breetheflea
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,903 
Location: PNW
|
Post by breetheflea on Jan 12, 2016 16:45:51 GMT
I'm not the most cheerful person in the world but the constant woe is me, poor little old me but I won't do anything to change things (mostly work stuff), gets old...
Anyone else?
|
|
|
|
Post by lbp on Jan 12, 2016 17:01:09 GMT
No but I gave birth to an Eeyore. He is only 24 years old and such a pessimist. I have told him one day you are going to wake up and realize you have spent far too much of your life worrying about that could go wrong that you a missing what is going right. He is working on it and doing some better.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 11, 2024 20:00:19 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2016 17:06:16 GMT
that is almost word for word what dd said she told her dh!
|
|
|
|
Post by Minty118 on Jan 12, 2016 17:11:54 GMT
Oh gosh, yes! My DH just started a new job in a new field and I feel like cheerleader on steroids just trying to get him through training. He has several gold medals in worrying.
|
|
|
|
Post by crimsoncat05 on Jan 12, 2016 17:15:38 GMT
YES!! I am; Eeyore is a perfect word for it! It gets tiring, especially since my BF won't do anything to change his situation, either.
Ex: He hates his job and has for ages, but then he'll say "<sigh> Next year I'll probably still be going to the XX Company Christmas party... <looong sigh>" I can't really respond any more to stuff like that other than in a vague manner, because when I do suggest things that would help improve his situation, like updating his resume, using his network of contacts, etc. etc. he never follows through.
I do try and be supportive, but-- there's only so much I can say without getting annoyed because it seems almost like he doesn't want to change his circumstances. I know a good part of it is fear-- for various reasons, including his age (46)-- but short of going to a therapist (which I know he will NOT do) there's nothing I can say.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 11, 2024 20:00:19 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2016 17:36:17 GMT
I fear that I might be Eeyore, it's kind of a comfortable place to be sometimes and horribly hard to leave.
|
|
|
|
Post by anonrefugee on Jan 12, 2016 17:41:53 GMT
My DH loves his work, so even the negative energizes him. But he's in a passive. Blah rut at home, Eeyore is a good description. He's on a new medication for BP and reflux and I think he's depressed.
I have been sympathetic but frustrated... About to be annoyed and driving him to the doctor if he doesn't get more spark.
|
|
breetheflea
Drama Llama
Posts: 5,903
Location: PNW
|
Post by breetheflea on Jan 12, 2016 17:44:31 GMT
YES!! I am; Eeyore is a perfect word for it! It gets tiring, especially since my BF won't do anything to change his situation, either. Ex: He hates his job and has for ages, but then he'll say "<sigh> Next year I'll probably still be going to the XX Company Christmas party... <looong sigh>" I can't really respond any more to stuff like that other than in a vague manner, because when I do suggest things that would help improve his situation, like updating his resume, using his network of contacts, etc. etc. he never follows through. I do try and be supportive, but-- there's only so much I can say without getting annoyed because it seems almost like he doesn't want to change his circumstances. I know a good part of it is fear-- for various reasons, including his age (46)-- but short of going to a therapist (which I know he will NOT do) there's nothing I can say. This exactly. DH was up for a big promotion but his boss retired and didn't do whatever before he left. The new boss "couldn't" promote someone since he was new. A promotion would have meant DH was safe from being laid off due to budget cuts and a raise (he is underpaid for what he does). Also DH needs some training/certification ($$$$) his job will not pay for it (they said they are afraid he'll get trained then leave) but to rise in the company they want him to have this training. The company has paid for everyone else who needs this training to get it. Anyway, I would be out there looking for something else and would have started looking over a year ago! DH mopes around and complains but besides for checking craigslist (apparently this is where you find a job in IT in 2016) that has been it. I almost wish he would get laid off (he would get a severance) so he would HAVE to find a new job, I hate his new boss and I've never met him. |
|
SweetieBsMom
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,610
|
Post by SweetieBsMom on Jan 12, 2016 18:50:32 GMT
This title made me giggle because today DH's oncologist called him Eeyore!
|
|
~Susan~
Pearl Clutcher
You need to check your boobs, mine tried to kill me!!!
Posts: 3,258
Jul 6, 2014 17:25:32 GMT
|
Post by ~Susan~ on Jan 12, 2016 19:22:35 GMT
This is my mother. She is never happy and every time I point out to her how blessed she is with all of her medical problems, she responds with, "I guess so". She sounds just like Eeyore and it drives me crazy that she refuses to do anything about it.
|
|
J u l e e
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,531
Location: Cincinnati
Jun 28, 2014 2:50:47 GMT
|
Post by J u l e e on Jan 12, 2016 19:28:28 GMT
We have referred to my brother as Eeyore for his entire adult life. It makes me laugh that we're not the only ones using that nickname. It's such a perfect descriptor of someone with that attitude.
|
|
|
|
Post by Karmady on Jan 12, 2016 19:30:10 GMT
I've always called people like that Eeoyores LOL. Thankfully, no. My dh is not like that at all. I do have other relatives and a few acquaintances like that.
|
|
tanya2
Pearl Clutcher
Refupea #1604
Posts: 4,423
|
Post by tanya2 on Jan 12, 2016 19:32:40 GMT
that would drive me crazy! I'm glad I don't have any family members like that. I'm sorry you have to deal with it
|
|
|
|
Post by scrapqueen01 on Jan 12, 2016 19:36:48 GMT
My dh is definitely an Eeyore. He worked for the same place for 10 years and complained about it the whole time. Wouldn't do anything to find another job, expecting ME to do it for him since I'm home all day. Then he was laid off but was able to get another job immediately. Yep. Complains about it to. I think he's depressed and has been for a long time. His mother and his sister live(d) with clinical depression. He would never admit that he's depressed because I've tried talking to him about it.
|
|
jenkate77
Full Member
Posts: 427
Jun 26, 2014 1:33:16 GMT
|
Post by jenkate77 on Jan 12, 2016 19:44:31 GMT
I fear that I might be Eeyore, it's kind of a comfortable place to be sometimes and horribly hard to leave. Me too.  Honestly though, expecting everything to go wrong has served me well the last six months, because it has.  |
|
|
|
Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 12, 2016 22:33:55 GMT
That's my older sister's DH to a T. Nothing but "oh woe is me" all day, every day. Hates his job but won't look for a different one. Blames his lack of motivation to change anything he's dissatisfied with on anyone and anything but himself. Whines that he never went to college because "I have a FAMILY"--as if no one who ever had a family went back to school. Ugh, please. He never spent any time actually taking care of his kids, so I don't even know what he was talking about. A person can do whatever they set their mind on doing if they are determined enough to find a way.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
May 11, 2024 20:00:19 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2016 23:08:45 GMT
Yep, I am. He is so pessimistic about everything. It's mostly due to his home environment growing up. The whole family was that way. We are the example of "opposites attract": I'm very social and thrive on having social interactions. I have a glass half full personality. He will point out that the glass is not only half empty, but it's the wrong size, color, shape, design, etc. He is socially very awkward. We don't "do" social things together at all. No couple dates or dinners at a friend's house. We don't have mutual friends.
Anyway, he's better than he was years ago. Mostly because I started calling him on some of his extreme negative behaviors, especially when the were impacting our children. Most days I tolerate it without much problem...then I'll have a few days of raging hormones and it gets really hard.
26.5 years married, together 29.5 years....nothing's going to change much further. I'm okay with it at this point.
ETA: I started calling him Eeyore (jokingly of course) years ago after I took one of those Briggs Meyer tests and then answered the questions as he would. The tests gives both real and literary examples of those people/characters with that personality. He got Eeyore and I got Rabbit.
|
|
|
|
Post by myboysnme on Jan 12, 2016 23:10:33 GMT
That is so funny! I always call my husband 'Eeyore.' Or I say to him, 'Tut, tut, it looks like rain.'
He is a glass empty person.
|
|
QueenoftheSloths
Drama Llama
Member Since January 2004, 2,698 forum posts PeaNut Number: 122614 PeaBoard Title: StuckOnPeas
Posts: 5,955
|
Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jan 12, 2016 23:19:51 GMT
DH and both his brothers are all Eeyores.
|
|
pridemom
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,843
|
Post by pridemom on Jan 12, 2016 23:24:52 GMT
I think many of us are married to Eeyore.
|
|
|
|
Post by Woobster on Jan 13, 2016 0:13:53 GMT
I work with an Eeyore... He even walks like he's depressed. He can be exhausting.
Between DH and I, I am more of a pessimist than he is. I'm far from an Eeyore, though.
|
|
|
|
Post by tlsmi on Jan 13, 2016 1:32:48 GMT
Most of the time, yes. Married 25 years. I think many of our personality traits are MAGNIFIED as we age. Yes, magnified !
I talk to him some days on the phone during both of our lunch breaks and at least twice a week he says 'things are BLOWING up here!'. Uhhh, ok... I talk him through it and listen...at home later when asked about the outcome he says 'oh, it worked out. What's for dinner?'. Seriously???
He is an engineer and under tremendous stress, I get it... but when I asked him his thought process he said ' I always expect the worst to happen. If it happens, I'm prepared. If it doesn't happen then I can relax.'
Also suggested he get his resume updated...nothing.
His decision of course but it's really hard being dumped on all the time.
If you don't like the play you're in, get off the stage.
|
|
Mystie
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,299
|
Post by Mystie on Jan 13, 2016 1:47:37 GMT
I'm the Eeyore in my marriage, though I try really hard not to be. And I'm married to a Tigger.  I appreciate his enthusiasm very much, I really do. He helps me out of the doldrums. Maybe I'm more of a Pooh, now that I think about it. But my husband is definitely Tigger! |
|
basketdiva
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,616
|
Post by basketdiva on Jan 13, 2016 1:49:22 GMT
Like allow of us, my husband and I have had Eeyore periods. But there is no way I would be married to someone who was Eeyore all the time. counseling would have been essential to staying married.
|
|
|
|
Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 13, 2016 1:49:52 GMT
I think many of us are married to Eeyore. LOL, not me. I am married to Pooh! (Only he's not that clueless.) |
|
zookeeper
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,909
|
Post by zookeeper on Jan 13, 2016 1:52:34 GMT
My son is a bit of an Eeyore. My ex, his father, is most definitely an Eeyore. My dh and myself are both Tiggers!
|
|
I appreciate his enthusiasm very much, I really do. He helps me out of the doldrums.
