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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 19, 2024 13:51:41 GMT
This is weird. In my department there are currently five of us. One of them, their wife is expecting a baby. Last week an email went out saying our department is hosting a baby shower. No one said a word to me about it (like to help, donate, decorate, etc.) which is fine by me.. I have done the whole being the arranger of parties over my lifetime. So anyways, I get the email just like the rest of the staff and just thought it was weird that is said 'so and so department is hosting a baby shower for John Smith and his wife" and I was like "I am?  ". I heard my boss was picking up stuff for the party today. I know she is paying out of pocket and probably the other coworker. My plan is to just attend the party and give a gift and be done with it. A little voice in my head popped up and said something like 'who is paying for this stuff' and maybe I should offer to chip in. In all honesty, I don't think I am. No one included me in the planning so.... And just to put it out there. There are no feelings hurt over this or issues with the co-workers. Everything is good. All this is just thoughts in my little head. |
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Post by busy on Mar 19, 2024 14:02:02 GMT
I personally would ask how I could help. IIRC, you're pretty new there so perhaps they didn't ask you to be a part since you are still getting to know people. But if I were in those shoes, I'd offer to at least financially contribute, to indicate being part of the department/team.
By no means should you feel obligated. Totally personal choice.
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Post by smasonnc on Mar 19, 2024 14:14:10 GMT
No one included me in the planning so.... Taxation without representation. Had they included you, it would be appropriate to chip in, but they have decided FOR YOU that your department is hosting a shower. Seems like they've got it handled. |
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 19, 2024 14:27:18 GMT
I would offer help or to make something but I certainly would not fault/judge anyone who didn’t want to.
Usually I am the one feeling bad because no one is stepping up to celebrate whatever (I have a small multi shift department where the majority wouldn’t even think about having a party for some things 😄). My manager is the only other one that would probably plan something and we are close so she would include me in the beginning and it would probably only be on us. It would be great to every now and then to just pick something to contribute and let the rest be on someone else.
ETA - so I answered no for should you donate (the poll question), no I think you have no obligation to. But I would answer yes to the question would I offer to donate. Clear as mud? 😆
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Post by ellen on Mar 19, 2024 15:16:04 GMT
I think it sounds like they have it handled. When other people planned things like this at my workplace I often asked if they wanted me to bring something. Sometimes they said they had everything taken care of and other times they said yes.
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Post by fkawitchypea on Mar 19, 2024 23:07:07 GMT
It sounds like they have it handled and just want to invite you to particpate. I will never forget that on my second day at my state job I took a giant pay cut for and a pay lag which means I didn't get a check for 6 weeks, they came around because our boss got appointed to our agency board. They said I don't have to attend the party but did I want to make a donation? Ummmm...no. Met the guy once. I would bring a nominal gift and give my best wishes.
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Post by littlemama on Mar 19, 2024 23:24:19 GMT
If "the department" is throwing the shower, that means to me that the company is paying for it. 🤷🏼♀️
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 20, 2024 4:22:58 GMT
Just enjoy the fact that someone else is taking care of it.
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 20, 2024 14:10:03 GMT
If "the department" is throwing the shower, that means to me that the company is paying for it. 🤷🏼♀️ No, the department is throwing the shower, not the company. As in there is five of us in the department. Our school wouldn't cover something like this. Update.. nothing was said, there was really only cupcakes and the decorations were already bought because my boss' daughter is also expecting a baby so she just reused what she had from the week before. I gave a nice gift (to my co-worker and one to my boss for her daughter) and left it at that. |
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Post by littlemama on Mar 20, 2024 15:24:18 GMT
If "the department" is throwing the shower, that means to me that the company is paying for it. 🤷🏼♀️ No, the department is throwing the shower, not the company. As in there is five of us in the department. Our school wouldn't cover something like this. Update.. nothing was said, there was really only cupcakes and the decorations were already bought because my boss' daughter is also expecting a baby so she just reused what she had from the week before. I gave a nice gift (to my co-worker and one to my boss for her daughter) and left it at that. Oh, that statement was meant to be flippant. I dislike when companies expect their employees to pay for gatherings for other employees. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 20, 2024 19:11:48 GMT
No, the department is throwing the shower, not the company. As in there is five of us in the department. Our school wouldn't cover something like this. Update.. nothing was said, there was really only cupcakes and the decorations were already bought because my boss' daughter is also expecting a baby so she just reused what she had from the week before. I gave a nice gift (to my co-worker and one to my boss for her daughter) and left it at that. Oh, that statement was meant to be flippant. I dislike when companies expect their employees to pay for gatherings for other employees. awww gotcha!! |
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