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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:04:00 GMT
I did. Last week in the parking lot of Home Depot. I am NOT a crier. I never cry ~ of course I get teary at movies, cute puppy videos on Facebook, etc. But I don't bawl. I was just so frustrated because everything I wanted to get DH was either sold out or not available in his size. We're hosting his family on Christmas day and the house wasn't totally decorated. So I sat in my car and cried. DH came home later and asked me how my day was and I started bawling. He was panicked stricken because he knows I'm not a crier. He was afraid I had gotten bad health news. I assured him I was fine and told him I was just stressed.
Well, today I found the last item on my list to buy him ~ a pair of black slacks. I went to Macy's and got a beautiful pair of $95 Kenneth Cole pants on sale and after all the discounts, I paid $10.95!! I almost skipped through the mall with glee!!
So hopefully everyone else's melt-downs end up with joyful skipping!
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Post by Mystie on Dec 20, 2015 20:18:38 GMT
Yeah, I had a meltdown at Christmastown at Busch Gardens the other night...it was late, I was hungry, and I just could not take the noise and the crowds. I have a hard time with Busch when I'm in a good mood, but if I'm on the borderline, it pushes me right over the edge. We have season passes, so we can go whenever we want (my husband goes all. the. time.) so it's not like I ruined a once-in-a-lifetime moment or anything but I still felt bad about being bitchy to my sweet husband.
It's just better for me to stay in my house and avoid the crowds! Better for everyone!
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Post by leannec on Dec 20, 2015 20:24:32 GMT
Awww Joy  Remind yourself that you are the reason your dh won the Refugees Survivor Pool  |
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Post by anxiousmom on Dec 20, 2015 20:25:44 GMT
No, but I am on my way toward one. Want to know why? Or rather the icing on the cake, so to speak? Because when I paid my cable bill, apparently they were having problems with their computer and ran my card multiple times. Because I was using my debit card, every time they ran the card, the bank held the funds. The cable company only authorized one payment, so only one payment was actually taken out, but there are multiple holds on the money in my account...that have to wait some mysterious amount of time allocated by the bank before the holds expire and I have access to the funds. Right now, the budget is way too tight for that. And those stupid holds include the tiny bit of Christmas money that I have. It has been held since Tuesday-and as of today, the hold is still there and may or may not be released on Tuesday. Maybe. It could be up to 7-10 days. That is the tip of the iceberg. I swear, this will be a season that I will be happy to see the other side of.  |
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Post by moveablefeast on Dec 20, 2015 20:34:24 GMT
We all had the flu (lab confirmed) this past week and I am so far behind on everything that I just want to declare Christmas bankruptcy and try again next year.
I love my DH and his family dearly but some years I just wish I could be doing my own Christmas in my own house... Just for once in my adult life. I wish I didn't have to get in the car and drive 1,000 miles round trip and have all my preparation be for second Christmas which is never as good as first Christmas. I hate that someone else gets to steal my thunder every year. Even if it is my mother in law who my daughter adores.
I have no choice but to suck it up and go and make the best of it. Doesn't change how I feel.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:38:16 GMT
Awww Joy Remind yourself that you are the reason your dh won the Refugees Survivor Pool Haha! We actually split it 3 ways no matter who wins. We couldn't even remember who had which survivor. Interestingly, we had Terry who had to leave the game, Savage who was a big sourpuss and Jeremy, the winner.  |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:40:11 GMT
No, but I am on my way toward one. Want to know why? Or rather the icing on the cake, so to speak? Because when I paid my cable bill, apparently they were having problems with their computer and ran my card multiple times. Because I was using my debit card, every time they ran the card, the bank held the funds. The cable company only authorized one payment, so only one payment was actually taken out, but there are multiple holds on the money in my account...that have to wait some mysterious amount of time allocated by the bank before the holds expire and I have access to the funds. Right now, the budget is way too tight for that. And those stupid holds include the tiny bit of Christmas money that I have. It has been held since Tuesday-and as of today, the hold is still there and may or may not be released on Tuesday. Maybe. It could be up to 7-10 days. That is the tip of the iceberg. I swear, this will be a season that I will be happy to see the other side of. Oh, man, I hate when crap like that happens. We are held hostage by something stupid that isn't our fault.  |
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Post by jennifercw on Dec 20, 2015 20:43:26 GMT
Yep. A screaming, sobbing meltdown in my walk-in-closet last night. Sort-of-but-not-really over an appetizer fail. Well the appetizer fail just took me right out to the edge of the cliff and then something DH said pushed me over the edge. But it actually wasn't because of either of those things. Which is pretty much how meltdowns work, isn't it? *sigh*
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:44:40 GMT
We all had the flu (lab confirmed) this past week and I am so far behind on everything that I just want to declare Christmas bankruptcy and try again next year. I love my DH and his family dearly but some years I just wish I could be doing my own Christmas in my own house... Just for once in my adult life. I wish I didn't have to get in the car and drive 1,000 miles round trip and have all my preparation be for second Christmas which is never as good as first Christmas. I hate that someone else gets to steal my thunder every year. Even if it is my mother in law who my daughter adores. I have no choice but to suck it up and go and make the best of it. Doesn't change how I feel. Sorry y'all have been sick, it's worse when it happens in December near the holidays. Can you mother-in-law not travel. Is it possible to give her a ticket next year to come to your house to celebrate? |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:45:33 GMT
Yep. A screaming, sobbing meltdown in my walk-in-closet last night. Sort-of-but-not-really over an appetizer fail. Well the appetizer fail just took me right out to the edge of the cliff and then something DH said pushed me over the edge. But it actually wasn't because of either of those things. Which is pretty much how meltdowns work, isn't it? *sigh* Absolutely. |
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Post by mom on Dec 20, 2015 20:46:42 GMT
No meltdown yet, but I feel it coming on.
Both of my boys are with their dad until the 28th of this month, so they wont be here for Christmas.
My dad and his new wifey are flying to Indiana for Christmas (usually we spend Christmas with my dad and my mom when she was alive).
So, its just me and the husband. We could go with friends (many have invited us because they know the situation) but we won't.
Years like this just remind me that we should have our daughter here, but we don't. We were able to celebrate one Christmas with her before she passed and it was magical.
Sorry. This isn't a vent. Just a wishing/missing post.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2015 20:49:41 GMT
I haven't had my meltdown yet...but it's coming. I'm really trying not to, but don't know how much longer I can hold out. As I'm typing, DH is upstairs yelling, "GD'it, m'f'er, WTF, f' man,"  Let's ALL sing: Tis the Season to be Jolly FA LA LA LA LA, LA LA LA LA! **eta*** Seriously, dude is upstairs talking to himself swearing, still. LOL |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Dec 20, 2015 20:50:56 GMT
I did yesterday in the dentist office. It was a really bad day.
First, my car went to the shop for what I thought was just a low tire pressure warning light. Well, it needed $2,000 in repairs. Ugh. I don't even like the car that much but it's mostly for the kids now.
Then, DD is only here for 9 days and we had to get her into the dentist for some tooth pain. Turns out she needed two root canals and crowns (with limited insurance). Then on Wednesday, she will have all 4 wisdom teeth pulled. Ugh. I feel so bad for her (and my bank account).
DH ended up coming by to pick up DS since we were there for so long (4-1/2 hours). He got pretty mad when talking about the money and I just lost it. I was crying tears of stress and frustration. I know he's frustrated and I am too but we need to be in this together. The wisdom teeth probably should've already been done by now but they are causing problems with other teeth so we just have to do it and get it done. Sucks for DD since we always go to the IL's for Christmas Eve. I hope she feels up to it since this is a special celebration too for MIL's bday and their 50th anniversary with some relatives coming in from out of town.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Dec 20, 2015 20:51:17 GMT
I had a fit over my shortbread failure. It was my own fault; I was tired and stressed and just wanted it finished so I let the dough get too warm. I yelled at everybody that it was their fault because they love this stupid recipe, so I make it and then they all eat it before Christmas and then I have to make more. I swore last year I was never going to make it again and there I was up to my eyeballs it melted dough. Then I cried. I had a good night's sleep, apologized to my family and there is more dough chilling in the fridge as I type because I am in a much better place  I feel bad even typing this because there are so many going through such difficult times and I'm crying over shortbread. It's curious what pushes us over the edge. |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:52:19 GMT
No meltdown yet, but I feel it coming on. Both of my boys are with their dad until the 28th of this month, so they wont be here for Christmas. My dad and his new wifey are flying to Indiana for Christmas (usually we spend Christmas with my dad and my mom when she was alive). So, its just me and the husband. We could go with friends (many have invited us because they know the situation) but we won't. Years like this just remind me that we should have our daughter here, but we don't. We were able to celebrate one Christmas with her before she passed and it was magical. Sorry. This isn't a vent. Just a wishing/missing post. This made me tear up ~ after claiming I'm not a crier. I get very nostalgic during the holidays because Christmas was always my favorite time of the year with my family. I hope you can find some joy this year. |
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Dec 20, 2015 20:53:01 GMT
I just had a little crying bout.
My dear sweet Grandmother passed in April 2014. Christmas was hard without her last year but this year I am so very sad about it. I miss her so much, every singe day. In the past year, I have discovered that she really did mean so much more to me than a grandmother, she was a friend and a mother figure in my life. I feel lost some days that I can't pick up the phone and call her or a get a hug from her.
I loved shopping for Her at Christmas (otherwise I don't really love Christmas shopping in general). She loved angels, pretty things that sparkled or glowed, perfume, candy. Every time I am in a store and I see these special little things during the holidays, I get teary eyed. So many reminders of things that brought her joy.
So I was just in our spare bedroom and I saw something on the floor. It was from a box of things I have that were hers. One of my kids must have been looking thru it and this item fell on the floor. I started bawling. My poor dh, I don't think he realized how much I am grieving this holiday season.
ETA: like someone else said, this is a Holiday, every year, I can't wait to be on the other side of.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Dec 20, 2015 20:53:31 GMT
Me! DD went over to her dad's Friday night, and I completed a big project at work in the middle of the night that night. With the end of the project and DD gone, I was tired and the house was too quiet. ExH is traveling to his new SIster in Law's house for Christmas and taking DD, so this will be the first time I won't see her on Christmas (technically, I should get her back at 3:00 that day). When exH texted that his dad is passing through town on New Year's Day and wants to eat a meal out, it just pushed me over the edge. I had a good cry then turned on cheesy Christmas movies, each of which contained another good cry (as all Chrismas movies must).
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:55:25 GMT
I did yesterday in the dentist office. It was a really bad day. First, my car went to the shop for what I thought was just a low tire pressure warning light. Well, it needed $2,000 in repairs. Ugh. I don't even like the car that much but it's mostly for the kids now. Then, DD is only here for 9 days and we had to get her into the dentist for some tooth pain. Turns out she needed two root canals and crowns (with limited insurance). Then on Wednesday, she will have all 4 wisdom teeth pulled. Ugh. I feel so bad for her (and my bank account). DH ended up coming by to pick up DS since we were there for so long (4-1/2 hours). He got pretty mad when talking about the money and I just lost it. I was crying tears of stress and frustration. I know he's frustrated and I am too but we need to be in this together. The wisdom teeth probably should've already been done by now but they are causing problems with other teeth so we just have to do it and get it done. Sucks for DD since we always go to the IL's for Christmas Eve. I hope she feels up to it since this is a special celebration too for MIL's bday and their 50th anniversary with some relatives coming in from out of town. I think you nailed it ~ stress and frustration. Sorry for everything piling on at once. Hopefully your DD will be able to participate Christmas Eve. |
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Post by Lovebug2867 on Dec 20, 2015 20:56:32 GMT
I did last week I was super overwhelmed with 58 dozen cookies that I had orders for. I completely overbooked myself and last Saturday my SO came home from work while I was decorating and while he helped me after taking a tray to him to decorate I slipped and fell and just lost it. He thought I was hurt lol but really it was just the straw that broke the camels back. I had a good cry and then busted my butt getting them done. Delivered them all Monday and all the Doctor's offices loved them. My Surgeon (who placed the order as his Christmas gifts to the other offices that refer to him) even friended me on Facebook just to thank me and say everyone loved my cookies. Made my week!
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Post by Mystie on Dec 20, 2015 20:57:38 GMT
No, but I am on my way toward one. Want to know why? Or rather the icing on the cake, so to speak? Because when I paid my cable bill, apparently they were having problems with their computer and ran my card multiple times. Because I was using my debit card, every time they ran the card, the bank held the funds. The cable company only authorized one payment, so only one payment was actually taken out, but there are multiple holds on the money in my account...that have to wait some mysterious amount of time allocated by the bank before the holds expire and I have access to the funds. Right now, the budget is way too tight for that. And those stupid holds include the tiny bit of Christmas money that I have. It has been held since Tuesday-and as of today, the hold is still there and may or may not be released on Tuesday. Maybe. It could be up to 7-10 days. That is the tip of the iceberg. I swear, this will be a season that I will be happy to see the other side of. OH NO. I am so, so sorry. |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 20:59:40 GMT
I just had a little crying bout.
My dear sweet Grandmother passed in April 2014. Christmas was hard without her last year but this year I am so very sad about it. I miss her so much, every singe day. In the past year, I have discovered that she really did mean so much more to me than a grandmother, she was a friend and a mother figure in my life. I feel lost some days that I can't pick up the phone and call her or a get a hug from her.
I loved shopping for Her at Christmas (otherwise I don't really love Christmas shopping in general). She loved angels, pretty things that sparkled or glowed, perfume, candy. Every time I am in a store and I see these special little things during the holidays, I get teary eyed. So many reminders of things that brought her joy.
So I was just in our spare bedroom and I saw something on the floor. It was from a box of things I have that were hers. One of my kids must have been looking thru it and this item fell on the floor. I started bawling. My poor dh, I don't think he realized how much I am grieving this holiday season.
ETA: like someone else said, this is a Holiday, every year, I can't wait to be on the other side of.
Your post actually made me wistful. Both of my grandmothers passed away before I was born so I never got to experience the love of one. I envy people like you who had that special relationship. I'm sorry you're missing her so much. |
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Post by mom on Dec 20, 2015 20:59:45 GMT
I just had a little crying bout.
My dear sweet Grandmother passed in April 2014. Christmas was hard without her last year but this year I am so very sad about it. I miss her so much, every singe day. In the past year, I have discovered that she really did mean so much more to me than a grandmother, she was a friend and a mother figure in my life. I feel lost some days that I can't pick up the phone and call her or a get a hug from her.
I loved shopping for Her at Christmas (otherwise I don't really love Christmas shopping in general). She loved angels, pretty things that sparkled or glowed, perfume, candy. Every time I am in a store and I see these special little things during the holidays, I get teary eyed. So many reminders of things that brought her joy.
So I was just in our spare bedroom and I saw something on the floor. It was from a box of things I have that were hers. One of my kids must have been looking thru it and this item fell on the floor. I started bawling. My poor dh, I don't think he realized how much I am grieving this holiday season.
ETA: like someone else said, this is a Holiday, every year, I can't wait to be on the other side of.
Totally understand. Whoever said the first Christmas is the hardest lied. This is the second Christmas without my mom and hands down, it sucks more this year than last. Hugs! |
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 20, 2015 21:01:14 GMT
Me! DD went over to her dad's Friday night, and I completed a big project at work in the middle of the night that night. With the end of the project and DD gone, I was tired and the house was too quiet. ExH is traveling to his new SIster in Law's house for Christmas and taking DD, so this will be the first time I won't see her on Christmas (technically, I should get her back at 3:00 that day). When exH texted that his dad is passing through town on New Year's Day and wants to eat a meal out, it just pushed me over the edge. I had a good cry then turned on cheesy Christmas movies, each of which contained another good cry (as all Chrismas movies must). Sorry you're feeling blue. And yes, cheesy Christmas movies are all good for a cry. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Dec 20, 2015 21:02:02 GMT
So hopefully everyone else's melt-downs end up with joyful skipping! What a nice holiday wish. I want to join in on that. Merry Skipping, Peas! |
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Post by danor98 on Dec 20, 2015 21:04:50 GMT
so, now reading these is making me cry more. I lost my mom in January. She was sick for 2 months before, so she really wasn't with us at Christmas last year. I just can't stop crying. I go to stores and everything there reminds me of her. Damn Costco and their giant book displays. I was sobbing in there the other day, looking at all the books mom won't get to read. (crying more just typing that)
We also lost our dog this past May. We are all sad about that. My husband has clinical depression (ya' know,real depression, not the situational depression that I have). I have been walking on egg shells lately trying to be sweet and nice and understanding. I am so tired of that. I want to be the depressed one.
Hugs to all of us this year..............
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2015 21:09:44 GMT
I feel like such a whiner compared to everyone else. Really. My stuff is just petty, but it does feel overwhelming to me. My DH and I are both on staff at a church and I am just about to lose it. Christmas is a time of stress for me trying to make it special and meaningful to everyone else and I don't know how to dig out of that. I thought we had everything set for Christmas Eve service (very big deal...packed out...and they promote the heck out the world famous hot cocoa bar I set up every year) and for that following Sunday (we were hoping to go see my family, since we don't live near anyone and were going to not be back for that day). I have had several more people tell me that they are not going to take care of the things they volunteered for...more of the teachers in my kids classes tell me they can't make it now...I just want to get off this ride. It will all work out. It always does, but I would like to spend some time enjoying MY family and not getting everything ready for everyone else. I'm sorry. I'm so tired. LOL I told you it was petty. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Dec 20, 2015 21:13:31 GMT
I haven't had a meltdown yet.
Maybe I already used up my life's allotment? That could happen, right?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2015 21:19:22 GMT
I completely lost it Thursday morning with DS. And it had absolutely nothing to do with him. I was screaming like a maniac, and made him be late for school to do some extra chores. I felt really badly and wrote him a tardy excuse. When his teacher asked why I held him home, he replied that I went "Christmas Crazy" and the teacher said "Oh, that. No problem, just go to class."
I must say that I felt better when the trash and recycling and compost and cat boxes were all empty, and I calmed down.
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 20, 2015 21:24:42 GMT
Not yet, but I feel it coming and in reality it's all minor crap in comparison. The kids are sick, I'm starting to get a scratchy throat which means I should be feeling awful right around Christmas day  I'm frustrated with DH's wish list, it's all hunting crap which not only do I feel he doesn't need, but I don't even understand. He sends me links then says things like "you can find them cheaper elsewhere" or the one item I said, "wow, that's $70" and he said, "no don't pay that much, find another one but only brand X or brand Y" (which of course is impossible). I went down his list and just clicked 'buy' on everything with the exception of the thing he wanted to get cheaper (found a cheaper one but apparently there's a Gen2 and Gen3 and I'm sure I got the wrong one), sucked all the fun out of shopping and I'm sure it won't be appreciated because I got something wrong. Silly, I know it's just become too much work but I insist we buy each other stuff so the kids see us exchanging gifts (we gift all the other people in our lives that we love, we should gift each other too, I admit it's a weird qwirk of mine). |
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I'm frustrated with DH's wish list, it's all hunting crap which not only do I feel he doesn't need, but I don't even understand. He sends me links then says things like "you can find them cheaper elsewhere" or the one item I said, "wow, that's $70" and he said, "no don't pay that much, find another one but only brand X or brand Y" (which of course is impossible). I went down his list and just clicked 'buy' on everything with the exception of the thing he wanted to get cheaper (found a cheaper one but apparently there's a Gen2 and Gen3 and I'm sure I got the wrong one), sucked all the fun out of shopping and I'm sure it won't be appreciated because I got something wrong. Silly, I know it's just become too much work but I insist we buy each other stuff so the kids see us exchanging gifts (we gift all the other people in our lives that we love, we should gift each other too, I admit it's a weird qwirk of mine).