sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 29, 2015 20:17:39 GMT
If so, why?
ETA: I'm thinking about a relationship that was special, but never got to that level, maybe.
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Post by hop2 on Jan 29, 2015 20:24:03 GMT
No, never, there's always next time.
But ive regretted having sex in a specific situation. ( that's all I will say )
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 29, 2015 20:26:04 GMT
No, never, there's always next time. But ive regretted having sex in a specific situation. ( that's all I will say ) I'm sure that's the more common scenario!  |
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Post by moveablefeast on Jan 29, 2015 20:26:37 GMT
All I will say is - not nearly as much as I've regretted the other choice. Smh.
There's one relationship I wish I had been more serious about and that likely would have become a sexual relationship.
But none that I regret turning down, no. One that might have been fun, but I'm glad I didn't get tangled up in that one - it was messy enough as it was.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2015 20:27:30 GMT
nope....
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2015 20:27:56 GMT
No, if it never came up in a relationship or the timing wasn't right or if one of us said no then it's probably for a good reason and not something to be regretted.
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Post by rainangel on Jan 29, 2015 20:43:15 GMT
Yes, and I regretted it for 14 years. Then we got back in touch and are really good friends now, and I don't think that would have happened if we HAD had sex back in the day. There is a level of awkwardness that comes with someone you've had sex with that I think would make it slightly more difficult to become friends again after not seeing each other for over a decade. So after 14 years, I regret it no more  I can't really say I regret having sex with anyone either. But I've only had decent experiences with guys, no-one that turned out to be a stalker or violent or anything like that so... |
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Jan 29, 2015 20:51:58 GMT
Does regretting the lack of opportunity for more count? If I had it to do over again, I'd sow more wild oats. So many, many more...
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Post by finaledition on Jan 29, 2015 21:02:14 GMT
Does regretting the lack of opportunity for more count? If I had it to do over again, I'd sow more wild oats. So many, many more... Lol |
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Post by KikiPea on Jan 29, 2015 21:08:17 GMT
Nope. My first was DH on our wedding night. I'm totally cool with that, especially looking back on my 2 most serious relationships before him.
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Post by epeanymous on Jan 29, 2015 21:11:48 GMT
Yes. I had some individual opportunities that I turned down that in retrospect? Why did I do that? Oh well.
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Post by Regina Phalange on Jan 29, 2015 21:16:58 GMT
If so, why? ETA: I'm thinking about a relationship that was special, but never got to that level, maybe. Yes, my first love. In hindsight I should have. However, both of our parents were so strict we were terrified. We came close a few times, but man, I wish we would have. lol |
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Post by scrapngranny on Jan 29, 2015 21:18:10 GMT
Yes and no. I did not have sex with my very first real boyfriend, I just didn't feel I was ready or that our relationship was ready. Then he was drafted, it was at the height of the Vietnam war. He was killed in action. I regretted not having had that special moment with him.
I don't know if our relationship would have survived after he came home or not, we were so young.
On the no side, I believe every thing we do leads us to where we are now, and I wouldn't want to change where I am now.
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 29, 2015 21:24:30 GMT
If so, why? ETA: I'm thinking about a relationship that was special, but never got to that level, maybe. Yes, my first love. In hindsight I should have. However, both of our parents were so strict we were terrified. We came close a few times, but man, I wish we would have. lol Me, too. |
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jan 29, 2015 21:57:27 GMT
Yes. In 1994 I met a boy who was here in the States from Denmark on a 1 year long program. Of course, we met a month before he was going home. We spent as much time together as possible and were all lovey-dovey, etc., he spent nights at my apartment...no sex. ETA: It was a regret for both of us.
After he left, we kept in touch and ended up going to London to meet for 2 weeks the following year. Prior to the trip we sent each other sexy letters and the tension really built up. London was a super sexy sexfest, which is fine because the Rubber Ball was being held there at the same time. Hubba hubba. Regret rectified.
We are now friends on LinkedIn.
Also, I regret not french kissing the boy in my karate class when I was 11. We even went to a party where they played spin the bottle, and we were afraid. I wish he hadn't moved away and I could have had that kiss when I was old enough. I don't regret I didn't at 11, just that I never got another chance.
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Post by Zee on Jan 29, 2015 22:08:57 GMT
Sort of...but it would have changed the path I took, so I don't have any REAL regrets.
The Shag Not Taken...I feel inspired to start my memoirs.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jan 29, 2015 22:15:24 GMT
I had a college friend we had some very serious sexual tension..we would have never married and I think we would still be the same friends we are today... occasional Christmas card but yeah I think we could have had some great sex.
There was also a guy that my friend's friend had a crush on... she brought him to a bar one St. Patrick's day we had a blast, danced, had some amazing eye contact... I think we had an amazing connection. My friend asked me to back off for her friends sake. I did. Girl CODE!
She never dated him and I never saw him again...
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 29, 2015 22:15:59 GMT
Yes. In 1994 I met a boy who was here in the States from Denmark on a 1 year long program. Of course, we met a month before he was going home. We spent as much time together as possible and were all lovey-dovey, etc., he spent nights at my apartment...no sex. ETA: It was a regret for both of us. After he left, we kept in touch and ended up going to London to meet for 2 weeks the following year. Prior to the trip we sent each other sexy letters and the tension really built up. London was a super sexy sexfest, which is fine because the Rubber Ball was being held there at the same time. Hubba hubba. Regret rectified. We are now friends on LinkedIn. Also, I regret not french kissing the boy in my karate class when I was 11. We even went to a party where they played spin the bottle, and we were afraid. I wish he hadn't moved away and I could have had that kiss when I was old enough. I don't regret I didn't at 11, just that I never got another chance.I'm sorry that you never got another chance to french kiss. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 29, 2015 22:16:42 GMT
Sort of...but it would have changed the path I took, so I don't have any REAL regrets. The Shag Not Taken...I feel inspired to start my memoirs. LOVE IT!  |
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Post by Kerri W on Jan 29, 2015 22:26:41 GMT
I don't carry regret, but if I was in that time and situation again I would make more of an effort with two different people.
One I think probably would have changed the course of my life. I'm really happy and feel I'm where I'm at for a reason so it feels weird saying that. But I also think if it had gone his way it wouldn't have been a horrible thing either-just not as good as where I am now. Does that make sense?
The second was just hot, hot, hot and I've always wondered what if?
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Nicole in TX
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Post by Nicole in TX on Jan 29, 2015 22:50:34 GMT
Sharlag's Shag Not Taken; they should make a movie with that title.
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jan 29, 2015 22:50:49 GMT
Also, I regret not french kissing the boy in my karate class when I was 11. We even went to a party where they played spin the bottle, and we were afraid. I wish he hadn't moved away and I could have had that kiss when I was old enough. I don't regret I didn't at 11, just that I never got another chance.I'm sorry that you never got another chance to french kiss. That is a really funny statement, isn't it? |
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Post by kristalina on Jan 29, 2015 23:03:17 GMT
no, I never missed an opportunity.... I was a little frisky when I was younger so it would have been the other way around, I have a few regrettable shags!
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Post by M~ on Jan 29, 2015 23:03:29 GMT
It's annoying. Not that I've had a chance to, but in retrospect, I wish I'd just done it with someone to get it out of the way.
ETA: now it's like a thing. UGH.
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Post by myboysnme on Jan 29, 2015 23:23:22 GMT
Only with my DH. I wish I could get interested.
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Post by peace on Jan 29, 2015 23:23:27 GMT
when I first read this I thought to myself "no, nope. Not at all."
But I DO. I fell for a guy my freshman year in college. Hard. He was everything I thought i wanted. The relationship was building slowly up to "that" point and then Christmas break. Fine. I could wait. I had never done it before anyway. Well, don't you know that I go back to school and he is GONE. He did write a sweet letter. He had family issues and the only reason he would've stayed in school was for me and that wasn't right either. That was a real heartbreaker for me. I certainly don't regret it now as to how everything has played out in my life but I did regret it for quite some time. And I think after that I was trying to find a guy just like him. And it didn't work out so well.
Great question, btw. A real thinker.
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Jan 29, 2015 23:51:25 GMT
Not that I can think of. But there's definitely a few I DO regret shagging.
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Post by penny on Jan 29, 2015 23:56:01 GMT
The Shag Not Taken...I feel inspired to start my memoirs. Sort of the anti-50 Shades... |
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Post by MorellisCupcake on Jan 29, 2015 23:56:47 GMT
Definitely. One in particular..we're facebook friends and he just got married last fall. I think we're all where we're supposed to be, but that's one mountain I should have climbed when it was in front of me.
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Post by *leslie* on Jan 30, 2015 0:29:16 GMT
Yes. That's all I have to say about that.
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Time to get off the internet!
