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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jan 14, 2015 20:51:42 GMT
How do chores/allowances work in your house?
I'm thinking of doing 2 chore lists... one everyday list that the girls have to do, and they don't get paid for doing them (brushing their teeth twice daily, laying out their clothes for school the night before, doing their homework, checking the mail, setting backpack and shoes by door each night, etc)
Then another list (making beds, cleaning the room and playroom, wiping down the bathroom counter, emptying the dishwasher, setting the table, separating the laundry, etc), if they do those things at least 2x per week (or maybe everyday?), then they will get $5/each weekly.
How does it work in your house? What do your kids do and what do they get paid for?
My girls are 9 and 5... so way old enough to be doing chores and old enough to be getting an allowance.
I'm thinking of making them save half of their allowance to put in the bank too... is that what everyone does? Just looking for ideas!
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Post by bearmom on Jan 14, 2015 20:59:54 GMT
Chores are done because that is what we do as a member of the family and are not tied to allowance. Chores aren't an option and you don't get rewarded for doing them (other than a thank you, hug, etc).
Allowance is given to limit the "can I have's" and to teach how to be responsible for money. Both dds at 12 and 15 get $10/week which they use to go the movies, books, music, apps, TV shows (streaming), etc.
ETA: we don't make them save part of their allowance, but they naturally do this before we go on vacation so they have enough for extras.
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Post by MerryMom on Jan 14, 2015 21:05:47 GMT
I never did an allowance with my now 17 yo son. I also never got an allowance.
The items that you listed are (to me) part of taking more responsibility for yourself (brushing teeth, laying out clothes) or are part of contributing to the house (picking up their toys, putting laundry away, putting dishes away, etc.) as you get older.
If my son helped out with something special like help rake leaves, or carry the bags of mulch around the house for me, etc., then I gave him a few dollars. That's how I was raised.
I think when allowances are tied to chores, then you are caught up in the reminding them to do chores, documenting that they did it or did it well enough to get 'credit', if they did it and then someone else messed it up afterwards, etc.
Once my son mentioned about me giving him some money because he helped me carry some boxes down to the basement, I rattled off the list and prices of extra things that I recently did or paid for him (movie, small toy, etc.). Within a few seconds, he really owed ME about $25 so that ended that conversation quickly. Oh, and the "Mom Stink Eye" helped.
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Post by kristi521 on Jan 14, 2015 21:06:45 GMT
My kids have small daily chores (feed the dog, wipe down the dinner table, empty the dishwasher) and then they have weekly bigger chores (clean their bathrooms, vacuum the stairs, etc). We do not give them an allowance. We are of the mindset that this part of being in a family and keeping the household going. If they want to go somewhere with a friend, we give them money. That is what works for us.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jan 14, 2015 21:08:31 GMT
I am probably not the person to ask...the way I have always approached chores is that we all live in the house, we all take care of the house. We all pitch in, we all work, we all get to do the crappy stuff like clean toilets and empty the dishwasher. I never paid for chores, chores were just something we all had to do as being a part of the citizens of our household. Everyone is responsible for their own part of the space (bedrooms/bathrooms) and their laundry. Everyone pitches in to keep the rest of the space tidy (vacuum/dusting/sweeping/kitchen clean up) and other chores as needed. I started this when the kids were little and over the years it has really worked well for us. Sometimes a little bit of a hissy fit gets thrown, but for the most part, the kids know what is expected and do it. ETA: I see I am not the only one who feels this way.
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Post by anneinwa on Jan 14, 2015 21:11:58 GMT
Allowance is not tied to chores here. When she first started getting an allowance (age 6 maybe?). I set it up so she got 1/2 of age in dollars and on her birthday, she would get a 'raise.' I am sure this will change as she gets older and her needs change. She does have the chance to sometimes earn extra but that requires above and beyond normal daily/weekly chores.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jan 14, 2015 21:26:59 GMT
When our daughter was 4 we made a chart for her daily stuff. shower, teeth, brush hair, get dressed, get ready for bed at night, etc..... each of those gave her a nickel. then we had feed hamster, pick up and put all her stuff back into her room if any of it was downstairs in the living room. that got her a dime. cleaning her room daily wasn't that much but it got her a quarter. if she did a big clean weekly then she got a dollar. she wasn't yet old enough to do a lot of stuff but she did take out the bathroom garbage(we had 2 bathrooms) and our bedroom garbage. on garbage night with husband she would get a dime for each bag. if she emptied and put a new bag in the cans. she loved to help me unload the dishwasher so we usually gave her a dollar when she did that. she would also help set and clear the table most nights but not all nights. if she did both the setting and the clearing then she got a dollar but if she did one or the other she got 50 cents. she got $4 for helping clean the hamster cages. It took about 2 hours total because of all the tubes and cages we had... She wanted them she had to learn how to take care of them. We only cleaned the cages once a week. Making her bed got her 50 cents a day. I hate making beds so I thought it was worth more when she made it. all she had was a comforter and pillows.
She always wanted money but had no clue to what the difference between a nickel, dime, quarter or a dollar. that is how we taught her. She was given play money one time and she loved it but couldn't figure out why she couldn't take it to the store and spend it like we could. so we taught her the difference. by the time she was in kindergarten she knew what money was and what it was worth. to her any way.
As she grew so did her chores and so did the money for each chore. we also taught her how important it was to brush her teeth twice every day and take showers by the time she was 6 she wasn't getting paid for her hygiene stuff but she got more money for other chores.
I think it is important to start kids doing chores and getting allowances (we never called it allowance) at an early age. because then they grow up with good habits.
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Post by bc2ca on Jan 14, 2015 21:46:28 GMT
My kids are teens and when they were much younger (4/5?) I put together a chore chart and quickly discovered filling in and maintaining the chore chart was a chore I hated.
We operate on the everyone who lives here participates in keeping it clean & running philosphy and it has worked well for us. There are daily (dishes, kitchen clean, etc.) and weekly (garbage, laundry, etc.) chores and I loosely assign other chores (list 4 things that need to be done this weekend, they can figure out who does what).
If they help with something bigger, like the semi-annual window and screen washing or some major yard cleanup, then I will pay them for their time and effort.
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Post by brina on Jan 14, 2015 21:52:05 GMT
I would not consider most things on your first list chores. They are tasks that a child has to perform, but they are for themselves. The second list is more what i think of as chores.
We pay our children $1/year of age - with 20% going into savings and 10% to charity. I don't buy toys, snacks, or anything else when we are out shopping - if they want it, they must buy it from their own allowance.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2015 22:02:23 GMT
We don't pay our children to do every day chores such as making their beds, laundry in the hamper, dishes in the dishwasher, cleaning their rooms and picking up toys etc. If they come to me and want to earn money for a toy, a video game or something, I will make a list of chores that I will pay them to do. It works well for us, the chores get done and they get they toy they earned.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 14, 2015 23:22:50 GMT
Hmm. I don't see the first list as being chores per se, I think of that stuff as personal responsibility/self care that kids need to do for their own well being. When I think of chores, it's more like your second list which includes cleaning, picking up, general household responsibilities done for the good of the family. Our DD is pretty young yet, but she does have to do some of those household things now (pick up her toys/books in the common areas of the house, make her bed, keep her room picked up, pair up clean socks, feed the dogs, etc.) and we will add to her list as she gets older.
We want DD to understand that doing household chores is a part of living and therefore she won't be compensated for those chores. I certainly don't get an "allowance" for doing the laundry, cooking, dishes, etc. and DH doesn't get one for mowing the grass or shoveling snow or changing the oil on the cars. We do those tasks because we live in a house and want to maintain it, so of course our kid should have to do some of those things because she is a part of our household. We don't (and won't) give a regular allowance.
However, there have already been times when DD (now 4) has wanted something extra that we have not been willing to just buy for no reason, and so we have given her the opportunity to earn some money by doing *additional* chores for us and that has worked out well. We were very surprised by how motivated she was to work and save up for what she wanted and those are the lessons we want her to learn.
I think as she gets older she will have a set list of weekly household chores that she needs to do, and we will establish a set amount of money that we would be willing to pay her for specific *additional* occasional tasks that she can choose to do if she wants to earn some money. The more she works, the more she will get paid just like in the real world.
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Post by maryland on Jan 15, 2015 1:38:06 GMT
I like having two lists! That's a great idea!
I have three girls, 11-17. They do the following:
take out trash mow the lawn - this is their favorite! They actually argue over who gets to mow. shovel snow help mulch in the spring empty dishwasher carry their laundry downstairs mop the floor
The great thing about having teens is the girls can help when we have heavy stuff to lift. I have no arm muscles at all, and my husband and I would always argue when I had to help him lift. My girls are strong, so they are great helpers!
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