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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2015 2:52:31 GMT
DH and I are discussing this. My SIL had one and raved about the comfort level and how much better it was with one.
I'm already planning on having DH and my mom in the delivery room..adding another person just seems like it would be too crowded?
If you had one, I'd love to know how it was and how much you paid?
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Post by melissa on Feb 4, 2015 3:12:01 GMT
I did not have one and I am one who dislikes many people in the delivery room. I strongly discourage extra people. Labor is about the woman in labor. So many family members are really there just to see the newborn. Those people can wait outside.. or even at home and come see the baby later!
That said, I think a doula can be an amazing asset. Family members aren't always the best labor coaches. A good doula is worth her weight in gold. A not great one or one that you don't connect with is a waste of money.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2015 3:13:34 GMT
Honestly, I don't truly understand the need. But then again, I had two C-sections with only DH and the doctors. Mom was at the hospital for the 1st but not in delivery although they did let her stay with me in recovery while DH went to the nursery with the babies.
With the second, Mom and Dad were with the girlies so it was just DH and I.
My sister-in-laws ex-step-MIL (convoluted) is a doula now and really seems to like it. Can't say I would want her in my delivery room though.
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Post by kelly8875 on Feb 4, 2015 3:25:14 GMT
The hospital I delivered both my babies at provided me with my very own nurse. She was with me from the time I was admitted, until a couple hours after delivery. She did everything for me, all the coaching, comforting and counting. DH was there too of course, to help with all the same things. Apparently, I almost broke his thumb squeezing so hard, lol. That's it, no one else!
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Post by scrapaddie on Feb 4, 2015 3:26:48 GMT
My sister was a doula and remained quite close to her families
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Post by Dani-Mani on Feb 4, 2015 3:28:17 GMT
I know several individuals who have hired a postpartum Doula and I would hire one in a heartbeat if I were pregnant right now.
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Post by librarylady on Feb 4, 2015 3:29:53 GMT
My DIL is a doula. She hired a doula for her last delivery.
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 4, 2015 3:38:03 GMT
I had a doula for my second delivery partly because it was a VBAC. I loved it and I am a private person. I think it was like $800 12 years ago....
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Post by epeanymous on Feb 4, 2015 3:40:53 GMT
I had a postpartum doula with my twins. She was awesome.
I haven't used one in delivery. I hate people during labor. Pretty much all of them. I was ready to strangle my nurse during my last labor, even after I had an epidural.
I have had several friends who used a doula and had a very positive experience, however.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Feb 4, 2015 12:50:04 GMT
I wish I had hired one with my last delivery. It was a difficult delivery and while dh was there, he's not proactive about anything and because we'd been there through the night was tired, etc. He wouldn't win any awards for supportive spouse.
Had I had a doula with me, I think things would have gone so much better and I would have had the support I needed
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Post by mammajamma on Feb 4, 2015 13:22:56 GMT
I had one 4 years ago. She met with us a few times before the due date to discuss my likes for stress reduction and such. I believe she charged $300. My water broke at 34 weeks, labor had to be started, my daughter turned transverse and then I ended up with an emergency c section. That happened to fast. I was disappointed that the soula didn't go with us into the Operating Room. She missed the whole birth. DH was so nervous that he wasn't much help and I have hardly any memory of them showing me my daughter. And we didn't know the gender before she was born! I woul use one again if I didn't have to have a scheduled c section next time. But ... I would have explicit instructions for the doula to come into the operating room, should that happen.
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Post by melissa on Feb 4, 2015 15:53:16 GMT
Mammjamma, that would be very unusual in many ORs. While it is a birth, it is still an operating room and generally one support person is permitted in most circumstances. In our current set up, there is not room safely for a second person (safely in case of an emergency). I am curious, would you have wanted your doula and not your spouse? Just asking as I have not ever seen a doula in the OR as a support person and we have plenty of patients who use them.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 4, 2015 16:23:56 GMT
I was DIL's coach for their first child. DS was not sure he could handle any of it (long story). We decided to hire a doula after taking the labor/delivery classes from the group of doulas.
She was amazing. I highly recommend it. She was able to offer comfort suggestions. She managed to keep DIL's mom calm.
I think it was about $300, 11 years ago. I thought it was worth every penny.
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Post by zishisak on Feb 4, 2015 17:20:22 GMT
I did hire a doula for my last delivery. I was determined to have baby #4 without an epidural and, with the amazing help and encouragement of our doula, I had my wish (I also ended up having Pitocin so I really couldn't have done it without her!) I think we paid about $850 and the experience was so worth it! Good luck with your decision.
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Post by MaryMary on Feb 4, 2015 17:34:02 GMT
I had a doula with my fourth child and never would have made it through labor unmedicated without her. She was definitely worth the money.
I had a doula-in-training attend my home birth and she was lovely as well.
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Post by flanz on Feb 4, 2015 18:13:48 GMT
Our kids were born 27 and 25 years ago, in a diff. country. i hadn't heard of a doula then.
I now have two friends who are doulas, one is an internationally traveling teacher of doulas.i also have many younger friends who have used doulas, and if I could go back and do it again, I definitely would!!!
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Feb 4, 2015 19:24:21 GMT
i had 3 babies and each time I only wanted baby dad in the room. I didn't want an audience.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Feb 4, 2015 22:35:31 GMT
Too many spectators in the delivery room can be a pain. I once had to chuck a doula out as she was repeatedly interfering with my overseeing of the delivery, and generally being a pain in the arse.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2015 22:48:51 GMT
I acted as a doula (birth companion) for the births of two of the three sons of a very good friend. My friend is a Physician Assistant herself and wanted both a doula and a mid-wife there for her births. It was an amazing experience.
I also used a doula in addition to my husband when I had our son. A doula does not necessarily have to be trained as she is usually a non medical person who is there for the woman in childbirth.
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Post by tallgirl on Feb 4, 2015 22:53:45 GMT
I had a doula with both deliveries. Loved her! My hospital did not offer epidurals with #1, and she gave me the confidence I needed to make it through. By #2 my hospital did offer epidurals, but my first experience was so positive that I wanted to repeat it and opted out. My doula also took photos that I treasure. (I did pitch some of the more flagrant crotch shots!) I think she was about $250-300 and that was 8 & 10 years ago.
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Post by mammajamma on Feb 5, 2015 12:30:57 GMT
Melissa, well if I can only have 1 support person in the OR for my next birth, I guess it would be my husband and no need for a doula. I love my husband he is an awesome guy. But he does not know what to do or say in those situations. He is not a guy for a lot of Language so that is why I opted for the doula the first time. But he is an awesome father and I would never deny him seeing his child at the birth moment also. With my daughter, it was so quick and the OR was full of so many people ( maybe more than normal since she was premature) and he panicked a bit also. He couldn't ever explain to me what she looked like coming out of me. I don't know why I wanted to see her naked but it bothered me for awhile. My first memory seeing her was when they showed me about an inch of her face as she was swaddled and already with a cap. They say I was fading in/out of it though from the anesthesia.
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Post by mammajamma on Feb 5, 2015 12:32:26 GMT
I also hired a post partum doula for breastfeeding support and general newborn help. I think she came about 4 times for 4 hours each. That was really worth it as well. My mom hates breastfeeding me and gets weirded out by it still so she wasn't an option for support.
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