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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 10, 2014 19:37:38 GMT
What is your opinion on tweens coloring their hair? I have 3 girls and for the last couple years I have let the 2 older ones dye a small streak of color (blue and purple) in their hair. To me, hair is hair. It grows back. My thought is that it's their hair, they have to explain it to their friends. As long as they can live with the result, I can live with it! DH, who has shaved his hair off for decades, said he doesn't understand the need to dye hair but if the girls want to and I am okay with it, he doesn't care.
So recently my 10 yo found a girl on youtube who had the underneath 2/3 of her hair colored blue and the top 1/3 at the crown was her normal color. So you can basically see the color when she moves her hair or it's pulled up. So I took her in and the 10yo picked a magenta color for the bottom. It is the color of a radish!
I don't mind, my dh doesn't mind. But apparently my BIL does. He thinks its crazy to allow a child to make a decision like that and to allow them to even color their hair. Further, he said he would never allow my niece to color her hair ever and then said he would be livid if his wife allowed their dd to color her hair. Seriously, it was over the top! I said, it's just dye it will wash out eventually. He said he didn't care and that his dd won't be allowed. Whatever. Everyone else who has seen it likes it. And dd likes it which is what is important.
So what say the refupeas? Would you allow your 10yo to dye part of her hair pink?
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 10, 2014 19:39:44 GMT
I didn't with my dd. Her hair would need to be bleached first for the color to show the way she wanted it to. Her hair is also over 3' long, so bleaching and dealing with the growing out would take forever! If she didn't need to do the bleaching first, sure...no problem.
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Post by Zee on Jul 10, 2014 19:40:24 GMT
Tell him it's lucky then for all involved that he's not their dad.
DD has had many colors of the rainbow over the years, I think she was 12 when she first got interested but maybe she was older. In any case, her father was a huge enabler, lol. But she's in cosmetology school now so she gets it done a lot cheaper.
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Post by magentapea on Jul 10, 2014 19:43:18 GMT
No way, no how! I would not let my kids dye their hair an unnatural color. If my 12 year old wanted highlights, maybe, but again - a natural color. I think blue, green, purple, etc. hair looks ridiculous.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2014 19:43:48 GMT
Hair is not something worth battling IMO. I've always told my son he could do anything he wants with it. Tell him to mind his own business.
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 10, 2014 19:45:04 GMT
Don't really care. The ballet studio doesn't permit funky colors, so that is a limitation until the kids are done with it, but I am in the it's just hair camp otherwise.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2014 19:46:16 GMT
It's just hair. Luckily my mom let me make my own choices regarding my hair. And yes I've had funky colors over the years including purple right now. No biggie. And I don't look ridiculous. In fact I get TONS of compliments.
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Post by psiluvu on Jul 10, 2014 19:50:24 GMT
I would have no problem with it. When my dd was about 10 or 11 she went through about a 2 yr phase of different colours, streaks, lightening etc. She is now 14 and spends her time on different styles not colours. It is only hair, it will grow or wash out.
I always tell my brother who can be totally judgmental like that.... The best part of being a parent is that I get to make the rules regarding my kids. |
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 10, 2014 19:50:39 GMT
No way, no how! I would not let my kids dye their hair an unnatural color. If my 12 year old wanted highlights, maybe, but again - a natural color. I think blue, green, purple, etc. hair looks ridiculous. 
I'm kind of laid back about a lot of things though. Not dangerous things, obviously. But for hair, it wasn't any hill I was willing to die on. I'm sure if my 3-year-old had said "oooh Mommy, look at that girl's pretty pink hair, I want pink hair too" I would have said "when you're older..." and then maybe bought some of that spray on stuff for her to have pink hair for a few hours. lol
However, before I'd let my younger child -- like in the "tween" age -- get permanent hair dye that has to grow out I might suggest she try the temporary kind to see if she really liked the color.
My dd had some color stripe for awhile, I can't even remember now. It was a fad among her friends. I thought it looked cute actually.  |
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Post by lumo on Jul 10, 2014 19:53:22 GMT
Hair is not a hill I'm willing to die on with DD. She can pretty much do what she wants with it. This probably stems from the fact that I was NEVER allowed to dye my hair as a kid.
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Post by khaleesi on Jul 10, 2014 19:57:55 GMT
I am in the camp of it is hair and it will grow out/back/whathaveyou. If there are no restrictions on dress code for school, dance studios, sports, etc I say why not.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 10, 2014 19:59:08 GMT
Now 17 yo DD wanted a purple streak when she was younger and I was ok with it. However, she never got around to getting it done. She just recently tried to dye her own hair and chose a brown/burgundy color. I liked it but she didn't so she tried to correct it. That didn't work, so off to the salon she went. $65 plus tip later and she's ok with it. It's a bit darker than she likes, but better than what she had.
She recently had a friend dye it and it went much better. I guess it's hard to do your own.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Jul 10, 2014 19:59:19 GMT
I always found it odd at that age (and older!) that my mother would never let me color my hair, but it was okay to perm and burn the hell out of it. (Which she did just before I started middle school, at 10.) Yep, it's hair, it grows out.
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Post by 1lear on Jul 10, 2014 20:04:34 GMT
Both my daughter's started experimenting with their hair color when they were around 13. DD2, 18yo, currently has pink hair on top, with blue underneath. Unfortunately, her natural color is brown, so she does have to bleach it first. We used to get it done at a salon, but a couple of years ago she started doing it herself. It's not something I've ever had a problem with-it's only hair.
She gets a lot of compliments and it fits her personality. She does get a lot of stares from younger children, I've noticed.
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Post by gypsymama on Jul 10, 2014 20:04:46 GMT
lol@the perm = ok but not dye, my mom was the same way! i love coloring my hair, i wish i had the guts (and job that allowed it) to go hot pink or purple. my dd loves to color her's too and i don't care at all. we did a lot of chunky blonde highlights last year on her very dark brown hair and it was super cute. i chopped it short before the summer and she loved it (dh nearly had a stroke, but its not his hair!). my only limits are b/c of the dress code at school - no unnatural colors
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Post by leannec on Jul 10, 2014 20:06:00 GMT
Meh! If you and your dh don't care and you are willing to pay for it then who cares? It's just hair  |
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Post by andreasmom on Jul 10, 2014 20:09:20 GMT
My dd asked to have red ombre tips for the summer for her birthday. She's thrilled with it, it is only about three inches and when summer ends it will be gone (we will cut it off). I was reluctant but then realized A) hair grows back B) she is truly happy about it - it boosts her self confidence. I wasn't expecting that, so it's an added bonus  C) it is a fun thing to do during summer and when school rolls around she will be back to her natural light brown color. Win/win dor both of us. Her grandmother, on the other hand, will throw a fit when she sees her next week. |
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Post by angieh1996 on Jul 10, 2014 20:12:40 GMT
Hair isn't a battle I choose to fight. My 14 yo dd had purple streaks put in and it looked awesome on her. She had so many compliments. She quickly learned the color fades fast since she has brown hair and it needed bleached first. So she chose to just keep highlights. it's her hair. She can pretty much do what she wants.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jul 10, 2014 20:17:51 GMT
I think it would be fun for summer. Poor Ali(11) has slightly green-tinged hair from the pool at her dad's place. I've treated it to remove the green, but their pool has the chlorine levels up so high that she is going to keep getting green-tinged hair for a while.
Anyway, I tried to talk her into green streaks to match until school starts (at which point is has to be a natural color). Alas, she wanted to stick with blondish-greenish hair.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 10, 2014 20:21:47 GMT
My DD is 14 and her hair is blue right now. The whole head, blue. I think it looks ugly and now that it is starting to fade on the ends, it looks gray. But she likes it and I figure she's got to live with it.
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Post by utmr on Jul 10, 2014 21:03:50 GMT
It's just hair. It will grow out or can be cut or re colored.
Personally I'd tell BIL to butt out.
One DD went through a couple years of "red". From dark almost purple auburn to oh-my-goodness clown red. She got tired of it after awhile and went back to her natural color, or close to it.
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Post by Peal on Jul 10, 2014 21:19:28 GMT
My feeling on hair is, as long as it is kept clean, they can do whatever they want to it. But I have boys, so mostly they keep it short and unremarkable. My Middle DS did ask to dye his hair red the summer he turned 6. I let him. He was adorable. My bother was a little bothered by it. But he didn't give me a hard time or anything, just rolled his eyes. Just wasn't something he would let his kids do. But his background as a cop has led to a lot of things he won't let his kids do that I'm okay with.
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Post by scrapngranny on Jul 10, 2014 21:50:26 GMT
I wouldn't allow it, but I would mind my own business if a relative allowed their kid to do it.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 10, 2014 22:02:30 GMT
I hope it is not a permanent color/dye. Around here, the schools would not allow it. I would not object to non-permanent "having fun with hair" but would object to permanent dye on a child that young. Since latest reports talk about the danger of the chemicals on your head, with repeated use, I would not want to start my child on that road at age 10...............but then, I'm an old one who never colored my hair until I was age 50 and colored the grey.  |
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Post by librarylady on Jul 10, 2014 22:05:57 GMT
I would mind my own business if a relative allowed their kid to do it. agree! |
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Post by mom2paige on Jul 10, 2014 22:10:46 GMT
I wouldn't allow it, but I would mind my own business if a relative allowed their kid to do it. Same here. I think the temporary dyes would be ok with me (for summer)or a fun chalk coloring for a day or so. The school/district I teach in doesn't allow 'unnatural' colored hair/dyes, nor does the school district where both my DD's attend. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 10, 2014 22:43:23 GMT
I've always been in the hair is hair camp - please experiment with your hair and not more permanent and potentially disfiguring ways. I do think that 10 is young - it just seems like kids are growing up too fast.
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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 10, 2014 22:48:45 GMT
I wouldn't allow it, but I would mind my own business if a relative allowed their kid to do it. Same here. I think the temporary dyes would be ok with me (for summer)or a fun chalk coloring for a day or so. The school/district I teach in doesn't allow 'unnatural' colored hair/dyes, nor does the school district where both my DD's attend. Wow! Our school does not have rules about it. There are lots of kids running around with a rainbow of colors in their hair. I just couldn't believe that BIL was so worked up about her hair. It's not like I let her tattoo I love Justin Bieber across her forehead! My mom never cared what we did with our hair growing up so it probably shapes my view on "it's just hair". Thanks for the opinions Peas! |
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Post by lavidaloca on Jul 10, 2014 23:04:03 GMT
My DD has had 2 brain surgeries. One time they shaved 1/2 her head. This last time we cut her hair pretty short and they shaved around the incision site. There was still a lot of damage done to her hair. I have let her do things to her hair most parent of 10 year olds probably wouldn't allow. In fact I have been told as much. But at the end of the day I am doing these things to help ease the trauma of what she has been through and teach her that her hair doesn't define who she is. If it makes her happy who cares.
My husband wants her to have long hair. I had to get on him because I don't want her to place her self worth on her hair style. He gets it now.
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Post by raindancer on Jul 10, 2014 23:41:31 GMT
What is your opinion on tweens coloring their hair? I have 3 girls and for the last couple years I have let the 2 older ones dye a small streak of color (blue and purple) in their hair. To me, hair is hair. It grows back. My thought is that it's their hair, they have to explain it to their friends. As long as they can live with the result, I can live with it! DH, who has shaved his hair off for decades, said he doesn't understand the need to dye hair but if the girls want to and I am okay with it, he doesn't care. So recently my 10 yo found a girl on youtube who had the underneath 2/3 of her hair colored blue and the top 1/3 at the crown was her normal color. So you can basically see the color when she moves her hair or it's pulled up. So I took her in and the 10yo picked a magenta color for the bottom. It is the color of a radish! I don't mind, my dh doesn't mind. But apparently my BIL does. He thinks its crazy to allow a child to make a decision like that and to allow them to even color their hair. Further, he said he would never allow my niece to color her hair ever and then said he would be livid if his wife allowed their dd to color her hair. Seriously, it was over the top! I said, it's just dye it will wash out eventually. He said he didn't care and that his dd won't be allowed. Whatever. Everyone else who has seen it likes it. And dd likes it which is what is important. So what say the refupeas? Would you allow your 10yo to dye part of her hair pink? I am sitting on your bench. I let my 11 yo (last year) dye her hair with koolaide over the summer. She is blond, she dip dyed the ends deep purple. Our only issue was it took almost 6 months to be out with washes and trims. Fortunately it faded enough to be ok for school dress code, because colored hair is against the rules in her middle school. |
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