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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 13:25:25 GMT
DH and I recently met a new couple and we talked about getting together. A few days later they called and invited us to their house - for dessert. At first I thought it was kind of strange, but since this was a new acquaintance I figured it was a good thing, e.g. if it was awkward we could choke down our cake and make a speedy exit. Kind of like the couples version of meeting a potential date for drinks only, LOL.
So we went, had a great time, talked and laughed, stayed for quite awhile, probably almost as long as if we had dinner. I am now completely in love with this idea. I mean it's so easy and low pressure - I would entertain much more frequently if I didn't have to stress over a whole dinner!
I remember when I was a kid my parents always used to invite people over for what they called, "Coffee and..." but I don't think that has ever happened to me in my adult life.
I am going to start a round of "Coffee and..." invitations in 2016 and see how it works out, LOL.
Is this common in your experience?
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Post by maryland on Dec 22, 2015 13:30:35 GMT
We never have people over to our house (but when the kids are all in college and the house can stay clean, we will love having people over!). But I think that is a great idea!  You don't have the expense of fixing dinner, and much easier and less work. |
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Post by tduby1 on Dec 22, 2015 13:33:48 GMT
DH and I recently met a new couple and we talked about getting together. A few days later they called and invited us to their house - for dessert. At first I thought it was kind of strange, but since this was a new acquaintance I figured it was a good thing, e.g. if it was awkward we could choke down our cake and make a speedy exit. Kind of like the couples version of meeting a potential date for drinks only, LOL. So we went, had a great time, talked and laughed, stayed for quite awhile, probably almost as long as if we had dinner. I am now completely in love with this idea. I mean it's so easy and low pressure - I would entertain much more frequently if I didn't have to stress over a whole dinner! I remember when I was a kid my parents always used to invite people over for what they called, "Coffee and..." but I don't think that has ever happened to me in my adult life. I am going to start a round of "Coffee and..." invitations in 2016 and see how it works out, LOL. Is this common in your experience? I've not ever been invited or hosted but it is a great concept. My parents did "coffee and..." With relatives and friends after night church. No one I know sits down for coffee anymore. I take that back. After our work Chistmas party/ dinner the dr and hygeniest ordered dessert and coffee and we all settled in to chat while they drank their coffee. |
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Post by hannahruth on Dec 22, 2015 13:35:03 GMT
We caught up with friends last Friday for lunch and then went back to theirs for dessert - I thought it was a great idea and no one person had all the work of entertaining. We will definitely be doing it again.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 13:38:53 GMT
We do that with a group of friends--isn't it great? It's just one of those low key kind of get togethers that makes it easy to host AND attend.
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2015 13:41:44 GMT
I love the idea. I wish more people ate dessert. It's one thing I like making and have lots of fun recipes for, but everyone seems to be dieting!
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Post by pjaye on Dec 22, 2015 13:43:35 GMT
I am going to start a round of "Coffee and..." invitations in 2016 and see how it works out, LOL. Is this common in your experience? This is what I mainly do. I'm in a small apartment so the 'dinner party' thing isn't feasible, not enough room to cook it or to seat several people in comfort. But I love baking so I often make baked goods and have people over for afternoon tea...which can be anywhere from 1pm to 5pm. I don't call it dessert though, I always say either 'coffee and cake' or afternoon tea. |
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Post by janeliz on Dec 22, 2015 13:48:25 GMT
It's a great idea. The hostess and host have less work and less mess (that a full dinner would cause), and it's just more simple and relaxing for everyone.
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Post by janeliz on Dec 22, 2015 13:49:49 GMT
I love the idea. I wish more people ate dessert. It's one thing I like making and have lots of fun recipes for, but everyone seems to be dieting! That's a good point! I can think of a handful of friends/acquaintances who are always on some sort of diet. |
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Post by leannec on Dec 22, 2015 13:51:14 GMT
I think it's a great idea Large quantities of sugar just doesn't agree with me so I don't eat dessert but dh does and I would be happy to drink wine  |
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 22, 2015 13:53:51 GMT
I think it's a great idea Large quantities of sugar just doesn't agree with me so I don't eat dessert but dh does and I would be happy to drink wine Aaaaaaand my problem is solved. I'll be calling my get togethers 'wine and...'. |
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Post by scrapaddie on Dec 22, 2015 14:04:08 GMT
It's an old idea. My parents used to do this all the time
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 22, 2015 14:09:47 GMT
I love throwing big dinner parties so I'm always hard pressed to scale it back to something like this. Lol. But I love the idea and it's not uncommon in our area. We have one set of friends who do this frequently.
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Post by basketdiva on Dec 22, 2015 14:12:11 GMT
We do it all the time with friends except we call it "game night"
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 14:12:12 GMT
I absolutely love that idea. I don't eat and it becomes awkward but I can drink coffee and chat!
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Post by GiantsFan on Dec 22, 2015 14:16:39 GMT
Game night, anyone? Dessert, a game and a fun time with friends. [And they're gone on three hours! ]
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Post by momto4kiddos on Dec 22, 2015 14:17:55 GMT
My Aunt has done it for years on the holidays. She has a small dinner and then extends an invite to everyone for dessert if they wish to stop by. She's 1 of 6 siblings, all who have kids and most have grandchildren. So the family is huge....it makes for a good way for everyone to stop by for a visit if they wish.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 22, 2015 15:14:30 GMT
It's an old idea. My parents used to do this all the time  I remember my parents doing this when I was growing up. In the winter it would be cake and coffee. In the summertime, it might be homemade ice cream and drinks. It would be my preferred way to entertain, but finding enough people to come who haven't sworn off dessert, sugar, wheat, etc., etc. is a problem. In fact, I've just about quit entertaining due to all the dietary requirements I get hit with. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 22, 2015 15:18:15 GMT
LOL we do this a couple times a year. We call it a birthday party!  In in our old neighborhood some of the neighbors would get together and plan a progressive dinner that would start at one person's house for appetizers, go to the next person's house for salad, the next person's house for the entreé, and so on through every course including dessert. We were always working so it never worked out for us to join in, but they had them a few times a year and anyone who wanted to could take part. It always sounded like such a fun idea and so much less work than having to do the whole thing (and PAY for the whole thing) for a big get together yourself. |
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Post by Merge on Dec 22, 2015 15:35:56 GMT
It's an old idea. My parents used to do this all the time I remember my parents doing this when I was growing up. In the winter it would be cake and coffee. In the summertime, it might be homemade ice cream and drinks. It would be my preferred way to entertain, but finding enough people to come who haven't sworn off dessert, sugar, wheat, etc., etc. is a problem. In fact, I've just about quit entertaining due to all the dietary requirements I get hit with. Same! And so many people don't drink. The couple we liked best in our old neighborhood were LDS. No alcohol, no coffee, and their daughter has a severe dairy allergy. After we moved we invited a couple over, bought a couple nice bottles of wine and some beer ... and they don't drink. Another couple DH wanted to invite are strictly raw vegan and they don't consume alcohol or sugar in any form. Great, let's get together for kale smoothies. Fortunately I have a small core group of friends who will drink wine and eat just about anything |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 15:41:17 GMT
We do that quite often...as a matter of fact...twice in the last couple of weeks..I love it..no muss no fuss!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2015 18:44:04 GMT
It's an old idea. My parents used to do this all the time I remember my parents doing this when I was growing up. In the winter it would be cake and coffee. In the summertime, it might be homemade ice cream and drinks. It would be my preferred way to entertain, but finding enough people to come who haven't sworn off dessert, sugar, wheat, etc., etc. is a problem. In fact, I've just about quit entertaining due to all the dietary requirements I get hit with. Yeah at this point they become anti-social and I say screw it, stay home. I put out cheese and crackers to go with the sweets, other than that it is a dessert party, I am not catering to anybody's diet. |
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Post by monklady123 on Dec 22, 2015 18:48:07 GMT
I think it's a great idea Large quantities of sugar just doesn't agree with me so I don't eat dessert but dh does and I would be happy to drink wine Aaaaaaand my problem is solved. I'll be calling my get togethers 'wine and...'. Although I am a coffee drinker I like the idea of "wine and...." even better.  |
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Post by caro on Dec 22, 2015 19:36:28 GMT
This might be a generational thing. We are early 60's and our friends do this quite often and so do we.
We have had large groups come and everyone bring a dessert, sort of a potluck dessert table and everyone takes a little home as well. We also play board games and that's fun too.
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Post by kate on Dec 22, 2015 19:48:19 GMT
My sibs and I all go out for dinner (+spouses) every New Year's Eve, and then we head back to my brother's house for dessert. It's great - very relaxed. and we don't have to worry about irritating the restaurant staff by dawdling at a table for hours on end!
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Post by wrongwayfeldman on Dec 22, 2015 20:42:35 GMT
My first "experience" with this was almost identical to yours. A couple we didn't know very well, same thing. Loved it!
Most of the time, about once every two weeks or so, we get together with two other couples for dinner and drinks, but when our early evening schedules are busy with kid stuff, we sometimes do the dessert thing at one of our houses. We usually play a game of cards, too, and have drinks. Much less costly, much less work, still nice to hang out with friends.
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Post by lucyg on Dec 22, 2015 20:50:21 GMT
My parents and grandparents used to invite people over for cocktails before dinner. They would have a drink and light appetizers in the late afternoon, then everyone would move on to their own dinner plans. There was never any expectation of being invited to stay for dinner.
I like both ideas. (And "cocktails" could be soft drinks. I don't monitor what other people drink.)
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Post by Darcy Collins on Dec 22, 2015 21:50:13 GMT
My parents and grandparents used to invite people over for cocktails before dinner. They would have a drink and light appetizers in the late afternoon, then everyone would move on to their own dinner plans. There was never any expectation of being invited to stay for dinner. I like both ideas. (And "cocktails" could be soft drinks. I don't monitor what other people drink.) We have a few neighborhood friends that we do this with - particularly in the summer. It's really great low stress entertaining. |
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Dec 22, 2015 22:58:26 GMT
When I grew up stopping by for "coffee and" was a pretty common thing. Everything was less formal and family, friends, neighbor's were more connected. I love the idea.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 22, 2015 23:08:43 GMT
One day our neighbors invited us over for cake one evening. We went and found out that their little boy was turning one. They just wanted to visit with the neighbors and a few friends and keep it low key and no gifts. I loved that idea.
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You don't have the expense of fixing dinner, and much easier and less work. 
I remember my parents doing this when I was growing up. In the winter it would be cake and coffee. In the summertime, it might be homemade ice cream and drinks. 
