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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 16, 2024 14:49:09 GMT
DS will be attempting to distance himself, but adult will still be in the friend group and DS does not want to (nor do I want him to) nor should he have to give up the group, so there is only so much distancing that can occur. Adult is not in any position of authority over anyone. Is the rest of the group around the age of your son? Or is it mixed? I can't come up with a scenario where a 20 something has hung around with a group of younger teenagers regularly. He might not have any official authority over any of them but his age with automatically give him some appearance of 'authority' to some younger kids. I can’t envision this scenario either. My kid is an 8th grader and her oldest friends are 10th graders that she met when she was in 6th and they were at the same school. Sometimes I kind of wonder why her high school friends still want to hang out with middle school kids so I would really wonder why a 20 year old would want to be around younger teens unless they were in some type of supervisory role.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Mar 16, 2024 15:14:51 GMT
Being that myshelly mentioned it was a toy/gaming item, my guess is that she drops her teen off at a gaming store/hangout place (that allows this) and he plays games, perhaps something like D&D or Magic, with a group of mixed-age folks...prob. some other teens, and some young adults. My son, now 21, did the same once he turned around 16 or 17, and still plays now.
Our local game stores have separate rooms set up for gaming events, that are attached to the main shops. So my 21-year-old is often in groups with kids that are minor teens, that he's not "in charge" of. Around here, the kids do have to be older teens to be dropped off by parents.
Obv. I'm just speculating here...but I don't think it's super weird that her son is around a young adult for some recreational purpose like this, at a place of business.
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Post by Basket1lady on Mar 16, 2024 20:33:28 GMT
Being that myshelly mentioned it was a toy/gaming item, my guess is that she drops her teen off at a gaming store/hangout place (that allows this) and he plays games, perhaps something like D&D or Magic, with a group of mixed-age folks...prob. some other teens, and some young adults. My son, now 21, did the same once he turned around 16 or 17, and still plays now. Our local game stores have separate rooms set up for gaming events, that are attached to the main shops. So my 21-year-old is often in groups with kids that are minor teens, that he's not "in charge" of. Around here, the kids do have to be older teens to be dropped off by parents. Obv. I'm just speculating here...but I don't think it's super weird that her son is around a young adult for some recreational purpose like this, at a place of business. This was my guess as well. Especially since in these types of groups, kids will often mature slower than their counterparts and aren’t as interested in being cool. They just want to hang out with others who have the same interests and can debate the merits of a dice roll or aspects of a character. This could compound the worry for the younger child, as it could be that the adult was stealing from the business that allows them the gaming space and they don’t want to lose that privilege. The LDS church was really known in our area when we lived in Virginia for these groups of mixed ages. DH went with DS a few times because it seemed so odd to us that a young adult wanted to hang with the teens, but it was just all a group that was very, very passionate about Pokémon.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 17, 2024 1:42:12 GMT
Being that myshelly mentioned it was a toy/gaming item, my guess is that she drops her teen off at a gaming store/hangout place (that allows this) and he plays games, perhaps something like D&D or Magic, with a group of mixed-age folks...prob. some other teens, and some young adults. My son, now 21, did the same once he turned around 16 or 17, and still plays now. Our local game stores have separate rooms set up for gaming events, that are attached to the main shops. So my 21-year-old is often in groups with kids that are minor teens, that he's not "in charge" of. Around here, the kids do have to be older teens to be dropped off by parents. Obv. I'm just speculating here...but I don't think it's super weird that her son is around a young adult for some recreational purpose like this, at a place of business. I hadn’t considered something like that but it does make more sense. We don’t ever hang out at stores like that so that thought never even crossed my mind.
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