What is going on with us Peas???

I’m sorry - that’s a lot for you all at once.

We've done age polls so I know that the majority of us are at that age where we are caring for our spouses, parents and in-laws. If we get a chance, we look after ourselves. Our friends are the same ages and having the same problems. It doesn't end until it ends. I think the challenge is to find some other things to discuss to balance things out a bit and usually I find that here.

It is good to have a group to lean on and to learn from. When something new pops up medical I often search here to see what experiences other Peas have had. I'm sorry to hear about your own families' struggles. I think bladder cancer has been addressed before. My dad had it but it was near the end as he had many other problems. I found out then that it is the 5th most common cancer in the US. We have a neighbor just a little older than me who was treated for it several years ago and continues to do well. I hope you find good options.

I’m sorry for all you’re going through. 

As someone else posted, we’re an aging group. In the years I’ve been a Pea I’ve lost my parents, husband, ex husband and more. The young deaths hit hard and hurt long. 

We old folk.

I’m sorry, that’s a lot to go through.

I actually think that's part of it. We are a supportive group and that makes people willing to share their needs and vulnerabilities. You can always find some sympathy/empathy and support here. And often benefit from the experience of others who have gone through it and are able to share good observations and advice.

I hope your husband and father get good treatment and I'm very sorry for the loss. You are really in the middle of a lot of worry and grief right now.

I was just coming to type this out, but will use this post. 

 I am so sorry that you are having to deal with so much. Any one of those things is rough on their own. But to have them all at one time? That is a lot. Try and take care of yourself so you can take care of the others. Also? My dad had breast cancer and is at his 5 year survivor mark. If there is anything I can do to help or you just want to talk, let me know! There aren't many who have had a male with breast cancer in their life, so I know it can be lonely when trying to deal with it. Women's breast cancer and mens breast cancer are not the same, exact beast. So finding people who have walked the 'male breast cancer' walk is vital as they can give you support that others dont often realize you need. 

The Peas, as a collective, have been there and done so much that you know you aren't alone in whatever you are dealing with. It's like we have a ton of sisters who are willing to share their advice and comfort each other through the dark times. 

Oh no! I’m sorry about your friends daughter and your dad. ( I knew about her DH) I don’t know what’s going on. I don’t know if you’re on one of the Buffalo Bills message boards, it’s online, not Facebook, but a long time poster there just posted that His wife had an aneurysm and had a stroke yesterday morning and they’re removing her life-support tomorrow. It’s just seems like when it rains it pours. praying for you and I hope your husband gets somewhat of a good report and that your dad‘s cancer is treatable.

Yes, there is a lot going on with this group of Pea-friends, as many have said, with age comes lots of things we have to deal with. Sending best wishes for healing and comfort. Take care of yourself too….

I'm sorry. It never rains but it pours.

It feels strange to count back and realise that I've been on crafting message boards for 18 years, and other message boards for at least 5 years before that. That's a lot of years.