 14:30:15 GMT
I'm sorry. Holding you and your mom in my gentle thoughts.
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Post by mom on Dec 26, 2023 16:03:25 GMT
I am so sorry. All the 'firsts' just horrible but they do get somewhat better. My mom has been gone 10 years in January and yesterday was the first Christmas Day I didnt cry because I missed her. Your mom is really blessed to have you so close & care so much about her.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 26, 2023 17:01:28 GMT
The first year w/o your loved one is really hard. It's a good thing that you're here for your mom and that you two can grieve together. I'm so sorry. It will get easier. This is such a fresh loss, too. You will be find happiness, again. ((((HUGS))).
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Post by katlady on Dec 26, 2023 17:09:45 GMT
I am sorry. Hugs to both you and your mom!
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Dec 26, 2023 17:15:31 GMT
I'm sorry. Hugs
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Post by quinlove on Dec 26, 2023 17:36:12 GMT
I’m so sorry. I hope that you can feel all the love being sent to you. 🩷
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Post by leeny on Dec 26, 2023 19:34:56 GMT
I am sorry. What we've learned as a family (my Dad passed 7 years ago) is that each holiday or family gathering someone brings up a happy or funny story of my Dad. To this day we still say "remember when Dad did or said..." You'll get there too. ((hugs))
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Post by baslp on Dec 26, 2023 19:36:54 GMT
Sending you a virtual hug. This is probably the hardest one to get through.
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Post by katiescarlett on Dec 27, 2023 15:58:11 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in September of this year so I know how you are feeling! Christmas was hard because it was my mom's favorite holiday. ((Hugs))
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Post by ~Susan~ on Dec 27, 2023 19:53:48 GMT
I'm so sorry....I lost my father last year to lung cancer and this Christmas seem to hit me harder than last year. I think I was still in shock from his passing.
Hugs and prayers for you and your mom.
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