|
|
Post by KikiPea on Jun 19, 2015 15:01:35 GMT
DH and I have been together for 21 1/2+ years, married for 18 1/2+. The longest we have ever been apart is 2-3 days, tops. ***ETA: DUH!!!! I totally forgot about my twice a year trips to CHA where I was gone for 7 days at a time for 7 years! I didn't get enough sleep last night. Not sure how I forgot that!  It was hard then, too. I have an upcoming trip for my brother's wedding, and DH has decided not to go. I will be gone a total of 10 days. We enjoy an evening alone, or a girl's/guy's night out, but we also quite like spending time together. Yesterday, I was gone from 10:30AM-12:30AM this morning, and only got to see and talk with him for a few minutes, including texts. Those 10 days away from him and my pup are going to be hard! If you are away from you DH for long periods of time often, what do you do to get through it? I completely understand that military wives do this a LOT, and that this is a first word issue, it's just a first for me.  |
|
|
|
Post by freecharlie on Jun 19, 2015 15:04:43 GMT
1 week
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 15, 2024 11:56:27 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2015 15:06:15 GMT
16 months give or take a few days here and there, not that I'm counting or anything  How do I get through it? We Skype everyday and talk on the phone but I'm not even going to pretend it's easy and that I don't go to bed every night wishing he was here or I was there. I hate it! |
|
|
|
Post by STBC on Jun 19, 2015 15:06:33 GMT
A week, I think ...
|
|
|
|
Post by freecharlie on Jun 19, 2015 15:06:45 GMT
I regularly go days without seeing dh. He works night, so if I don't get home or have to take the kids somewhere or he has a meeting, we don't see each other
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 15, 2024 11:56:27 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2015 15:08:59 GMT
Three weeks, I think. We once had back to back business trips that overlapped by a day, so I was gone for 10 days and he left on his trip the day before I returned.
|
|
|
|
Post by mikklynn on Jun 19, 2015 15:09:45 GMT
Two weeks is the longest. It was really hard. It was for work.
|
|
|
|
Post by khaleesi on Jun 19, 2015 15:11:55 GMT
Three weeks. I was traveling for work.
|
|
|
|
Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 19, 2015 15:13:56 GMT
I don't know... I went on a trip with my mom and sisters for 12-13 days, but he has gone off hunting without me for at least that long too. Not any more than two weeks though. We've been together almost 30 years, married almost 26.
|
|
|
|
Post by littlemama on Jun 19, 2015 15:16:34 GMT
3 years ago, DS and I drove to TN for DH's grandmother's funeral (he had just started a new job, and only had 1 day paid bereavement and no PTO). We left on Wednesday morning and came back on Friday. One year, DH's company had a golf outing and he left on Friday, and came back on Sunday. And when I was in the hospital in January, I was there for 4 days (3 nights). DH came every day so we saw each other.
We have been married for 19 years, and those are the only nights we have ever spent apart - a total of 7 nights. We have only gone 2 days without seeing each other (the Thursday of my trip and the Saturday of his trip) in the entire 23-1/2 years of our relationship.
|
|
|
|
Post by KikiPea on Jun 19, 2015 15:17:53 GMT
16 months give or take a few days here and there, not that I'm counting or anything How do I get through it? We Skype everyday and talk on the phone but I'm not even going to pretend it's easy and that I don't go to bed every night wishing he was here or I was there. I hate it! I'm so sorry. I hate that for you. BIG hugs from me! |
|
|
|
Post by deshacrafts on Jun 19, 2015 15:19:55 GMT
A week.
|
|
Peamac
Pearl Clutcher
Refupea # 418
Posts: 4,218 
|
Post by Peamac on Jun 19, 2015 15:21:09 GMT
3-4 weeks, when he's been overseas (not military). I was pregnant with DD#2 and when he walked off the plane at the airport and he saw how much my belly had changed while he was gone, he said something like, "Wow! You've really grown!". The lady walking behind him looked like she was going to smack him for that comment.  |
|
luvnlifelady
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,421
|
Post by luvnlifelady on Jun 19, 2015 15:23:33 GMT
Probably about a week. He took DD to see family when I was on bedrest while pg with DS. He's also gone to a wedding alone in Chicago. Come to think of it, he's taken DD on a couple trips that involved flying when I stayed home with DS. 10 days does seem like awhile though.
|
|
River
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,512
Location: Alabama
Jun 26, 2014 15:26:04 GMT
|
Post by River on Jun 19, 2015 15:23:47 GMT
We've been married 21 years. We had never been apart more than a day when I took a job that required "some" travel in 2007. That travel turned out to be 6 weeks straight in Australia. My youngest was just 6 months old at the time. It was very bitter sweet! I loved every minute in Australia but missed home, dh and my boys dearly. Since then he's went on a few hunting or fishing trips that had him away from home about 3 to 4 days.
|
|
|
|
Post by mellowyellow on Jun 19, 2015 15:25:01 GMT
The longest has been 28 days. He works offshore and was overseas at the time. Now he is gone for 2 weeks every month.
|
|
|
|
Post by Anne-Marie on Jun 19, 2015 15:26:37 GMT
DH and I have been married for just under three months but together two years. He actually has been out of town since Sunday and will return late tonight.
Honestly, our lives have been so crazy lately that him being gone this week has not been hard for me. Sure I am looking forward to seeing him and having him home but some major health issues with his parents have had us running different directions with them and the kids for about a month now so I feel like we haven't really had much time together anyway.
I went to Disney for a week with my BFF and our daughters when now-DH and I had been dating just a couple of months and THAT week was hard.
|
|
|
|
Post by KikiPea on Jun 19, 2015 15:28:37 GMT
I totally forgot all of the traveling I did when I was working in the scrapbook industry and was gone for 7 days at a time, twice a year, plus once a year for 3-4 days. DUH! I've been out of it so long!
|
|
M in Carolina
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,128
|
Post by M in Carolina on Jun 19, 2015 15:30:04 GMT
The year before my stroke and move to Chicago, Dh travelled from Detroit to Chicago every week, leaving on Sunday night and flying home Friday evening. There were a few times that he needed to work through the weekend, so he was gone for two weeks at a time. Then there was the year I was hospitalized 15 times for pancreatitis--5 to 7 days each. I also spent a month in NC to have an appointment with a specialist at Duke. Dh has also been away on business trips for a week or two at a time. We call each other every day, text each other, and hate being apart. We do everything together. It's tough being away, but it's necessary at times. I also hide notes in dh's bags and sometimes slip one into his laptop. He keeps them all. I even went to his office one day and saw one of the notes pinned to the wall of his cubicle.   |
|
mallie
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,253
|
Post by mallie on Jun 19, 2015 15:32:34 GMT
2 months. We had a long distance relationship when he was in grad school. We saw each other about once every 2 months for 2 years. That was back in the days before cell phones and the internet, when long distance costs 19 cents/minute and I was making $2/hour. So we wrote to each other. In long hand. On paper. And mailed the letter. And waited to get one in return.
Since then, the longest was probably 10 days while I was on a business trip.
|
|
|
|
Post by roundtwo on Jun 19, 2015 15:40:59 GMT
The ex was military so 6 months some years, 9 months other years and sometimes only a few weeks at a time.
Funny enough though, I miss dh more when he is gone these days and it is only 5 or 6 days at a time, once a twice or year. I actually often enjoyed the time with the ex away as things just seemed lighter even though I was alone with 3 kids and no family anywhere nearby.
ETA: I just wanted to add that even though it happened a lot because of the military, that doesn't mean you can't express your unhappiness at the upcoming separation! It's a big change to your routine and I can totally relate to missing time spent together, even when it is only for a few days. I don't feel quite settled the nights I don't get to hash out the day snuggled next to dh!
|
|
|
|
Post by melanell on Jun 19, 2015 15:42:36 GMT
We've each had some trips of about 5 days or less over the years where one went and one did not, but that's it. (Since we've been married, anyway. I did take a longer trip without him when we were engaged. That was about 10-12 days.)
|
|
|
|
Post by checkwheelsdown on Jun 19, 2015 15:59:45 GMT
Two years. Yes, military...this was just after we got married and had to go our separate ways for various training commitments. DH went off to pilot training while I finished my senior year in college. Then I had over a year of air traffic control school while he was in upgrade training for his aircraft. We finally met up at our first base together. I did see him for a weekend when his brother was married and got pregnant with our first child though lol. And we managed one Christmas together. This was back in the day, mid-80s, so we called mostly and wrote letters occasionally. I recall only one really rough patch, but otherwise we did good! It made the future shorter separations easier because we knew we'd survive without each other. Sometimes though I miss the longer times apart, it made seeing each other again so sweet.  |
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 15, 2024 11:56:27 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2015 16:10:54 GMT
In the early years of our marriage, DH worked at a job that had him making international trips. (Thailand, Denmark, New Zealand, London)
He'd be gone for a month at a time. Then home for a week. Then gone for another month.
The only time there was a problem was when I was hospitalized with my pregnancy because of my blood pressure. I was unable to reach him to let him know and my mom had to call and leave a message at the front desk for him to call her to get information on my hospitalization.
I missed him, but at the time I worked full time AND I had a very protective dog and was never ever afraid being alone in my home. |
|
stittsygirl
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,580
Location: In the leaves and rain.
|
Post by stittsygirl on Jun 19, 2015 16:11:48 GMT
Currently going on eight months, which ties with the last time he was in Korea. He'll be coming here in another month to help us move, so nine months will be our longest separation without seeing each other at all. Our longest time not living together was 18 months (saw each other three times during that time), and we've had four 12-month deployments/tours where he's come home once for a visit about midway.
We text just about everyday, and talk a couple of times a week. It sure beats our first separation, when snail mail was about our only form of communication.
|
|
|
|
Post by mellyw on Jun 19, 2015 16:14:18 GMT
Had it figured out that the first 7 years of our marriage, we spent about 3-4 of them together. It was broken up, the longest straight being 12 months. That was the late 80's, early 90's.
We've been married 26 years this August, so we survivied it. That can be military life though.
|
|
|
|
Post by leannec on Jun 19, 2015 16:16:49 GMT
I think it was about a week ... I'm not sure because it was a kind of stressful time ... FIL had passed away and dh had to go and deal with his estate in another province One thing I do remember about that time was that there was no grilling going on here because I'm afraid of the BBQ  ETA: We've been married since 1997 ... together since 1994 |
|
|
|
Post by giatocj on Jun 19, 2015 16:17:52 GMT
Every other year I go away for a week with friends.
|
|
|
|
Post by anonrefugee on Jun 19, 2015 16:22:32 GMT
Not long enough. I need a few days! LOL
We both travelled in our early years of marriage, we were away 2 weeks at a time. It didn't phase me.
Now with kids I am in awe of military spouses living with the long separations. I hope there is some special recognition within the services for all parties. I'm thankful and humbled by their sacrifices.
|
|
eleezybeth
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,784
Jun 28, 2014 20:42:01 GMT
|
Post by eleezybeth on Jun 19, 2015 16:25:18 GMT
Military... 13 months was our longest.
|
|
It was hard then, too.
Southern Side eyed Pea 
