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Post by anxiousmom on Jan 30, 2015 0:33:56 GMT
No.
A wild field of oats were sown.
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Post by lesley on Jan 30, 2015 0:36:09 GMT
Oh yes. I still think occasionally about that lost opportunity. And I sowed plenty of very wild oats, just not in that particular field...
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Post by garcia5050 on Jan 30, 2015 0:55:44 GMT
I was a little slutty in my younger days. No regrets, for the most part.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jan 30, 2015 0:58:39 GMT
If so, why? ETA: I'm thinking about a relationship that was special, but never got to that level, maybe. You ask the craziest questions! Lol
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Post by gorgeouskid on Jan 30, 2015 1:02:14 GMT
No. I had sex with just the right people and I'm glad for that.
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Post by mallie on Jan 30, 2015 1:02:45 GMT
Kind of. I went out with a guy who was reallllly good at the foreplay, but through a series of unfortunate events, stopped seeing him before it went any further. Given how good he was at the preliminaries, I would have liked to have gotten the full show. If you know what I mean.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 30, 2015 1:10:58 GMT
no, I never missed an opportunity.... I was a little frisky when I was younger so it would have been the other way around, I have a few regrettable shags! I am so glad there is at least one more like me. Quite honestly, if I wanted to have sex with someone I did
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Post by rickmer on Jan 30, 2015 1:16:35 GMT
i don't think so. specifically i probably regret one or two, but when i put it in the context of who i became as a person/big picture, i am okay with my choices. even my not-so-great ones.
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Jan 30, 2015 1:31:38 GMT
Ummm, I can't think of any opportunities that I missed. Interesting question.
I did make me think though, about a few situations where I was totally preoccupied and never noticed that someone was interested in me. I think I was too busy having fun with Mr. Wrong to maybe see Mr. Right, right in front of me. I was more interested in the bad boys for quite some time.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 30, 2015 1:40:11 GMT
I'd say I'm just the opposite. There are a few I should NOT HAVE.
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Post by Nink on Jan 30, 2015 3:07:44 GMT
no, I never missed an opportunity.... I was a little frisky when I was younger so it would have been the other way around, I have a few regrettable shags! I am so glad there is at least one more like me. Quite honestly, if I wanted to have sex with someone I did Ditto.
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Post by tracyarts on Jan 30, 2015 3:14:08 GMT
Yep. I wish I hadn't gone from relationship to relationship and taken some time to just screw around here and there when I was free of commitments.
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Post by dulcemama on Jan 30, 2015 3:23:03 GMT
Yes. I was madly in love with this guy in college. We spent every spare minute together, talking and making out. You know, the cliche is that people who are wildly in love can't wait to hop into bed together. But for me it was different. I was so sure of our relationship that I wasn't in a rush. I was sure we would get to it when the time was right. And then our relationship ended, suddenly and messily and it never happened. I still regret it, even though I know we would not have stayed together. We're very good friends now though.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 30, 2015 3:34:46 GMT
Yes and no. I was kind of oblivious to the possibility at the time and now that I look back on it I wish I had been paying attention. But at the same time I know it was probably for the best.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 30, 2015 4:20:55 GMT
Oh hell no. I've never turned down sex that I want. I've been around the block a time or two sowing those oats.
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Post by stittsygirl on Jan 30, 2015 4:26:23 GMT
Yes, absolutely yes. With my on-again/off-again boyfriend in high school and the first couple of years after that. We never would have made it long-term, looking back now, but any sex would probably have been amazing. We were very physically compatible. Religion and culture kept us from doing the deed, but I do wonder now and then... .
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Post by beanbuddymom on Jan 31, 2015 13:22:47 GMT
Yes. It was a relative of my sister's husband so not technically my family but he felt it was too close to the family to pursue anything. I basically reminded him of my sister who is technically his cousin by marriage so that was too weird for him. Awesome. Would have been nice to know that before we started seeing each other and spending lots of time together and getting ready to take it to the next level only to have that told to me. I was usually the breaker upper in my life so having him land that on me was even more of a slap in the face at the moment. Now I have to see him and his perfect freaking wife and perfect freaking children every few years for the typical family functions. It irritates the hell out of me.
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Post by M in Carolina on Jan 31, 2015 13:45:02 GMT
My mom told me after my dad died that she and he had an opportunity after they separated, and she now regretted not taking advantage.
Knowing her, she would have really regretted doing it. She admits that as well. I did understand what she meant. Just because my parents divorced didn't mean that they didn't still love each other--they just weren't good living together. My mom is one of those rare people that are happiest living alone.
I had the opposite problem. What happened to me when I was 4 made me not want to be with anyone.
When dh and I were first together, I was very gun-shy and didn't like to be hugged or anything. Dh was nothing but respectful and didn't force me to be more affectionate than I wanted to be. I know it was his love and patience that let me heal and deal with what had happened. I'm so thankful that he loved me that much... our physical relationship is definitely the highlight of my life.
My mom also had a casual boyfriend in high school that went to Vietnam and didn't return. I totally understand the girls who would dance with the boys in uniform during WWII. They didn't deserve to be called fast and loose. They were giving those men a warm memory to keep their hopes up during days no person should ever have to live through.
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Post by coaliesquirrel on Jan 31, 2015 13:46:18 GMT
Yes, although I think it would have significantly changed the course of my life but may not have turned out well. I still feel like it's unfinished business.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2015 14:05:36 GMT
Yes.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 31, 2015 16:26:58 GMT
I'm in the "should have sowed more wild oats" group.
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Post by Merge on Jan 31, 2015 16:45:14 GMT
Hmmm. I think mostly I regret feeling so ashamed of liking and wanting sex that I felt very awkward about and always regretted it at the time. Shades of my very strict religious upbringing. I wish I had been able to just enjoy the experience. It seems so silly now.
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Post by gramasue on Jan 31, 2015 16:58:51 GMT
Nope. I've had enough sex in my life to not even think about "paths not taken". If it wasn't a big deal then, it isn't a big deal now.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jan 31, 2015 17:34:35 GMT
Always better to wish that you had than to wish that you hadn't.
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Post by Katie on Jan 31, 2015 18:42:55 GMT
There was an acquaintance I knew in college that I lusted after for 3 years, but I was too shy and (completely) inexperienced to make a move. He was kind of a man-slut so he probably would have jumped if he thought I was interested. I didn't even care to date him, but I sure woulda liked to shag him just once.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 31, 2015 18:52:23 GMT
I can honestly say that I've never had a moment's regret over not having sex with someone. But I do have some experiences that I wish I didn't have. I sowed a lot of wild oats back when I was in college.
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Post by peasapie on Jan 31, 2015 18:56:29 GMT
Well, in a way. I regret that I didn't have sex with my first "true love" in high school, but had first time sex with a creep a year later.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 31, 2015 18:57:27 GMT
I'm a virgin!
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Post by Olan on Jan 31, 2015 19:01:57 GMT
A resounding fuck yes. I've only dated after my frontal lobe was fully developed so I've said no thanks to a lot of "fun". Most memorable is a guy I went on a date with a couple weeks ago. My favorite movie is Love Jones and this guy had a very Larenz Tate kinda vibe. He even had on the exact outfit Larenz's character had on during one of the scenes. I didnt realize this until a week or so later but I could have totally been his Nina.
He hinted that he had a bit of wanderlust and wasn't looking to settle and I strongly hinted that he could kick rocks. It was still a really nice date. So much so that a couple days after we went out he called me and asked me if he could pass on my information to his "much nicer" co-worker. Turns out the guy wasn't his co-worker but his childhood BFF. This dude was ready to propose over the phone
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jan 31, 2015 19:14:06 GMT
To me, a bigger regret would be in not remembering with whom the wild oats were sown. Luckily I have an incredible memory.
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