UPDATE IN OP: Probably regret oversharing but
Jul 24, 2015 5:22:11 GMT
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Post by polz on Jul 24, 2015 5:22:11 GMT
Update:
So, we went away and it was like I had the sweet amazing guy I married back. We talked. A LOT. I cried. I cursed. I asked what was so deficient with me and he said it was never me. It was him. He apologised. He admitted fault. He wants our marriage back and god help me, but I believe him. Except for I'm wary, so I felt the need to check his phone when he was in the shower. Am I crazy? Am I a stalker? I don't want to be a treacherous,sneaky person. I'm a good person.There was nothing there and now I feel bad for checking. Today was the first day since I found out that I didn't feel the need to stalk her on social media. I realise it's not HER. It's HIM. I'm not married to her. Why am I investing so long thinking about her and comparing myself to her? She's prettier than me and thinner and I'm jealous. I'm all in a jumble. I've decided my marriage is worth saving but I'm scared to be hurt again. Sometimes I wish he'd slept with her so I could just be done. I know he didn't because she doesn't live here. I really wish I could push a button and get over it.
And thank you ALL for your support. Never had a seven pager before. I do feel loved. And sending much aroha (love) and awhi (comfort) to those that have been in a similar situation. Thank you for sharing.
Original Post:
I really, really, really need cyber hugs or something. My husband had an emotional affair and I just feel so unloveable and hideous and discarded and not all that special, and lied to, and used, and unknowing, and sickened and like a complete *&^%ing idiot. Just typing that makes me cry. I know I'm suppose to make a fake ID but I just can't be bothered. I don't want to tell anyone in my real life because I don't want pity. I feel sorry enough for myself.
BTW, I've done the type...delete...type...delete so many times on this. I just need to know that someone cares.
EDITED:
Thank you everyone for all your support, pms, offers of cyberhugs and prayers and timtams and help to beat up (not so) DH. It means a lot and I like having a 'safe' place I can vent. We are going away this weekend to talk. It's been rough these past few weeks. I have just felt so alone with no one to talk to. I probably won't be back here for a few days but I just really needed a friend and WOW - you guys were so there for me. I don't like feeling that my whole life was a lie. I'm drained.
So, we went away and it was like I had the sweet amazing guy I married back. We talked. A LOT. I cried. I cursed. I asked what was so deficient with me and he said it was never me. It was him. He apologised. He admitted fault. He wants our marriage back and god help me, but I believe him. Except for I'm wary, so I felt the need to check his phone when he was in the shower. Am I crazy? Am I a stalker? I don't want to be a treacherous,sneaky person. I'm a good person.There was nothing there and now I feel bad for checking. Today was the first day since I found out that I didn't feel the need to stalk her on social media. I realise it's not HER. It's HIM. I'm not married to her. Why am I investing so long thinking about her and comparing myself to her? She's prettier than me and thinner and I'm jealous. I'm all in a jumble. I've decided my marriage is worth saving but I'm scared to be hurt again. Sometimes I wish he'd slept with her so I could just be done. I know he didn't because she doesn't live here. I really wish I could push a button and get over it.
And thank you ALL for your support. Never had a seven pager before. I do feel loved. And sending much aroha (love) and awhi (comfort) to those that have been in a similar situation. Thank you for sharing.
Original Post:
I really, really, really need cyber hugs or something. My husband had an emotional affair and I just feel so unloveable and hideous and discarded and not all that special, and lied to, and used, and unknowing, and sickened and like a complete *&^%ing idiot. Just typing that makes me cry. I know I'm suppose to make a fake ID but I just can't be bothered. I don't want to tell anyone in my real life because I don't want pity. I feel sorry enough for myself.
BTW, I've done the type...delete...type...delete so many times on this. I just need to know that someone cares.
EDITED:
Thank you everyone for all your support, pms, offers of cyberhugs and prayers and timtams and help to beat up (not so) DH. It means a lot and I like having a 'safe' place I can vent. We are going away this weekend to talk. It's been rough these past few weeks. I have just felt so alone with no one to talk to. I probably won't be back here for a few days but I just really needed a friend and WOW - you guys were so there for me. I don't like feeling that my whole life was a lie. I'm drained.