Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 14, 2015 17:12:04 GMT
Are you ok with people camping out on couches, etc?
We live away from all of our family. We have a five bedroom house. Two of our kids recently moved away from home, we have a high school junior and we're contemplating what to do with the extra space. One bedroom we have already turned into a scrapbook room. The other we'd like to make an additional tv watching space, maybe with a Murphy bed or pull out but that won't happen immediately. when DS goes to college in a couple years, we'll have his room for an additional guest space.
In the meantime we don't have a guest room. This became a discussion when my sister came to town last weekend. I asked her to stay with my mom because I really didn't want them setting up camp in the middle of our living space. She was aghast. I don't mind DS doing a one night thing in sleeping bags in the living room but I feel this is different.
It made me curious if I'm being weird or what other people do.
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Post by peabay on Nov 14, 2015 17:13:58 GMT
Couches. Air mattresses.
No one seems to mind. If it's someone old I make one of my kids sleep on the couch and they get my kid's bed.
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Post by moveablefeast on Nov 14, 2015 17:16:39 GMT
Couch, air mattress, or the Hilton Garden Inn a third of a mile away. Your pick.
I don't mind people camping in te living room for a few days but longer than that and I will probably recommend other options. For your comfort and mine. My house is really small and really open and I truly just want people to be comfortable when they visit, and an air mattress in the living room where the cat can walk on your head at night and you will hear at least one of us leave for work at 6am isn't all that comfortable.
But that's not to say I won't make space. Just that there may be more comfortable options than my living room floor.
(Obviously I don't have five bedrooms with some of them not occupied by people, though.)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 17:16:45 GMT
I never had a guest room in all the years my kids were growing up. when we had family visit the kids camped in the living room and the guests stayed in one or more of their rooms. Usually when we had family visit it was for a week or two.
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Post by leannec on Nov 14, 2015 17:17:36 GMT
We don't have a guest room right now but we are in the process of turning one bedroom into one since dd#1 has moved to the basement ... The only adult who sometimes sleeps over is my Mum and we just pull out the sofabed in the family room ... it's kind of a pain but you do what you have to do  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 17:18:10 GMT
Couches. Air mattresses. No one seems to mind. If it's someone old I make one of my kids sleep on the couch and they get my kid's bed. DS usually looses his bedroom if it's someone who needs a real bed (like my mom). We have a game room that has a futon so if its young people - that's where they go. We also have an air mattress where we can toss anywhere.
I prefer to not use the front room (couches) only because it's a pain if that person is still asleep and others want to get up.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 17:19:20 GMT
I'd be rather shocked if I wanted to stay with my sister in her five bedroom home and was told there was no room for me. Frankly, I'd feel unwanted.
If we had overnight guests, we'd move our family members around to free up a bed for our guests, and we'd figure out a sleeping arrangement that would work for our family -- couch, shared beds, floor.
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 14, 2015 17:20:01 GMT
We didn't have a guest room in my parent's house when I was a kid. My mom had the 4th bedroom made into her craft space, and it was crammed full of stuff, so there wasn't room to even put an air mattress on the floor.
I had the cleaner room out of my brother and I, so I always got kicked out of my room and was left to sleep on the couch while guests stayed in my room. Once I moved out for good my room was turned into the guest room. In my home now we have one room set up as a home office and the other is pretty much empty. We blow up an aerobed in there if we ever have guests over for more than one niggt, but our sectional is also the size of a full sized bed when the ottoman is pushed into it, so sometimes we have people stay on that, too.
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Post by kellybelly77 on Nov 14, 2015 17:25:58 GMT
We boot one of our girls out of their room. My sis and her family come several times a year. I kick oldest dd out of her room in the basement and my sis and her dh sleep in the bed. Their 2 boys sleep on an air matress in the same room. My dd sleeps on an air matress in her sisters room or on the couch. My sister comes for a week to 10 days at a time.
And honestly, if I went to my sisters 5 bedroom house to visit and was told there was no room I would be hurt. Seriously, a 5 bedroom house and you can't make it work? It's a week, kids will be fine. Dd has never once complained since she is always super excited to see her cousins.
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Post by mama2three on Nov 14, 2015 17:42:29 GMT
When our family visits there are a lot of them and we have a small house. With 3 kids and pets there isn't room unless a guest wanted to sleep on the couch. Once we hosted my cousin and her son for a week when a family member was in hospital nearby and had DS sleep on the floor of our room ( he was a toddler), but typically if the whole gang comes, they go to a local hotel.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 17:48:19 GMT
My sister and nephew live in our finished attic. Nephew is five and is only here half the time as she shares custody w his dad.
Guests stay in his room when he's not here.
I'm in the process of converting the scrap room back into a guest room.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 17:49:05 GMT
When our kids were old enough to outgrow first their cribs and then the bunkbeds, we ended up getting each a queen sized so that they could sleep together so one of their rooms could be used as guests. In this house we have 4 bedrooms, two with K-sized and two with Q-sized. Every once in a while, DS will sleep on a couch or in the theater recliners depending on how others need to sleep, but generally everyone gets a bed.
We have two away at college and only one at home. So plenty of extra unless they are all here. DH and I have been talking about keeping at least 2 of the three as guest rooms. But then again, he has a home office, I already have a craft room/office and we have a TV room in the basement. So we aren't lacking those other spaces.
If I had 5 bedrooms without those other spaces I would leave at least one as a guest room -- my kids in college still want to have a room to come home to and I want them to come home! One might be back next year when she does student teaching so we aren't ready to give them up yet (not permanent moves away) |
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Post by raindancer on Nov 14, 2015 17:51:58 GMT
Are you ok with people camping out on couches, etc? We live away from all of our family. We have a five bedroom house. Two of our kids recently moved away from home, we have a high school junior and we're contemplating what to do with the extra space. One bedroom we have already turned into a scrapbook room. The other we'd like to make an additional tv watching space, maybe with a Murphy bed or pull out but that won't happen immediately. when DS goes to college in a couple years, we'll have his room for an additional guest space. In the meantime we don't have a guest room. This became a discussion when my sister came to town last weekend. I asked her to stay with my mom because I really didn't want them setting up camp in the middle of our living space. She was aghast. I don't mind DS doing a one night thing in sleeping bags in the living room but I feel this is different. It made me curious if I'm being weird or what other people do. So what is the other room currently? I would have thrown down an air mattress and squeezed everyone in somewhere. If someone else has space for guests I think that's ok too. I never assume anyone can or will accommodate me, not even family. But kids in sleeping bags (like nieces and nephews) for a few nights doesn't seem like a huge deal. |
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Post by patin on Nov 14, 2015 17:56:29 GMT
We have 2 guest bedrooms: a double & a day bed that makes into 2 twins squished together. We also can fire up our RV that sleeps up to 6 or the kids sleep on couches or cots in sleeping bags . Yes we can & do accommodate a lot at one time, but. Can you believe I still hear complaints?
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Post by happymomma on Nov 14, 2015 18:04:09 GMT
My house is a teeny-tiny house. It has two bedrooms but one is used as my office/computer/stash-all room, so there's no bed in it.
I love having company though, and people love to stay here, despite how tiny it is. It's a cozy little hippie house and it makes my heart feel good to see my friends and family feel so comfortable, happy and relaxed here.
If my son and his little family come, I give them my bedroom and sleep on the couch. I always offer the same to any guests. I have the world's most comfy couch and I love to sleep on it, haha. I always make sure they know that I don't mind in the least sleeping on the couch so they can have my bed.
I have one girlfriend that visits from Wisconsin and she insists on sleeping in my overstuffed living room chair. Go figure.
I have another friend that visits from downstate and we always sleep together in my bed, laughing and talking well into the morning hours.
I guess it depends on your relationship with your visitors.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 14, 2015 18:04:26 GMT
I have never lived in a home with a guest room, and honestly, other than MIL, I don't know anyone with a guest room. Any guests we have are typically one nighters and we have an air mattress. that goes in the living room.
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 14, 2015 18:33:27 GMT
I'd be rather shocked if I wanted to stay with my sister in her five bedroom home and was told there was no room for me. Frankly, I'd feel unwanted. If we had overnight guests, we'd move our family members around to free up a bed for our guests, and we'd figure out a sleeping arrangement that would work for our family -- couch, shared beds, floor. Yes, obviously she is unwanted. :eye roll: lol My mom has two guest rooms. I asked my sister to stay there this time. She survived the experience. My sister stays up very late and sleeps in. With the layout of our house, we would have woken her up much earlier than she prefers. My moms house was a better option for her. We are currently using four of the five rooms. The fifth is completely empty. For this particular weekend I wasn't prepared to go buy something (bed, air mattress, etc) when my mom has two empty guest rooms. Besides, she doesn't like to sleep on an air mattress and complained when we all had that option at another family members house Going forward I definitely want a guest room and we can use DSs room for that. I'm debating using the fifth room for space that wouldn't easily convert to sleeping space. |
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Post by happymomma on Nov 14, 2015 18:38:11 GMT
I'd be rather shocked if I wanted to stay with my sister in her five bedroom home and was told there was no room for me. Frankly, I'd feel unwanted. If we had overnight guests, we'd move our family members around to free up a bed for our guests, and we'd figure out a sleeping arrangement that would work for our family -- couch, shared beds, floor. Yes, obviously she is unwanted. :eye roll: lol My mom has two guest rooms. I asked my sister to stay there this time. She survived the experience. My sister stays up very late and sleeps in. With the layout of our house, we would have woken her up much earlier than she prefers. My moms house was a better option for her. We are currently using four of the five rooms. The fifth is completely empty. For this particular weekend I wasn't prepared to go buy something (bed, air mattress, etc) when my mom has two empty guest rooms. Besides, she doesn't like to sleep on an air mattress and complained when we all had that option at another family members house Going forward I definitely want a guest room and we can use DSs room for that. I'm debating using the fifth room for space that wouldn't easily convert to sleeping space. Well, in all fairness, you did say she was aghast. Did you mean that in some way other than that she felt unwanted? |
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 14, 2015 18:47:46 GMT
Yes, obviously she is unwanted. :eye roll: lol My mom has two guest rooms. I asked my sister to stay there this time. She survived the experience. My sister stays up very late and sleeps in. With the layout of our house, we would have woken her up much earlier than she prefers. My moms house was a better option for her. We are currently using four of the five rooms. The fifth is completely empty. For this particular weekend I wasn't prepared to go buy something (bed, air mattress, etc) when my mom has two empty guest rooms. Besides, she doesn't like to sleep on an air mattress and complained when we all had that option at another family members house Going forward I definitely want a guest room and we can use DSs room for that. I'm debating using the fifth room for space that wouldn't easily convert to sleeping space. Well, in all fairness, you did say she was aghast. Did you mean that in some way other than that she felt unwanted? I meant she was shocked I asked her to stay with my mom. I was surprised that she was shocked because *currently* I don't have a guest room set up and my mom, who literally lives on the other side of or neighborhood, had two unused guest rooms. I still hosted and entertained her the whole weekend I just asked her to sleep at our MOM'S house. This wasn't a planned visit and I was not prepared to redo anything for her for THAT weekend. Like I said in my OP it made me think about what I want to do on a more long term basis. My post wasn't about my sister or her reaction.  |
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Post by librarylady on Nov 14, 2015 18:52:19 GMT
Our guest gets a bedroom and someone in the family gets the sofa.
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Post by hop2 on Nov 14, 2015 18:53:20 GMT
A hotel lol
We've only ever had kids friends stay over and they sleep in the family room in the basement.
Oh I forgot we also have a futon in the office it's been used once.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 14, 2015 18:55:56 GMT
We have a guest room that gets pretty heavy use and is perfect for a single or couple guests, but we often have more than that and then where they sleep depends on how long they are staying and what else is going on (school, break, work, etc.). Kids usually go on the sectional or air mattresses in the bonus room or the family room. More adults than the guest room can handle means my kids are bumped from their beds.
I've always preferred to stay on my sister's couch over my parents house a mile away even though at my parents I had 3 beds to choose from.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2015 18:58:54 GMT
You have two bedrooms freed up because kids went off to college. You turned their bedrooms into rooms without guest accomodations. You have an empty room and no real intention of having guest space (or family space for that matter) until after the last one leaves home and even then that sounds iffy. His room may end up a tv room.
I see your priorities as not being for family or friends. You have no thought about their comfort in your home.
Where do you expect your two college kids to stay when they visit? When they get married and bring a spouse there isn't a sense of home to come to. When they have kids and you want them to stay with greatgrandma because your rooms are full of stuff instead of a place for guests..... think about what is a true priority to you and the implications when there isn't room for a guest, even a family guest. You come across as really wanting to create walls to keep even your family out.
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Post by marianne on Nov 14, 2015 19:02:04 GMT
Yes, I'm fine with it. We have three bedrooms, two of which are guest rooms now that the kids are grown. One has a double bed, the other a single. We also have a sofa bed in the family room, a sofa in DH's office, the sectional sofa in the living room, several air mattresses and lots of floor space. We have a large extended family and when multples show up, it's wall-to-wall mattresses! Visits generally last from a few days to about a week, depending on who comes. We don't mind at all because we love having them here.
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 14, 2015 19:22:58 GMT
You have two bedrooms freed up because kids went off to college. You turned their bedrooms into rooms without guest accomodations. You have an empty room and no real intention of having guest space (or family space for that matter) until after the last one leaves home and even then that sounds iffy. His room may end up a tv room. I see your priorities as not being for family or friends. You have no thought about their comfort in your home. Where do you expect your two college kids to stay when they visit? When they get married and bring a spouse there isn't a sense of home to come to. When they have kids and you want them to stay with greatgrandma because your rooms are full of stuff instead of a place for guests..... think about what is a true priority to you and the implications when there isn't room for a guest, even a family guest. You come across as really wanting to create walls to keep even your family out. Holy shit. You really read a lot into what I didn't say. Bedroom #1-master bedroom Bedroom #2-DS 1 (junior in high school) It will be HIS room. He will be gone nine months of the year and guests can/will sleep in there. He also plans to study abroad and participate in a couple other summer programs. He isn't currently and won't in the future be home a lot over the summers. WHEN HE IS, THE ROOM IS HIS. If we had a guest and he was "in residence" I would ask him to sleep on the couch. Bedroom#3-DS 2 is 10. He currently has a twin size loft bed. Not very comfortable for an adult, but he too would be asked to move if we needed him to. Bedroom #4-Yes, we turned this into a scrapbook room. It is very small and wouldn't fit more than a twin size air mattress if we moved the desk out and into the hallway. Bedroom #5-Currently vacant as DD just moved out about two months ago. We would like to use this as a TV room/place for our teens to hang out with friends and will probably get a Murphy bed or pull out sofa. It didn't happen for my sister's surprise visit last weekend. And quite honestly we probably won't have the funds to redecorate that room and make it into a tv/guest room for a few months because we are doing other projects like paying for a nursery/furniture for DD and her husband's first baby and having a better outdoor space created because we have enjoyed the heck out of the fire pit DH and DS made at the beginning of the summer and we used 2-3 times a week all summer long when our adult children come over to hang out. I don't mind a one or two night thing camping out in the living room. I expect my kids to give up their bedrooms for adults. Last weekend was a completely different situation and nothing like our norm. My mom has two unused guest rooms. Like I have stated three times now, it prompted me to think about options for the future. I happen to be the one who hosts everything for my family. I completely take care of my mother without my sisters help. I pick my grandson up from daycare 2-3 days a week for my DD who is a single mom trying to juggle full time work and going to school. I have both of my adult children over 2-3 times a week for dinner/family activities. I do what I can from afar for my elderly father like his banking, etc because that's helpful to my siblings that live close to him. Yeah...creating walls and keeping family out. That's offensive. |
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Post by bluepoprocks on Nov 14, 2015 19:27:56 GMT
The only adult houseguest we get is my sisters ex when he comes up to see the boys. He lives in a different state and can't afford a hotel so he stays with us. When he comes the older boy sleeps in his brothers room who has a bunk bed or on the couch and their dad gets the older boys room.
All the other guests we have a kids and they only stay one night. They stay with which ever boy they are friends with.
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Post by grinningcat on Nov 14, 2015 19:29:35 GMT
I'd be rather shocked if I wanted to stay with my sister in her five bedroom home and was told there was no room for me. Frankly, I'd feel unwanted. If we had overnight guests, we'd move our family members around to free up a bed for our guests, and we'd figure out a sleeping arrangement that would work for our family -- couch, shared beds, floor. This. Unless it was a huge event (like my niece's wedding where there was literally no room left so my sister rented adjacent cottages), I would expect that my family member in a big house could find ONE tiny spot for me without making it sound like I was putting her out. I'd reconsider visiting someone if they said what you said to your sister. What's happened to the beds in the rooms that aren't changed into non-bedrooms? You have rooms that you've chosen to make into other rooms instead of addressing the guest room issue first. And even if you aren't interested in having a guest room, would it seriously be so bad to put someone in the living room for a short term visit like a weekend? I live in a tiny house and I give up my office as the guest's sitting room and dressing room and they sleep in the living room because it offers more privacy than my office which is right next to our bedroom. The only exception we've made for not having guests staying at the house was for the wedding and that was because there just wasn't room, so they stayed at the very nice hotel 3 minutes away from the house even though they were here every day. |
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Post by pridemom on Nov 14, 2015 19:36:42 GMT
One of my kids has a queen bed in her room. She's also the one who keeps their room mostly clean. She gives up her room for guests and sleeps in our family room. We also have air mattresses since we camp that can be used.
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Post by maryland on Nov 14, 2015 19:42:15 GMT
They sleep on the sofas. The kids used to be fine with giving up their beds, but now they are teens, they don't want too. My parents say the prefer the sofa so they can get up early and not wake anyone up.
I think you should do what works best for you your husband and son for most of the year. I would do a scraproom for me, study for my husband before I would do a guest room. But that's just me!
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Post by Kerri W on Nov 14, 2015 19:43:11 GMT
What's happened to the beds in the rooms that aren't changed into non-bedrooms? You have rooms that you've chosen to make into other rooms instead of addressing the guest room issue first. And even if you aren't interested in having a guest room, would it seriously be so bad to put someone in the living room for a short term visit like a weekend? I live in a tiny house and I give up my office as the guest's sitting room and dressing room and they sleep in the living room because it offers more privacy than my office which is right next to our bedroom. The only exception we've made for not having guests staying at the house was for the wedding and that was because there just wasn't room, so they stayed at the very nice hotel 3 minutes away from the house even though they were here every day. I really don't want to come across as being argumentative on this thread.  As my DDs have moved out, they have taken their furniture with them. Our youngest son moved from his itty bitty room to DD1s vacant room. The itty bitty room (that was probably meant for a home office originally) is what I now use as a scrapbook room. DD2s room is empty. Nothing in it. She took her furniture when she moved out two months ago. We will more than likely (as in we haven't talked about anything else, have only talked about the option of a sofa/murphy bed, just haven't bought the furniture yet) turn it into a guest space/TV room. Within a year and a half DS#1 will be off to college and we will ALSO have his room most of the time. It will still be his room he just realistically won't be here often to use it. When he makes a permanent move after graduating college/getting married/etc he will also be welcome to take his furniture with him. Sigh. I am not unwelcoming to guests. I host my extended family a LOT. I am very active with my adult children on a daily basis. I was not prepared for my sister's surprise visit last weekend and asked her to stay with my mom, who has two unused guest rooms, less than a mile away (to sleep only) instead. This is the first time in the 13 years we've lived here that I couldn't accommodate anything and everything she wanted. She was shocked, and quite honestly, not very nice about it. Her reaction prompted me to think about what other people do. I can't think of any of my friends who have a dedicated guest room as they all have children still at home. |
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