Post by gmcwife1 on Jan 11, 2016 1:39:29 GMT
Let me clarify, DD is a bit on the spectrum and socializing is extremely difficult for her. It a long time for her to build up the confidence to get her first part time job. She actually started doing ParCor and went to pole dancing classes with a friend for exercise. Then she went to college and although doing well with her roommates she didn't socialize much. Now she moved back home because this is where her first job is, met BF and is learning to work/communicate with others better. Her life was BF and work with occasional outings with friends when they came home to visit (most of whom are gay). She does have a GF who is in the similar situation and I am encouraging her to get together with her more often. It's just hard to meet guys around here for a twenty something who is not outgoing and doesn't party. She is also very stubborn. It will take an act of God to get her to join a group or take a course or anything and this could take several years hence my plea for prayers for her. Thanks to everyone.
It took me a long time to be ok with his perceived lack of friends. But for him, they are his friends and he's ok with the amount of time he sounds with them. It was ME and my pushing for this big circle of friends and stressing him out. He didn't want or need a best buddy to have sleepovers with and tell his deepest secrets. He finds himself pretty good company.
Sometimes as moms we protect our kids too much. We doesn't want them hurt or disappointed and we inadvertently hold them back from the growth that comes with that personal disappointment. Sure your DD will have a rough time for a while. But let her know (and believe it yourself) that it will be ok. That she will find friends and will have fun again.