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Post by cmpeter on Jun 26, 2015 18:38:18 GMT
UPDATE
She did it! She added colored highlights in early July and loved them. She even got positive feedback from her vocal director. He said leave them in, even for their next show. Their next show is "rain" themed and they all dress in rainbow hues, so they will totally fit. She was surprised and grateful.
She says she feels a lot more confident with her new hair color. Her older brother isn't the biggest fan, but her dad and I like it(we were definitely on the fence before she had them done.)
Here are a couple pics. She had them re-done today (about 5 weeks after first getting them). She probably wouldn't have done them quite so soon, but she's going to vocal camp tomorrow and wanted them fresh and bright. Originally she had blue, red and blonde streaks. The blue lasted the best (some of the strands were still super bright 5 weeks later). The red faded the most (you could hardly see it after 5 weeks) and well, the blonde stayed blonde. :-) It took about three hours the first time she had them done and 1 1/2 today to refresh them.
Thanks again to everyone who shared their thoughts and personal experiences with me!
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LOL...hopefully that title makes sense.
My dd would like to color her hair dramatically. It's not something I really want her to do, as I would kill for her hair. But, she's been wanting to do this for a number of years, so it's not a passing phase. I am trying to get on the "it's only hair and it will grow back" train, although I must confess, it's hard!
This is what it looks like currently, although she normally wears it straight.
I would love feedback from peas who have BTDT. Things you wish you knew before you colored your hair. What would you do the same/different? Any warnings for her? Right now she's alternating between wanting to dye it dark (really dark brown or black) and have highlights in a rainbow of hues vs. dying it all blue. She'll need to dye it back to a natural color in October for a vocal performance.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 26, 2015 18:40:21 GMT
How about trying colored hair extensions for a few days to see if she likes it/help her decide on a color?
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Post by georgiapea on Jun 26, 2015 18:43:13 GMT
That is some super gorgeous hair! I'd kill for it too! Does the color have to be permanent? I really feel lovely hair like that shouldn't be ruined. What I'd do is try to talk her into clip on hair in colors. Or even a full wig. Just about anything to keep from ruining that beautiful hair.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 26, 2015 18:44:03 GMT
To get vibrant color they have to first strip all the color out of the hair being colored. Otherwise it will just be tinted that color over her natural color.
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Post by ptamom on Jun 26, 2015 18:45:24 GMT
All I can think of is how damaged it will be if she decides to dye it blue. She'll have to bleach it first, and that's going to be really harsh on that length of hair. Then dying it back in October - I'm guessing she'll have to lose some length if she doesn't want it to look fried.
I'm with you, her hair is gorgeous as is!
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Post by cyndijane on Jun 26, 2015 18:49:06 GMT
Maybe not a popular opinion, but I say let her go for it. Yes, her hair is stunning, and it may never look that great again. But- it hair. It's not permanent, let her experiment, and have fun. Who cares if it's blue? She know it's not forever. One day she'll look back and think she was crazy. But we've all been there.
As far as BTDT, fashion colors (rainbow) fades QUICKLY, sometimes within weeks. The super dark won't fade nearly as quickly, and will be harder to lighten later.
(And she's beautiful- her hair color won't change that!)
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 26, 2015 18:49:25 GMT
We have tried the clip on extensions in the past. She loved the look of the color, but we can't find them in long enough lengths for her hair. She knows they would need to bleach it to add the color. She's equating it to me getting blond highlights. Not sure if that's a fair comparison though.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 26, 2015 18:52:57 GMT
We are going to let her make the final decision, but I just want her to do so knowing all the risks and other factors involved. Doesn't mean it's going to be easy on old mom though.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 26, 2015 18:55:03 GMT
Such gorgeous hair!
I have seen some cool rainbow highlights and would steer her in that direction (just the highlights, not in addition to overall color change). It will minimize the overall damage to her hair.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 26, 2015 18:55:21 GMT
it is pretty much like bleaching for highlights. if she wants streaks and not all over color that will obviously be less damaging. I say go for it.
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Post by elinoah on Jun 26, 2015 18:57:53 GMT
We have tried the clip on extensions in the past. She loved the look of the color, but we can't find them in long enough lengths for her hair. She knows they would need to bleach it to add the color. She's equating it to me getting blond highlights. Not sure if that's a fair comparison though. you can buy long extensions in brown or blond or black etc and then bleach that and color it. Might be an easier solution that is not permanent. Look n youtube for video featuring bleaching extensions |
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Post by marysue63 on Jun 26, 2015 18:59:04 GMT
My DD14 has beautiful red hair, about the same length as your daughter. My heart would ache if she ever wanted to color it. Thankfully she's never expressed any interest. Her BF is also a red head and did color her hair blue and purple. It was really pretty, for a while. Now it's just faded and blah looking. That is what I would be concerned with for your daughter, the fading.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 26, 2015 19:14:00 GMT
Yeah, the fading something I am worried about too. The bright colors don't seem to fade out gracefully.
elinoah - I'll have her look on You Tube for that option too...thanks for the suggestion.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2015 19:15:57 GMT
Does your DD like to swim? She'll want to avoid getting her hair wet in chlorine pools.
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Post by sweetandsour on Jun 26, 2015 19:19:06 GMT
I let my DD do it as a birthday present. She got a few highlights of purple/pink. It is near the ends of her hair so when she has a ballet bun, it is basically hidden. I keep the colours fresh by putting on Manic Panic every week.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 26, 2015 19:19:26 GMT
My niece (21) has hair as long as your daughter but a darker brown.
She has been "coloring" her hair for about 7 months. 1st it was pink, now it is blue (teal, think mermaid). Her hair is so dry and brittle. Every time she does a touch up she bleaches her roots so the color will be accurate.
My sister (her mom) hates it. She says that people stop her all the time and say, "Girl, I LOVE your hair!" Drives my sister nuts!
My niece is constantly putting conditioner on it. Like that is going to help! I don't know what her hair is going to be like when she decides to go back to her natural color.
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Post by MsKnit on Jun 26, 2015 19:20:44 GMT
My friend's daughter wanted to dye her hair purple before prom. What she ended up doing was coloring an underneath layer of her hair. It turned out beautiful. Not shocking like I have seen with full color. Instead, there were peeks of purple. Depending how she wears it, she can have more color show. Her prom hair style was amazing, largely because of how the purple mixed through her natural color. It's feminine, I suppose.
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Post by freebird on Jun 26, 2015 19:29:22 GMT
This past year my hair has been in a very dark brown to purple ombre (about 1/3 of my hair being purple), then I switched to very dark with teal pieces. Didn't love the teal so much, it didn't last long. Next month I'm doing this:  (gahhh.. wish I had her pretty face). I just think it's hair, color is easier to fix than a bad cut. Let her do it. I always let my kids wear whatever hair they wanted as long as it was clean. It's a nice way to express yourself without being permanent. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 26, 2015 19:30:58 GMT
To get vibrant color they have to first strip all the color out of the hair being colored. Otherwise it will just be tinted that color over her natural color. Yeah that. My DD dyed her hair blue last summer and it completely damaged it. When she went to put it back tot a natural color, it required them to cut about 12-14 inches off it because it was so damaged. |
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 26, 2015 19:51:53 GMT
Freebird, that picture is beautiful. I know my dd would be willing to lose some length. She's also mentioned going red. A few weeks ago it was long enough to sit on and she cut off 8"...she wishes she would have gone about 4" shorter. But, I know she's not willing to lose much more.
She is in a performing show choir. She's pretty sure her director will require her to dye it back to normal for every show. The shows are pretty stylized around specific themes. They have big shows in October, December and June. Then random performances pop up through out the year too. It's the shows that have put her off coloring her hair so far.
Nicksmom - she does like to swim, but will rarely go into a chlorine pool. She had a scary episode in the wave pool at Great Wolf Lodge a few years ago due to the chlorine (she could barely breathe). Water parks and pools bother her a little too, so she generally avoids them. Here if we swim, it's usually in a lake. Not a lot of swimming pools in Seattle. |
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Post by kandie on Jun 26, 2015 20:02:00 GMT
My 14 yr has had a variety of colours in her hair.
We have to bleach out the natural colour then use manic panic on it.
It only lasts a couple of months before looking drab.
I bleach her hair and do the colouring about 4 times a year.
Her hair is not fried.
Makes my kid happy and it is just hair.
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Post by Merge on Jun 26, 2015 20:05:03 GMT
Mine did the bleach blonde look and plans to add the bright color (purple or blue) next time. It ruined her hair IMO. They had to process it twice to get it light enough, and I gather that's pretty normal. But she's 14, and I feel like now is the time to experiment with this stuff.
You should also investigate the cost. Two bleach processes plus color turned out to be very expensive.
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Post by Montannie on Jun 26, 2015 20:31:16 GMT
Can she try just a few swatches of her hair first, to see how her hair will take the color, how it will fade, etc.?
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 26, 2015 20:38:12 GMT
She could wear a wig for performances instead of going back and forth.
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Post by supersoda on Jun 26, 2015 21:17:37 GMT
Oh her hair is gorgeous. That would be tough.
All three of my girls want crazy colors this summer and we've been working on it this week. All of their natural colors are about the same as your DD.
One has short hair, so we bleached it all over. It ended up pretty orangey. We tried a toner, but it didn't do much, so we re-bleached several days later. It is now a straw-colored yellow. Her hair was healthy when we started and still feels soft, but I'm not willing to try lightening it anymore. We'll try adding blue tonight. Hopefully it won't look green.
Her twin has longer hair and I didn't want to risk destroying it all with bleach, so we just bleached the ends. It's actually a pretty ombré look right now, with straw to Caramel coloring. We'll try adding purple to the ends tonight.
My oldest regularly colors her hair a deep red. We also bleached her ends and they turned a pretty orange. She wants pink ends, but it's not light enough. Her hair isn't as healthy since she colors it regularly, and we're afraid to try bleaching again for a bit.
Anyway, this is our first go-round and it has been a week-long process and we still haven't seen the end result. But so far no one's hair seems permanently damaged. And they will all have to go back to "natural" colors when school starts per dress code.
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Post by ladyjane3000 on Jun 26, 2015 21:29:58 GMT
Hi there I bleach my hair every 2 months I have silver hair ( I only bleach my roots, before bleaching I put raw virgin coconut oil on my hair and leave it on for an hour or two to soak in then I put bleach on wash and then apply my silver then I condition it stops my hair being fried   |
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Post by idahomom on Jun 26, 2015 21:32:37 GMT
My daughter wants to do this also. She wants her entire head of hair bright teal. A year or so ago I let her do a purple peek-a-boo. The underneath hair was bleached and the purple put it. It looked great, for about 5 days. It faded out SO fast. We weren't told that it wouldn't last long. And during those five days anything her hair touched was purple. She slept on a towel and I bleached the shower. I like her bleached hair underneath now with her dark hair on top, especially when we pull it up. That bleached hair is very dry though.
For her to do teal, all of her hair needs to be bleached, then the teal. My stylist said we could hope that the teal will last a month and then it fades to pastel. First visit will be $200 and to keep it vibrant will be $60 monthly. NO WAY - not on a 15yo. So, my son's girlfriend offered to do it (she loves doing hair for fun). I guess I may be willing to buy the supplies if nagged to death about it. My vote though is to do nothing. I feel it's going to damage her hair and in a month she won't like it and will be asking to color it back to natural color. My daughter is always changing her mind about hair. I've learned my lesson after a couple of perms that didn't give her the curl she envisioned and then the purple peek-a-boo - I'm not paying for expensive funky hair at a salon.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 26, 2015 21:34:58 GMT
Don't let your son's GF do it idahomom. If she's going to do it--make sure it's by a professional. |
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Post by marimoose on Jun 26, 2015 22:43:17 GMT
What is it with these kids, says a mom of 4 who is feeling old today? Coloring is really popular and my youngest has done it too. She has gorgeous hair on its own but she has dyed it dark with dark purple, she had her own sandy brown color with magenta tipping the long bangs, we have seen two shades of red (think Emma Stone) and that was by far the most flattering, even as it faded out. Last year she was Queen Elsa for Halloween (can you say Disney fanatic?) and bleached her hair blonde. Others liked it, I hated it and she was awful about the upkeep so dark roots. The bleached hair was the worst and her once super healthy hair is dried out massively. It makes me want to cry because she is so stubborn. Gah  . Today she decided to let go of the blonde and had it dyed a strawberry blonde/light red and I will reserve my opinion for a few days on this one. She always has my stylist do it, who happens to be young and love color herself. I don't pay for any of it anymore so my opinion is zip. Thankfully my daughter's work does not approve of not normal hair colors so magentas and purples are out. She is able to do hair chalks and get away with that when she can't contain her inner spirit. She more than makes up for the hair with her eye makeup. It is crazy but she is constantly complimented on it. To be young and carefree again. Back to your daughter, I would try to reason with her about how the full over teal will ruin her hair(and it is beautiful hair) and besides if everyone else is doing it, she won't be unique. That sometimes works. If I were her I would go for the front in color much like free bird posted.It will be that much easier to color over also. Oh, my daughter did have that same two tone, blonde front, dark back. But at the end of the day, it is only hair and if this is the biggest concern/challenge you have with her, consider yourself lucky and remind yourself of the things you liked at that age that probably made adults shake their heads. We all had something. Post a picture of what she chooses. Nosy peas want to see  |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 26, 2015 23:30:13 GMT
To those saying it will ruin her hair. It will grow back and be just as healthy. Let her have fun. If she gets tired of it that's a lesson to her on the downside of coloring her hair.
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. Today she decided to let go of the blonde and had it dyed a strawberry blonde/light red and I will reserve my opinion for a few days on this one. She always has my stylist do it, who happens to be young and love color herself. I don't pay for any of it anymore so my opinion is zip.