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Post by karinms on Aug 5, 2015 14:25:20 GMT
She's a beautiful girl and I took their engagement photos on our property. They want to hold the wedding here too. I'll be spending the next two years working on gardens and we'll be doing lots of planning and creating. Our property is 2.5 hours away from when they all live and we'll also be dealing with the logistics of hotels etc for those of the 150 people she wants to invite who decide to stay.
I told her that I would be more than happy to make a list of photos she wants me to take before, but that I really would rather just enjoy the wedding.
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AnotherPea
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Post by AnotherPea on Aug 5, 2015 14:27:22 GMT
no, you are not wrong!
I wouldn't either. No way, no how.
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Post by Amelia Bedelia on Aug 5, 2015 14:29:30 GMT
Not wrong at all. It's a lot of stress to photograph a wedding, and there's no down time for you to enjoy yourself. I wouldn't want to work at a family member's wedding either.
I understand why she might have asked you though. She might not realize how much work goes into it, or she might have thought you want to or it would hurt your feelings not to ask you.
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Post by Merge on Aug 5, 2015 14:30:18 GMT
You are not wrong, but I wonder if part of the motivation is to save money on a "free" photographer. Maybe, if it's in your budget, you could offer to pay another photographer as your wedding gift to them.
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on Aug 5, 2015 14:31:03 GMT
That is a lot of responsibility. Hosting, StepMOB, and photographer and having it all on your property.
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Aug 5, 2015 14:32:08 GMT
Not wrong. And I agree, she may not realize that with you taking the photos, you will not be able to actually watch the ceremony.
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Aug 5, 2015 14:42:50 GMT
My Dad was a wedding photographer, and when we got married we had the same conversation. I really wanted him to take them for sentimental reasons, and he wanted to just be "Daddy". We compromised by having him do the couple pictures, one of his friends came and did the rest of the formals & during the ceremony (I let him choose which of his colleagues would do it), and then when we got home from our honeymoon we got dressed back up and he did some portraits outside of us. It was a good compromise & worked well for us.
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Post by KelleeM on Aug 5, 2015 14:52:18 GMT
I don't think you're wrong at all. I hope she's understanding of your desire to just be stepMOB and not be stressed all day (not that you won't be having a wedding on your property!) !!
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Post by magentapea on Aug 5, 2015 15:04:29 GMT
I agree with the others. I really like the idea of helping her choose a photographer and pay for it as their wedding gift if they were hoping to get free pictures.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2015 15:15:37 GMT
No you're not wrong. You can't possibly take the official photographs and host a wedding on your property. Step MOB do not go round taking official photos at a wedding.
I like the idea of you suggesting another photographer and paying for it, if your budget allows it, as a gift though.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Aug 5, 2015 15:56:00 GMT
I wouldn't want to be responsible for those pictures.
But you could still take some pictures.
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Aug 5, 2015 16:57:06 GMT
Even though I've done wedding photography, I hired someone for DD's wedding. It's too busy of a day to be worrying about trying to take pictures too. You can't be a good host and be a good photographer. You'll miss way too much.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 5, 2015 17:02:11 GMT
Actually that is the first thing I thought of when I read you post is that "oh, she will miss the wedding"
I do think it is sweet that she thinks enough of your photographic skills that she trusts you with her wedding photos.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2015 17:10:00 GMT
My father traded services with another photograph her fir my brither's wedding. He got the rolls of film and did all the rest of the work.
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