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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 23, 2014 20:43:09 GMT
Thank you to those who got that it wasn't a "dead animal" pic, but me using the Kitchenaid.
Yes, DD doesn't eat meat. Or dairy. Or nuts. Or wheat. The list of what she doesn't eat is long. She eats raw fruits and vegetables. For dinner she adds legumes.
I'm thrilled she has found a nutrition plan she feels good on. After her struggles with food that started as a young teen, seeing her happy and proud of herself is wonderful. Hearing her constantly lecturing others who eat meat, dairy, eggs, wheat, nuts, etc is not so wonderful.
I admit that day I was disappointed she felt the need to lecture me about the naturally occurring hormones in the good meat I was working on. I have never lectured her about her choices, and have defended same to her skeptical siblings. If you're curious, Google " Freelee the banana girl" this is who she follows.
I appreciate the suggestions to just leave well enough alone. DD seems ok with me. And I can post pics without worrying they are upsetting her, or expect to get texts telling me I'm eating wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2014 20:50:21 GMT
I can't get past the 15 bananas a day. My stomach hurts after one.
Leave her be for a while. Hopefully she will come around and the two of you will reconcile.
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Post by luckyexwife on Dec 23, 2014 20:54:27 GMT
Honesty, I'm not seeing any drama. You posted something she didn't like, and she quietly quit following you. Follow her lead, and let it go. No need to create drama where there is none.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Dec 24, 2014 5:15:40 GMT
Don't mention it.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 24, 2014 6:29:58 GMT
If you're curious, Google " Freelee the banana girl" this is who she follows. Well that was 20 minutes of my life I'll never get back. I finally had to stop reading that Banana Girl's FB page the 328th comment about how eating raw will cure you of cancer and oncologists are quacks.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 24, 2014 8:26:56 GMT
Yes, I agree with Jane, I think she's fixated on this as "healthy". She's been diagnosed with diabetes, but it was during a time of heavy binging, so I don't know if that threw the numbers off.
I hate to think what so much straight carbs in her diet is doing to her, but she's a grown up and I must be supportive or I could make things worse.
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Post by SabrinaM on Dec 24, 2014 14:03:51 GMT
As someone who not that long ago watched a friend succomb to anorexia/bulimia, I'd be thrilled she was putting *anything* solid into her mouth.
I wouldn't continue to make food an issue, if I were you. You may not be (I can only go by what you're telling us here.) But if you are, I'd let it go.
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Post by SweetiePie Pea on Dec 24, 2014 15:05:05 GMT
Does she have PCOS by chance? The combination of hormone issues and diabetes leads me to believe so.many als have thyroid issues as well. I'm guessing she has/had a weight issue? If so it can be a very difficult syndrome to live with as women commonly feel completely out of control with their health issues otherwise. (Google Polycystic ovarian Syndrome-it's actually a metabolic and hormone disorder). If she does and is needing to lose weight, 15 bananas a day is the complete opposite of suggested diets. It's usually Low Glycemic index foods, no dairy, no gluten. There are some vegans doing well too. Just depends on what triggered your body to have PCOS in the first place. I do kinda think posting the meat grinding is a bit much on your instagram feed unless you have a following of foodies in there. I grew up raising rabbits, pigs, chicken for meat.) Knowing your daughter is dealing with all that she is (hormone and previous history at least of diabetes) it would be kind to support her. I realize she is a bit OTT in her thinking but you ARE the mom here. A better response to her would be "all bodies have different needs and different conditions. I realize you have found something that works for *you*, and I'm happy for you. Not all of us require the same dietary restrictions." It may be that she is actually struggling to maintain this way of eating long term and is trying once again to control and stay on track by removing people/images not withing her goals. It's like trying to be on a healthy diet and your FB friend is posting every cookie, cake, and chocolate treat from pinterest to their wall! LOL If your daughter does have PCOS or you suspect she may I would encourage you read up on it a bit. It may actually benefit you as it can be genetic or environmental. Also the diabetes diagnosis is unlikely only due to a period of binging. It works hand in hand with hormone and endocrin issues. If she got her eating under control and/or weight & hormones. It is reversible, however can come right back if she goes back to previous way of eating or types of foods. Hope that is of some help. Maybe it's not what she's dealing with though. (I hope not, because it's a sucky lifelong issue with no real cure, just reversal of some symptoms).
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2014 16:28:26 GMT
If you want to have some fun with her, you could let her know that bananas are a source of radiation, and it's widely known (I'm not pulling your leg, they really are). One banana is 1% of average daily exposure to radiation, so at 15, she's getting 15% of her daily exposure just from her diet. I hope she's cutting back elsewhere because.... stage whispers...cancer. No airport scanners or x-rays for her! SourceSomeone should ask Freelee or Sparklepants or whatever her name is how she accounts for that.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2014 16:56:56 GMT
Interesting perspectives. I guess if Insta is one of the ways you guys use to stay in touch, I might be inclined to ask her why she unfollowed you. Sounds like you have a good relationship and talking about it would be something I would want to do personally.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 24, 2014 18:09:33 GMT
Honesty, I'm not seeing any drama. You posted something she didn't like, and she quietly quit following you. Follow her lead, and let it go. No need to create drama where there is none. that ^^^^^^^
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Post by Nicole in TX on Dec 26, 2014 18:12:53 GMT
It wouldn't be a blip on my radar. I don't get the hype over any type of social media.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2014 18:28:28 GMT
Oops, sorry. I guess I read the part where she responded about her dd not being opposed to meat for animal cruelty but health reasons and interpreted that wrong in my head somehow. Still, while I can understand her dd not wanting to see pictures of meat, many seemed to think that it was just awful of the OP to post a picture of such a thing. I don't think posting a picture of some meat in your kitchen is a horrid thing that's going to offend most people and thus one should avoid it. It may not offend most of us because most of us are meat eaters. It would offend most vegans or at least be tiresome to deal with. The op has a choice: say it is my right to cook meat, take photos of it and post it to instagram and cause her daughter to further reduce contact over it. Or the op can realize this issue is a big deal to that daughter and respect it so that meat cooking is left off of social media. If the daughter was a pea and posted about how insensitive her mother was to post sausage making photos on social media the dd would have the support. Not even in the least little bit. At least not from me. I don't use Instagram, but I consider it much like Facebook or other social media. My page is like my living room. Don't like it? Don't visit. But don't you dare try to tell me what is appropriate and not appropriate. I think everyone has the right to post what they want, but I also think that the consequences are that some people might not like it and you have to deal with the fallout from that, whether it means they don't follow you or they become upset with you.
That's not to say I wouldn't be sensitive and block certain people from seeing certain things - I routinely filter my posts on FB because I might want to post about something that I know one of my FB friends might not like, but it's not for them to say what I can and can't post.
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