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Post by katlady on Feb 6, 2024 4:06:23 GMT
When you were young, say under the age of 12, did your mom work outside the house full-time?
My mom went back to work full-time when I was 1. Many of my aunts worked full-time too, and even the mom's of lots of my friends. Maybe it is because we lived in a big city and it was more expensive, so two-income families were the norm. And I am close to retirement age, so I am not young. My friends and I were latch-key kids and we would go over to each others houses after school. We would go home when we knew it was getting close to the time our parents were coming home from work.
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Post by librarylady on Feb 6, 2024 4:12:22 GMT
Yes and no. My father became disabled when I was 10. That meant my mother (and the children) assumed the job of running the dairy farm and all the work that entailed. She was on the property but working. She got up at 5 AM and went to the barn to begin the milking. The older teenagers got up a little later and went to help until 7, when they returned home to get ready for school. When I was about 13 I was old enough for the dairy barn work.
We didn't get to go to anyone's home. Friends could come to visit and on rare occasions I spent the night with a GF.
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Post by seaexplore on Feb 6, 2024 4:18:39 GMT
My mom started a job as a kindergarten aide when I was 12 and my youngest (of 4) sibling started kindergarten. She did that until she retired. Not sure how many years. Before she had me and when I was really young (like can’t remember) she was a bank teller. My dad was in school for his teaching credential and masters and worked for the state department of Ed when I was little until I was 35 when he retired.
There was always a parent home when we got home.
My DH and his sister were latchkey kids. His dad was an auto tech repair person who worked until 5-6 pm and his mom was a waitress who worked whatever hours she could get. The kids often went home to an empty house.
I work as a teacher and DH is a SAHD. My kids don’t come home to an empty house.
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Post by breetheflea on Feb 6, 2024 4:18:44 GMT
Not until I was in 4th or 5th grade (age 10 or 11.) Then my parents worked opposite shifts so my dad was leaving for work when I got home from school and my mom got home an hour later.
My mom quit her 9-5 M-F job when I was 16, and then worked retail, so then her schedule was more all over the place.
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Post by busy on Feb 6, 2024 4:20:46 GMT
Yes. My mom always worked. She owned an accounting firm before I was born until we moved from Oregon to Washington when I was 10. She was senior partner at a large firm where we moved for a few years, and then was the CFO of a medical company until she retired.
My dad was an engineering manager at a major tech company; my mom didn't need to work when we were young but she wanted to.
Before I was old enough for school, I spent days at our babysitter's house and my brother would walk there after school (as did I once I was in school). She would drop us off at home when one of our parents got home.
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Post by Linda on Feb 6, 2024 4:22:17 GMT
no - she worked before marriage (teacher) but was a stay-at-home mum until Dad retired (Army) when I was almost 10. She worked as a substitute teacher after that and then in my mid-teens, worked very part-time, first at a video store and then at JCP. She went back to fulltime teaching when my dad died - at that point I was 19 and my sister 15.
My grandma (b.1903), on the other hand, was a working mum. She worked before her marriage and then once her kids (b. 1936 and 1941) were schoolage -her parents lived with her so she had built-in childcare. Her mother (my great granny b.1869) was also a working mum - she ran a boarding house.
I worked when my oldest(now 32) was 2.5 until I had my second when he was 9 but I've been a sahm since. I'm 53 now and only have my third at home but I don't forsee returning to the workforce.
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Post by dewryce on Feb 6, 2024 4:27:56 GMT
Yes. She was single from when I was a toddler until I was 10 or so and our sole support. I don’t remember a time when she didn’t work at least full time.
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Post by pantsonfire on Feb 6, 2024 4:29:22 GMT
No. It wasn't until I was 8 years old that she went back to part time work. And she stayed in that position until she retired. My grandma and grandpa helped out with pick ups, when I was sick and my mom couldn't take a day off, during summer when year around became a thing.
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 6, 2024 4:32:09 GMT
Nope. Full time SAHM. I remember her working in the house all day before I went to kindergarten. She then became involved in a lot of church activities when I went to school with my older brothers. We had home cooked meals for everything but weekday breakfasts. We went out to eat maybe once or twice a year.
ETA: My grandma lived with us and was in a wheelchair. My mom took care of her mom until I turned 11.
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Post by Zee on Feb 6, 2024 4:32:16 GMT
I think I was 8 or 9 when my dad got laid off from his job at Caterpillar, so my mom got a job. My dad did other part time jobs for a bit. They taught night school classes and my mom also helped her mom with her advertising business (but it was a small business and grandma couldn't pay a full time position).
Eventually they got divorced when I was about 11 and Mom had a steady 9-5 job, so did Dad, but they both paid minimally. The area was pretty depressed at that time with lots of farm machinery places closing down and outsourcing. The economy sucked in the early 80s in the "farm belt" for people that worked at Deere, CAT, IH, etc.
I was responsible for myself and my (five years younger) sister after school from about the age of 10 onward. At first we had a babysitter to go to after school but I think I was a strong advocate of being able to do it myself. Plus, that was money we couldn't much afford.
I had my Kangaroo shoes with the little pocket that I kept my key in on one side and a quarter for an emergency call in the other, in case we had to call for a ride or something, but that really never happened.
I was always pretty independent and I'm sure that helped.
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Post by valincal on Feb 6, 2024 4:33:23 GMT
My mom worked full time from the time I was school age until I graduated. As the oldest child I had a lot of responsibility from a pretty early age.
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Post by Basket1lady on Feb 6, 2024 4:37:34 GMT
No. It wasn't until I was 8 years old that she went back to part time work. And she stayed in that position until she retired. My grandma and grandpa helped out with pick ups, when I was sick and my mom couldn't take a day off, during summer when year around became a thing. Yes and no. Mom started working when my younger brother was in kindergarten, so I was in second grade. I would have been 7-8 years old. We went to a neighbor’s house for an hour or so until Dad got home. When I was 10, I started babysitting my brother after school so that mom didn’t have to pay the neighbor lady, but my brother still went there in the summer. I may have for a year or so, but then just stayed home myself once I started babysitting (at age 10)! Can you imagine hiring a 10 year old to babysit your kids?!! I don’t remember anyone ever getting us when we were kids if we were sick. They both worked in Minneapolis, which was a good 45 minutes from the elementary school and an hour from the MS/HS.
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Post by ntsf on Feb 6, 2024 4:39:40 GMT
no.. my mom quit working when she had kids and never went back. i only knew one mom of a friend who worked.. the norm was a mom at home. I even came home for lunch every day in elementary school.
she had a masters in nursing.. and she maintained her license til she was 65. She always had a back up plan. dad was an engineer and he ran a small ski school on winter weekends.
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Post by paget on Feb 6, 2024 4:43:37 GMT
She did. She worked before my brother was born and kept working only taking short maternity leaves. She was a teacher. I went to a babysitters house before school and after kindergarten. Once I was in school I went with her in the mornings and read before school and after school I’d play on the playground, read, help with things in her classroom.
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Post by Gennifer on Feb 6, 2024 5:08:11 GMT
Not outside the home, but she had an in-home daycare.
(Plus me and my seven siblings.)
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Post by pancakes on Feb 6, 2024 5:11:45 GMT
I was pretty little when my mom went back to work. Maybe 4 or 5? My parents sort of switched roles at that point before they both were going into work full time.
Meanwhile I went back to work when my daughter was 11 weeks old. Aside from some months where I was laid off, she’s only known me and my husband to work. Fortunately, we both work remotely from home.
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Post by garcia5050 on Feb 6, 2024 5:17:38 GMT
My mom worked the whole time I was in school. We went to a babysitter’s only for a couple of years (when I was 5 and 6). I was 7 when I became a latchkey kid. It was 3 of us though. My brother was 10, sister was 9 and I was 7. We walked home after school and then my sister and I had to do a ton of chores by the time my mom came home from work. She got home around 4:45, so we weren’t home alone for very long. It wasn’t fun for me. Those chores were endless. And then my brother always had his friends over and I ended up having to feed them in between all those chores. It sucked.
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Post by myshelly on Feb 6, 2024 5:32:02 GMT
No
When all of us were school aged she started subbing (she was a teacher before she had kids) at the school we attended.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Feb 6, 2024 5:34:01 GMT
No, but I grew up in the 50's and 60's when a lot of moms stayed home.
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Post by luckyjune on Feb 6, 2024 5:35:55 GMT
She did not. When all of us were done with school, she worked part-time for her "mad money."
My mom did have quite a scare, though, when my dad had a heart attack at age 36. Had he not survived, she would have been the sole breadwinner for our family. She had some college credits and the work experience she had before I was born (bank teller, dental assistant) but no way to fully support a family. Do I think she would have found a way? Most certainly. She's smart and determined and we would have been just fine. Luckily, my dad survived and they are both in their 80s and doing great.
This did cause my parents to insist my sister and I got college degrees leading to careers that could support ourselves and a family. I'm thankful for that and how they paid for both our schooling so we would not have debt.
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 6, 2024 5:36:49 GMT
She started working when I was like 12 I think, she worked part time (3 days a week) as a computer programmer…(when I was younger she went back to school and got a second degree in math).
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Post by milocat on Feb 6, 2024 5:39:14 GMT
My mom worked 2-3 days a week, I was around 6. My dad is a farmer so once my sister and I were a bit older we went home on the bus. Dad was in the yard but he didn't come in until supper, but could have be yelled for in an emergency. Mom only worked until 4:30 and was home before 5. She never did work full time, later she had a different job that was seasonal, only 0.4 of the year at the most and less as time went on.
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 6, 2024 6:02:01 GMT
No. My mom did daycare for my kindergarten teacher for a number of years and then got a job in a school cafeteria. She left after us and was home before us. This was the 80s
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 6, 2024 6:25:37 GMT
My father, an attorney, died of a heart attack when I was three and my brother was six. My mother never planned on working, but she had to go to work to support my brother and I. She worked in a shoe shop for awhile and then took a huge chance and opened a women’s clothing shop. She operated her store successfully for the next twenty years’ or so.
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Post by snyder on Feb 6, 2024 6:28:21 GMT
My mom worked a few years after she got married as a waitress, but quit after having my older brother and sister. She did a couple of gig jobs as friends and family asked her to join them. They were like 2 weeks at book manufacturing companies; maybe 4 or 5 times total. She would fill in for a friend taking care of her laundromat when she vacationed, but other than that, she was a stay a home mom.
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Post by Ryann on Feb 6, 2024 6:53:57 GMT
Yes and no.
She was on welfare the first two years of my life. Worked part time for a while then full time once I started school. I grew up with the Boys & Girls club and my grandma (who was a nanny) as my after school/summer care. I became a latchkey kid at 12.
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Post by sueg on Feb 6, 2024 7:24:59 GMT
Until she became pregnant with me, my mum worked in a chemical laboratory. She had to leave then, firstly as they had been 'generous' in allowing her to continue working after marriage (this was 1960!) and secondly because of the danger of the substances she was working with. She then proceeded to have another 6 children after me, at an average of 18 months apart, so she never really had time to go back to work. She was always - even with several babies in tow - active in our communities, but never paid employment. Sadly, she died aged 48, when her youngest children were only 16, just after she qualified to be a tax consultant.
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Post by rainangel on Feb 6, 2024 9:47:12 GMT
The year I started school was the year she started working. By then, my older sister was in 4th grade, and my younger brother was 2 years old. He is the only one of us who went to daycare. There actually wasn't any daycare available until then either, at least within a reasonable distance from where we lived. She worked full-time in the same job she started in, and retired last summer after 37 years. She worked in a government office.
At the time (1986) we lived in a newly built neighborhood, and most people were young families.There was a good mix of women who worked and didn't worked. By the mid 90's most of them seemed to be working. That probably coincided with the kids starting school.
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Post by gar on Feb 6, 2024 10:56:33 GMT
No. My Mum had a job in a bank briefly in her late teens/20s but gave up work when she had my sister and I and was in the privileged position of never working again and equally I was privileged to always come home to my Mum there.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Feb 6, 2024 11:06:19 GMT
My mother quit her job the day she found out she was pregnant with my oldest sister in 1959. She was working at a chemical plant, and the doctor said she would put the baby at risk if she kept working.
She had the first 5 kids over a 5-year stretch, and number 6 arrived 7 years later. My younger brother (number 5) has intellectual and physical disabilities, and Mom has been his primary caregiver all his life, so she never returned to a job outside the home even after we were all grown.
We lived on a farm, so we were too busy to go visit friends after school, especially since we had an hour-long bus ride home. We did have a few neighbors within walking distance who would come to our house or we would go to theirs on weekends or in the summer. I never had a friend sleepover, though, and I don’t remember ever going to a friend’s house for a sleepover, either.
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