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Post by freebird on Dec 14, 2015 1:25:32 GMT
is seeing someone's face turn sad when the thing they really wanted gets stolen.
I gave an original painting of my grandfather and a canvas print of an aspen forest painting I did in our family exchange this year. My son had the canvas, my brother stole it, then because of my son's number in line, he got to steal it back but between the time that he figured out that he could steal it back, he looked really sad.
Then the painting, I thought that would be something that got stolen a lot, but it was one of the last gifts picked. My son's girlfriend got it, I told her not to be surprised, she wouldn't be keeping it. Next person stole it was my sister and I think she was pretty happy with it, but then my SIL stole it for my brother (who tried to hoard both!). My sister looked really sad too. I'll print her out a copy, but this was the original.
I wish there was a better way!
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Post by melanell on Dec 14, 2015 1:30:09 GMT
Aww. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg) Whenever I have played this with adults, the gifts were always pretty silly, so I never had this happen. I'm sorry folks were disappointed to have their paintings stolen. i could totally understand that.
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Post by birdy on Dec 14, 2015 1:34:33 GMT
We don't call it dirty Santa, but we play similar. We usually do something "nice" but under $5 per person. We also try to make some kid friendly things so we can all play together. When DS was 2 years old, he "got" a box of HoHo's. He was so excited. My Grandma's asshat of a husband stole them from my DS. Poor little guy didn't understand the concept of the game and no one else had planned to steal from a baby. 13 years later and it still ticks me off... jerk!
On a cute note though, when my great grandma was still alive (lived to almost 100), she won a box of chocolates. Someone wanted to steal it and she told them too bad, she wasn't giving it up. So cute!
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Post by anxiousmom on Dec 14, 2015 1:34:34 GMT
We do a Dirty Santa with my book club-but we have been together so long that we know that when some one unwraps something they really want to keep, it generally doesn't get stolen. That way, the stuff that does get stolen is almost always done in good spirits. It helps keep feelings from getting hurt.
Every once in a while it happens anyway, but it is rare.
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Post by knotlazy on Dec 14, 2015 2:13:33 GMT
years ago I was invited to a neighborhood cookie exchange that wasn't my neighborhood, but a good friend was hosting so she invited me as I knew a bunch of the people there..the exchange game was for ornaments. They were all so pretty! It was my turn and I went to "steal" one from someone I didn't know...and evidently she didn't get the game rules and she pitched a fit...I was embarrassed.. I learned a lesson there...don't steal from someone you don't know won't get into the spirit of the game.
We used to play this with my DH's father's family in East Texas...it was a lot of fun! Lots of lottery tickets, flashlights, picture frames, candles....that kind of thing. Not expensive. One year DH's uncle got stolen from almost every time he opened a gift....it was hilarious! But with this group, it was all in fun. And adults only. Kiddos got a toy to open brought by their parent. WE don't get together with any of them any more...It's a shame. I miss some of them.
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Post by perumbula on Dec 14, 2015 2:22:18 GMT
DH's bosses do this game at the employee Christmas party. It's a small company so the bosses take turn hosting and buying the gifts for the party. They spend $100 or so on each gift. The gifts are all great but there is always one that gets fought over. Luckily since all the gifts are good people don't get too sad. We came home this year with six movie tickets and a $50 gift card to a restaurant. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) I love the work Christmas party. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by ohiodianna on Dec 14, 2015 2:24:33 GMT
Personally I HATE the game no matter what it is called. I have only played with groups of people that don't know each other well. Somebody always seemed hurt. Last year we played it as a family gift exchange with my husband's family. Honestly it was terrible. Again a group of people that we are honestly not close with and just a mess. All adults and one person bought a cotton candy maker from the toy department. I am not poor but not rich. We are not doing it this year. It would cost me over $200 to participate and I can not dump that kind of money on the chance I will get stuff that will go in the goodwill bag. I pay for my young adult children's exchange gifts. There is more to my rant but I will stop here. I have never enjoyed the game.
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Post by desertgirl on Dec 14, 2015 2:25:24 GMT
Hate it. We always have cheaters in the family who arrange with others to steal something they want and then return the favor. Ugh.
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Post by styxgirl on Dec 14, 2015 2:38:31 GMT
That sounds like a pretty sentimental gift for a dirty Santa game.
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Post by hollymolly on Dec 14, 2015 2:43:59 GMT
We just decided to do it at our family gathering this year. We've been drawing names for at least the last 10 years, kids in one drawing, adults in another. The kids still drew names this year, but adults are doing dirty santa. I'm a little nervous. We used to play it with a church group that I was part of for many years, I know it can be a lot of fun. But I also know that it can get get uncomfortable and feelings can get hurt. You don't want to be the one who brought the present nobody wants. I think my family is close enough that it will be ok, but I'm still nervous.
I'd love to be part of a dirty santa where one person bought all the presents and they were all of relatively equal value.
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Post by freebird on Dec 14, 2015 2:46:57 GMT
Personally I HATE the game no matter what it is called. I have only played with groups of people that don't know each other well. Somebody always seemed hurt. Last year we played it as a family gift exchange with my husband's family. Honestly it was terrible. Again a group of people that we are honestly not close with and just a mess. All adults and one person bought a cotton candy maker from the toy department. I am not poor but not rich. We are not doing it this year. It would cost me over $200 to participate and I can not dump that kind of money on the chance I will get stuff that will go in the goodwill bag. I pay for my young adult children's exchange gifts. There is more to my rant but I will stop here. I have never enjoyed the game.
to be fair, even if you do a regular exchange, you run the risk of someone giving you a crappy gift.
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Post by ohiodianna on Dec 14, 2015 2:54:34 GMT
Personally I HATE the game no matter what it is called. I have only played with groups of people that don't know each other well. Somebody always seemed hurt. Last year we played it as a family gift exchange with my husband's family. Honestly it was terrible. Again a group of people that we are honestly not close with and just a mess. All adults and one person bought a cotton candy maker from the toy department. I am not poor but not rich. We are not doing it this year. It would cost me over $200 to participate and I can not dump that kind of money on the chance I will get stuff that will go in the goodwill bag. I pay for my young adult children's exchange gifts. There is more to my rant but I will stop here. I have never enjoyed the game.
to be fair, even if you do a regular exchange, you run the risk of someone giving you a crappy gift.
You are correct but when we did regular gift exchange we drew names and a wish list. My son is the youngest grandchild at 16. He has already been bumped to the "adult" exchange where wine and alcohol products are included. Lots of issues with the family over and above the gift exchange but we are not doing it this year.
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Post by msdintz on Dec 14, 2015 2:58:14 GMT
Oh we did this at work one year.. I bought something super funny (superhero snuggie.. Who wouldn't want that?) the guy who ended up with it pitched such a fit bc he brought a bottle of booze and apparently thought that's what he would get, I was horribly embarrassed and super pissed off... I ended up giving him my gift and taking mine back so he would shut up.. Never participated again, never will.
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 14, 2015 3:07:11 GMT
I dislike this type of gift exchange and prefer not to participate in that. Yes, I would be unhappy or pissed off if I got something I really liked and then had it stolen by someone else.
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Post by knotlazy on Dec 14, 2015 3:11:39 GMT
Gosh...hate to hear so many bad experiences with what should be a fun game.
However, I will share my very first experience with "dirty santa"....I had no idea how to play. I was part of a small church group and the girl who was hosting also invited a bunch of her hubby's work people which was not known to me before I got there. I asked what kind of gift... was "white elephant" and she said "something you received that you didn't want"....so ok. We (DH and me) thought that meant something funny. So we had an unopened nose hair clipper. We thought that would be funny...thinking all the gifts would be funny and crazy. Well....not so much. The woman who got that gift was standing next to my DH at one point and said "who would bring that?".....and my DH said "I have no idea...what a crazy gift!"....We laughed all the way home but were embarrassed at the same time...we had no idea what was expected!
I'm pretty glad I don't play that game anymore with people I don't know....
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Post by brookeq on Dec 14, 2015 3:12:48 GMT
We used to do it on my dads side of the family. Limit was $15. We had people ranging from 16 years old to 80. Every time the same few people would complain about their gifts in front of everyone. And ask for a receipt.
One year too many people did gift cards and they were banned.
One year my cousins wife complained about my gift of wine because she didn't drink. But her gift was a nice bottle opener and wine charms???
I didn't participate after that. And luckily it ended.
Its supposed to be fun. But unless everyone is laid back,fun,and gets along it just doesn't work in my opinion
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Post by hollymolly on Dec 14, 2015 3:17:55 GMT
to be fair, even if you do a regular exchange, you run the risk of someone giving you a crappy gift.
You are correct but when we did regular gift exchange we drew names and a wish list. My son is the youngest grandchild at 16. He has already been bumped to the "adult" exchange where wine and alcohol products are included. Lots of issues with the family over and above the gift exchange but we are not doing it this year. That does sound like a difficult family. My sister and I were just talking about what we had wanted to get for the exchange (bourbon crafted for her husband's company from her and vodka from a distillery I visited recently from me) but we wouldn't because we have 3 people in the exchange who are under 21, 2 more who have personal reasons for being anti-alcohol, and another 2 who just don't care for it. I can't imagine putting any of them in a position to get stuck with alcohol for their gift. That's just plain rude and inconsiderate.
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Post by Zee on Dec 14, 2015 3:26:37 GMT
I hate those things. I don't participate in them if at all possible.
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Post by Grom Pea on Dec 14, 2015 3:38:32 GMT
I hate gift exchanges because i always get screwed and 9 times out of 10 the party is on my actual birthday and people still screw me over. I only participate because I want to keep everyone happy. This year I'm missing one due to illness and I'm not really sad.
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Post by blue tulip on Dec 14, 2015 3:43:43 GMT
our white elephant/dirty santa parties are always low cost funny items, or random things you just want to get rid of. you guys must do it differently, because I agree, paintings sound like a very nice, sentimental thing to be in a game like that.
next time, you could give prints, and if you see someone who is very sad to have lost out, gift THEM the original.
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Post by melanell on Dec 14, 2015 3:52:33 GMT
I'd love to be part of a dirty santa where one person bought all the presents and they were all of relatively equal value. I saw something similar to that mentioned on a site recently. It was part of a party. The hostess purchased enough gifts for everyone, but there was a twist. Although the gifts were inexpensive and/or silly things, there were 3 "real" gifts hidden inside the silly gifts. 2 gift cards and a cash gift. And the hostess would hide them so well that sometimes no one knew who had the "good" gift until it was all over. But you could certainly host a party and play the game without the added special gifts. Christmas Gift GameBut really, I think this game only ever works well if the people playing it are willing to have fun with it. 15 years ago we used to play this game with $1.00 gifts and we each brought 5 of them to the party. It was crazy, and funny, and no one got too upset over losing a 1.00 gift or over spending 5.00 to play.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2015 3:59:41 GMT
Personally I HATE the game no matter what it is called. I have only played with groups of people that don't know each other well. Somebody always seemed hurt. Last year we played it as a family gift exchange with my husband's family. Honestly it was terrible. Again a group of people that we are honestly not close with and just a mess. All adults and one person bought a cotton candy maker from the toy department. I am not poor but not rich. We are not doing it this year. It would cost me over $200 to participate and I can not dump that kind of money on the chance I will get stuff that will go in the goodwill bag. I pay for my young adult children's exchange gifts. There is more to my rant but I will stop here. I have never enjoyed the game. I want one of the cotton candy machines , I keep looking at them but somehow they seem overpriced at $25-35. I want to use it to decorate cupcakes with.
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Dec 14, 2015 4:01:44 GMT
I hate those things. I don't participate in them if at all possible.
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Post by mom2rjcr on Dec 14, 2015 4:47:44 GMT
We had one at our annual staff Christmas party. We were asked to bring an ornament or a Christmas decoration. Everyone is opening them and getting amazing ornaments or decorations. I was #2 in the picking. I got a cheapy plastic ornament and some tiny clothepins. Of course no one wanted to steal from me, so I was stuck with it. When I got home, I realized not only was it cheap but it was broken. I was so sad. We have been doing this exchange for years and we all know the rules, but still....really? I put some thought and effort into my gift. I'm selfish and wanted something cute too. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg)
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 14, 2015 4:48:57 GMT
Feel good that the painting was stolen so much. You're a talented artist. I remember hanging on to a jar of Nutella for dear life for during a Dirty Santa game.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Dec 14, 2015 7:20:46 GMT
Sounds like a recipe for disaster. Hasn't caught on here, thank goodness.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Dec 14, 2015 11:19:35 GMT
I can relate. We do this game each year with DH's family ($25-30 gift). We have many "rules" for the game and part of the fun each year is the reading of the rules by my SIL. One of the rules is "no crying at Christmas." From time to time, the game has turned a little sour. Last year we handed out playing cards after the game and two cards at a time were pulled and those two people exchanged their gifts. It felt a bit random. I go into the evening with low expectations (which isn't too Christmasy) and try to remember it's a big family event and it's about all the laughing we do, not the gift.
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Post by compeateropeator on Dec 14, 2015 13:02:23 GMT
I am sorry that people were disappointed. But I will be the dissenter here and say that I enjoy games like that (we call them something else). You aren't always happy with what you get for presents so this is no different. It is more about the fun and laughs in the steal. I never go in with the expectation of coming out with something I love or want, but more for the fun of the play. i have done it with various groups from small groups of family, large family reunions, work and friends. It can be used as a teaching experience for kids and adults alike...that life isn't always fair and you don't always get what you want. ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) In most cases it is not like it is a persons main present, it is just a silly game. Just as with anything that involves a group of people, some people will put more effort into it than others. That is the way it goes and if that bothers you (General you) it is probably better to decline and not be involved if possible.
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Post by Meri-Lyn on Dec 14, 2015 13:11:39 GMT
I hate that game with the passion of 1000 fiery suns!!!!!! Several years ago, before Mr. Boss retired, we did that, and he bought...a stapler. It was a goofy thing he had bought at an art museum store. Of course, the gifts are anonymous, so no one knew it was his. People were trading that thing off, left and right. Mr. Boss got all butt-hurt that no one wanted his gift, and proclaimed no more gifts. And for the longest time we didn't until after he let.
Then there was the year that DH's mom's family decided to do it, and the two uncles kept arguing over what the rules are. And again, there was always someone who wasn't a great gift buyer who kept getting traded around, and one uncle was upset that someone stole his Home Depot gift card.
Now we do a small low-key Stocking Exchange at the office. The gifts are neutral, so even though there's a little whining, most of the gifts are about equal.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 14, 2015 13:24:32 GMT
I've only been in the kind where the gifts were all pretty worthless, so I haven't experienced much drama. But thinking about it now after reading these posts, it seems to be the kind of game that brings out the worst in people. My family gets rabid about playing that. Atd game hearts. They gang up on someone who is trying to go for a run or who is ahead. I know that is how you are supposed to play but someone always gets their panties in a bunch. I stopped playing years ago.
Lucky person who got your beautiful work!
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