jayfab
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Post by jayfab on Feb 6, 2024 19:11:55 GMT
Yup, my mom worked at a GM factory until she hit the 30 and out. We had 4 kids at home, we had a cousin who was a little older than us who sat at our house with my younger sibs until they were old enough to go to school.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Feb 6, 2024 20:34:20 GMT
My mom volunteered a LOT but didn't really go back to work until I was in HS. As a matter of fact, she got a job AT my HS and I was pissed LOL but it actually worked out well.
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craftymom101
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Post by craftymom101 on Feb 6, 2024 21:19:20 GMT
My mom went back to work when I was a few months old, three days per week. She worked as an SLP in a school district, which offered her flexibility and all holidays and summers off. At some point when I was a little older, she switched to four days per week, and I think she worked five days per week the last few years before retirement. I was well out of the house by then and I don't remember the specifics.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Feb 6, 2024 21:21:40 GMT
yes, always. we couldn't have afforded a home on my dad's income. even back then, living in a much cheaper province.
most of my childhood i remember my mom was a nurse in a hospital, so shifts too, days, afternoons and midnights. i used to fall asleep on the landing when she worked afternoons so she would have to pick me up and put me to bed when she got home and i would get to see her.
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Post by Neisey on Feb 6, 2024 21:30:04 GMT
I am 56, my mom is 77. She was married at 20 and had me a few months later, oops lol. She never worked full-time again but once my two younger siblings and I were in school, she did work part time as a bank teller until she was about 45. My dad had a career in banking and we moved often so this worked for our family.
None of my friends moms worked full time unless they were nursing. Different times back then for sure.
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Post by padresfan619 on Feb 6, 2024 21:34:23 GMT
Not until I was in late junior high. She always worked but not full time until I was older. I also only work part time for now, I may transition to full time when my son is in school full time but for now I prefer the flexibility of part time.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 7, 2024 0:32:30 GMT
My mum did "party plan" at night - Mary Kay for a while, then a company that sold underwear, sleepwear, and lingerie.
She went back to full time work when I was about 15yo, so my siblings would have been 10 and 13.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 7, 2024 2:36:54 GMT
My mom owned a salon when my older siblings were little. Once there were a bunch of us she sold it to her friend but still worked part time doing hair for some of her favorite elderly shut in clients until they all gradually died off. She was a SAHM for a while but after my dad passed away one of the local retailers in town that went to her church asked her if she wanted to work part time in the store while we were in school and she said sure. She did that for years and years, even after we moved out of the area. We were only home alone-ish for about an hour and an half after school, meaning my older brother was technically home but he was usually half stoned, LOL. Eventually mom got sick of driving into the city in the winter so she “retired” at that point.
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Post by chaosisapony on Feb 7, 2024 3:29:07 GMT
Yes she did, but my dad was a stay at home dad. When I was about 8 both parents worked and I had a key and bike and that's all I needed.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Feb 7, 2024 3:48:00 GMT
Nope. Never worked. Still doesn't work.
Very outspoken about what is wrong with the lazy, unmotivated "kids" these days.
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Post by wordyphotogbabe on Feb 7, 2024 17:19:02 GMT
I believe that my mother stayed at home for a year after my sister was born when I was 4. After that, she worked full-time as a teacher until she retired. She worked-full time as a teacher, volunteered at our church, took my sister and me to all of our appointments and extra-curriculars, and did all of the housework. My father worked full-time as well but worked a lot of evenings and weekends so he was just not around much. I was happy when she was able to retire early at 55 or so. She is now in her mid-70s and continues to keep herself just as busy as she did back then. I don't remember having any good friends who had SAHMs. Since my mom worked for a different school district, she was not always home before we got off the bus but I wouldn't have spent more than an hour or so at home alone before she got there. There were a few Spring Breaks once my sister and I were older where we spent the whole week at home because she had a different Spring Break and was at work.
I was a SAHM for both of my kids (but not by choice) until they were both around 3 years old. Although I'm grateful to have been able to spend that concentrated time with them, I did not really enjoy it and am not good at it. They went to school out of district so they were never home alone after school.
I now work FT from home, and my husband has been a SAHD for the last 6 months, and it's the best ever. We're both able to spend at least a little bit of time with the kids every day, even on the nights when their dad comes and picks them up, and while there have been times where they stayed home alone after school, it's more likely to happen if my husband and I are out on a date night or on vacation (and they're taking the bus home and waiting for their dad to pick them up after work). Since they spend so much time alone at their dad's house on the weekends he has them, I try to spend most of the time they are with us with them.
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Feb 7, 2024 17:43:32 GMT
No. My mom quit work in 1962 when she was pregnant with my oldest brother. The only paid work she ever did was help out with the voting every election day.
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on Feb 7, 2024 19:16:52 GMT
My mom never worked outside the home.
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Post by snugglebutter on Feb 8, 2024 2:36:34 GMT
My parents divorced when I was a baby, so my mom always worked. She was a teacher, so I was only in daycare up to age 5. I sat around bored quite a bit through after school meetings, tutoring etc.
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stittsygirl
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Post by stittsygirl on Feb 8, 2024 3:15:47 GMT
Yes, as a nurse. She went back to school when I was eight and got her degree and license when I was 12. She has worked ever since.
She’s 76 and still working as a nurse, though with a desk job now. She’s a doomsday prepper, didn’t actually plan to retire, and is still waiting for the end of times. It’s sad, but at least she can still work.
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Post by disneypal on Feb 8, 2024 15:57:50 GMT
No, my mom was a SAHM until we were teenagers.
She then got a PT job (10-2) at Richway, which eventually became Target. She just wanted something more to do and wanted to make some new friends.
I feel fortunate that she was able to be a SAHM
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Feb 8, 2024 17:47:10 GMT
My mom was a SAHW/SAHM until I was around 11 and we moved to a small town where she and my dad bought a drug store. My dad was a hospital pharmacist before that, and this was always his dream.
It wasn't really her dream, but she worked PT(mostly)there for the 27 years they were in business. She was in charge of buying the decor/gifts/cards and helping with all non-pharmacy buying/management. She didn't want to be the "manager" but at times, she had to take on the role. She also made food for every-single worker's birthday/special occasion, etc..., so probably at least twice a month, she baked something or made a meal for all the workers. Many workers still have vert fond memories of that and working there.
She was also an active volunteer/organizer during those years(she also did a lot before she worked too---cub/girl scouts, religious CCD classes, etc...)
They closed the store and sold off the RXs, about 12 years ago. When my dad got sick they moved close to us about 9 years ago. She hasn't worked a day since. I wish she had because she struggles due to a lack of socialization/movement since my dad died five years ago. I think my mom worked full-time for about 2 yrs between leaving college and getting married.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Feb 8, 2024 17:59:10 GMT
Not when I was very young. When I was in middle school, my mom went back to work. I'd come home and let myself in and have the house to myself for about an hour before she got home.
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Post by MZF on Feb 8, 2024 19:41:31 GMT
No, but I grew up in the 50's and 60's when a lot of moms stayed home. Same....
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Feb 8, 2024 20:22:34 GMT
My mom was home with us until we hit high school. My Dad worked a LOT to make that happen. He was always a firefighter/EMT (he got more money for being a firefighter with EMT certification) but worked other jobs to supplement that income: was on the fire department dive team (again more money), window washer, iron worker, worked as a stock boy at the local liquor store, drove a guy running for governor around. He worked a lot. When my Mom went back to work he was down to firefighter/emt/dive team.
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Post by melanell on Feb 9, 2024 0:09:22 GMT
No. My mother stopped working at all when her oldest was born, and she did not work at all for the first 9 years after that. At that point she started a string of different part-time jobs, some of which overlapped.
Then eventually, once all of the kids were old enough to come home and be on their own for an hour or two, she a part-time office job which she stayed with right up until COVID. But even once all of the kids had left the nest, she still never went back to full-time work.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Feb 9, 2024 0:48:08 GMT
Always. Well, she was either in school or working - she was getting her teaching degree but also she worked at my school (as a librarian); she waitressed; she worked in a Hallmark store; she worked at a post office - she and my dad cobbled together jobs (he drove a meat truck; was a security guard at a motel; was a stock broker...) until he became successful. She finally got her teaching degree and then taught kindergarten in East Harlem for 20 years or so.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Feb 9, 2024 5:09:21 GMT
No. My mom had 5 kids in 7 years, no multiples. My dad was in the Air Force and they moved a lot. And it was the 50s/60s. She had some occasional part time jobs when we were older but she never worked full time.
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Post by jlynnbarth on Feb 9, 2024 8:53:54 GMT
I’m 54. My Mom went to work full time when I was in 5th grade and my sister was in 2nd grade. We were latch key kids. We would come home, eat a bowl of cereal as a snack (not allowed to turn on the stove), watch Little House on the prairie reruns, do whatever chores were on our lists, do homework and then went outside to play with friends. When our parents got home at 5:30 we went in and had dinner.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 9, 2024 18:07:52 GMT
Yes. My parents split up when I was 4. My dad was hit or miss with support. He had a good job at GM, my mom had been a housewife since leaving high school. My mom's older sister babysat me and my brother and we lived with her for a few years. When we moved back with my mom I was 10 and my brother and I were true latchkey kids then.
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Post by fotos4u2 on Feb 9, 2024 18:53:02 GMT
Not surprised that I'm one of the few odd men out. Not only did my mom work full time most of my life (went back when I was 2) but both my grandmothers also worked full time most of their kids lives (one as a social worker and the other an elementary school teacher). My mom actually never understood how I could find being a stay at home mom fulfilling. When my parents were together my dad was actually more active in parenting than my mom. I sometimes wonder if I'd been born in a later generation if he'd have been a stay at home dad. Of course, I also wonder if there wasn't societal pressure to have children if my mom would've just skipped parenting altogether. She's been an awesome grandmother to my kids, but I kind of felt like I was raised by daycare workers and then later by myself). I was in full time care from 7am-6pm M-F until I turned 11 and decided I'd rather be a latchkey kid. I recently found out that my dad & stepmom fought for custody of me after the divorce, but lost. It's possible that my stepmom might have "stayed home" with me had they won as she eventually did that with my half sister (had an in home daycare).
My childhood had some trauma that probably could've been avoided if I had had a parent who stayed home so it's not overly surprising that I decided to stay at home with my kids even though it was probably not the best long term idea (it forced me to stay too long in an unhappy marriage and now that the kids are grown I've struggled to get a good full time job that will fully support me and let me retire before I die).
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