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Post by Mary_K on May 2, 2024 15:22:58 GMT
I work in an office with 4 others.
The newest arrived about 2 weeks ago and over those 2 weeks we've noticed he comments on EVERYTHING.
Comments on what you are wearing, eating, doing.
"So you wore blue today".
"So you're having a protein drink."
"Making copies, huh?"
Literally everything is commented on - non-stop.
Someone brought in a couple of dozen donuts on Monday. Coworkers from another office were welcome to come and get one. EVERYONE that got a donut got a comment. "Oh, couldn't stay away from the donuts!" "What kind of donut are you trying?" "Oh, yeah, I'm thinking of having a second one too!"
Dear Lord, we're going crazy.
We really thought it would taper off after a few days but are starting to realize that is him.
Just a vent.
Mary K
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Post by Merge on May 2, 2024 16:05:00 GMT
That would make me stabby. Can you work with earbuds in most of the time?
ETA (more thoughtful response): he's likely trying to be friendly/make connections and doesn't have great skills for that, plus he doesn't know any of you well enough to do normal things like ask about your kids. Could you all go to lunch together? Helping him feel more secure and part of the group may reduce his need to connect with you all in other ways.
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Post by Lurkingpea on May 2, 2024 16:07:28 GMT
Reminds me of an SNL skit. How annoying.
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Post by littlemama on May 2, 2024 16:07:54 GMT
Ever see the Rob Shnheider SNL skit "Makin' Copies"?
Options are:
-Befriend her and tell her it's annoying
-Ignore her
-Give her a blank stare when she says stuff
-respond "Yes, why?"
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Post by iluvpink on May 2, 2024 16:10:32 GMT
Yup, that would definitely make me batty.
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Post by Tearisci on May 2, 2024 16:22:24 GMT
Oh man, that makes me glad that my office is the couch and my coworker has 4 legs.
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Post by epeanymous on May 2, 2024 16:26:21 GMT
It's super annoying when people do that. It does seem like he's trying to make conversation/connection and this is his irritating way of doing it. It really may calm down when he feels more comfortable.
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Post by Mary_K on May 2, 2024 16:38:35 GMT
It's super annoying when people do that. It does seem like he's trying to make conversation/connection and this is his irritating way of doing it. It really may calm down when he feels more comfortable. I'm sure hoping so! Mary K |
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Post by christine58 on May 2, 2024 17:17:18 GMT
Any chance he’s on the spectrum?
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Post by Mary_K on May 2, 2024 17:19:25 GMT
Any chance he’s on the spectrum? Now that you mention it - I suppose he could be! Something to consider. Mary K |
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Post by librarylady on May 2, 2024 20:02:04 GMT
I agree with a previous post. He has poor social skills and is trying to be a part of the group.
Take him to lunch with several coworkers as a "welcome to our workplace" event. Try to get to know him and vice versa. Hopefully that will improve things.
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Post by 950nancy on May 2, 2024 21:25:10 GMT
Reminds me of an SNL skit. How annoying. That was my exact thought too. He would drive me nuts. I used to work with a lady who sighed every 2-4 minutes. Everything was so hard. She hated her job. She hated some of the kids. She hated the 20 second walk to the bathroom. When she walked into the room, my whole body had a negative reaction. She was fired. |
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Post by flanz on May 2, 2024 21:31:45 GMT
Reminds me of an SNL skit. How annoying. That was my exact thought too. He would drive me nuts. I used to work with a lady who sighed every 2-4 minutes. Everything was so hard. She hated her job. She hated some of the kids. She hated the 20 second walk to the bathroom. When she walked into the room, my whole body had a negative reaction. She was fired. dreadful! |
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Post by flanz on May 2, 2024 21:33:03 GMT
That sounds super annoying mary_K!! ((( hugs ))) I wonder if going to lunch as a group might help, as others have suggested. Might be worth a try. And I like the suggestion of working with noise cancelling headphones or earbuds!! |
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Post by busy on May 2, 2024 21:36:37 GMT
he's likely trying to be friendly/make connections and doesn't have great skills for that, plus he doesn't know any of you well enough to do normal things like ask about your kids. Could you all go to lunch together? Helping him feel more secure and part of the group may reduce his need to connect with you all in other ways. This is what I think is going on. He's trying to find connection and nothing is hitting, so he sprays and prays with everything he sees. I can see how it would be annoying, but also, potentially solvable. |
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Post by AussieMeg on May 3, 2024 0:05:57 GMT
Ugh, that sounds so annoying!
I remember many decades ago, when I was in my 20s, an older man came into our team. He was very similar to your new colleague. He was always making comments, and complimenting people: "You are looking pretty in pink today." Most people thought he was creepy, and even though I also thought he was a bit creepy, and a bit of a try-hard, I knew that he was just trying to fit in. I actually 'knew' him from outside of work - he was the brother-in-law of our good friend neighbours. He didn't know who I was though. I knew his background, he had his own business that had gone bust, hence he had to come work in an entry level job.
As an aside, the poor bloke ended up taking his own life a couple of years later.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 3, 2024 19:12:45 GMT
That would make a complete Seinfeld episode. This is probably the way his is and all you can do is try your best to ignore it or you can make it a drinking game. Perhaps put a quarter in a jar everytime he does it and in a couple months maybe you can all use it as a kitty for lunch.
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Post by Gem Girl on May 3, 2024 21:12:44 GMT
I agree with others who stated that he's probably trying to be friendly. There are some people, however, who feel compelled to state every thought. Things don't usually end well for them.
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Post by Gem Girl on May 3, 2024 21:16:57 GMT
That would make a complete Seinfeld episode. This is probably the way his is and all you can do is try your best to ignore it or you can make it a drinking game. Perhaps put a quarter in a jar everytime he does it and in a couple months maybe you can all use it as a kitty for lunch. Reminds me of the one with the guy who was a "Close Talker." He didn't know he was doing anything that made people feed odd, either. www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRZ5RpsytRA |
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Post by samantha25 on May 3, 2024 23:56:09 GMT
That would make a complete Seinfeld episode. This is probably the way his is and all you can do is try your best to ignore it or you can make it a drinking game. Perhaps put a quarter in a jar everytime he does it and in a couple months maybe you can all use it as a kitty for lunch. Reminds me of the one with the guy who was a "Close Talker." He didn't know he was doing anything that made people feed odd, either. www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRZ5RpsytRA Oh so funny with Judge Reinhold. If you notice, Jerry's mom is totally smiling and breaking character when he's close-talking to her. |
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Post by chaosisapony on May 4, 2024 0:28:41 GMT
The new employee in my office is super annoying too. She's loud and insists on speaking loudly across the room instead of walking over to the person she is speaking to. She laughs at nearly any comment or situation. She's just way too much. I've started wearing earbuds at work and I have never even been tempted to do that at work.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 4, 2024 16:39:44 GMT
Sounds like he is trying to >> fit in, be one of the group, be part of the team, saying anything to join in the office camaraderie, present forth that he is a friendly team player.
He's the "trying way too hard" new guy. Sounds like he's an extrovert.
Being the new person can be daunting and feel overwhelming.
New job = new people, new procedures and protocols, hoping to not make a mistake, trying to make a good impression, trying to show that you're a team player, etc..
I'd give him a break and cut him some slack.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 4, 2024 16:55:05 GMT
That would make a complete Seinfeld episode. This is probably the way his is and all you can do is try your best to ignore it or you can make it a drinking game. Perhaps put a quarter in a jar everytime he does it and in a couple months maybe you can all use it as a kitty for lunch. Reminds me of the one with the guy who was a "Close Talker." He didn't know he was doing anything that made people feed odd, either. www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRZ5RpsytRA That's what made me think of it. Great minds think alike. |
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Post by MorningPerson on May 5, 2024 12:10:33 GMT
That would make a complete Seinfeld episode. This is probably the way his is and all you can do is try your best to ignore it or you can make it a drinking game. Perhaps put a quarter in a jar everytime he does it and in a couple months maybe you can all use it as a kitty for lunch. Please don’t do this. I’m just imagining if this was my son or brother. Usually when someone seems to lack social awareness there is a good reason. The quarter in a jar thing seems mean spirited. |
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