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Post by bonster on Jan 13, 2016 21:30:53 GMT
I used to like Facebook, but recently have found that when I check it I'm irritated, envious, or just find it to be a huge waste of time. So why not just quit?! I seem to have this overwhelming FOMO (fear of missing out). Occasionally I read something on Facebook that I would not otherwise know about. (Engagements, pregnancy announcements, people moving). But that's not the everyday stuff that I get so tired of. (I have blocked so many people...braggarts, over sharers, vague bookers).
I started up to kinda "keep track" of my teenagers, but that was years ago and Facebook is no longer cool with that crowd.
So have you quit completely? Did you worry about missing out?
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Post by mom on Jan 13, 2016 21:33:56 GMT
I haven't quit but I will go for many weeks without posting anything. I will jump on, read whats going on, then move along. Too much drama in most situations.
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Post by mellowyellow on Jan 13, 2016 21:35:34 GMT
I used to like Facebook, but recently have found that when I check it I'm irritated, envious, or just find it to be a huge waste of time. So why not just quit?! I seem to have this overwhelming FOMO (fear of missing out). Occasionally I read something on Facebook that I would not otherwise know about. (Engagements, pregnancy announcements, people moving). But that's not the everyday stuff that I get so tired of. (I have blocked so many people...braggarts, over sharers, vague bookers). I started up to kinda "keep track" of my teenagers, but that was years ago and Facebook is no longer cool with that crowd. So have you quit completely? Did you worry about missing out? I am right there with you. I used to use it to keep up with extended family but like you, I hide more people all the time. One of the main reasons I stay on is so I can see stuff my son who is in the Navy posts and it helps me when I'm missing him. With that being said though, the older I get the more "in the dark" I think I want to be.  |
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Post by 3dcrafter on Jan 13, 2016 21:40:37 GMT
I have an account but I am rarely on it...I check it maybe a handful of times during the year, other than that I just have no interest. To be honest, I prefer to call or text my friends and family.
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Post by disneypal on Jan 13, 2016 21:44:42 GMT
I haven't quit but I will go for many weeks without posting anything. I will jump on, read whats going on, then move along. Pretty much the same here. FB keeps me connected to family since we are spread out all over the globe so I check in on them mostly and move on. |
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Post by TeuchterPea on Jan 13, 2016 21:49:38 GMT
The more time I spend on facebook, the more I wonder why the heck I am "friends" with people I have never met and have no interest in meeting. Why can't I just take the plunge and delete all these people?
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Post by Zee on Jan 13, 2016 21:50:33 GMT
As I always say on the anti-FB threads, FB is my happy place. I put chronically negative people on hide, but out of about 500 friends, I really have very few friends that are negative or prone to drama.
I don't know why that is, but it is. My family is mainly drama-free, as are my former co-workers and classmates. So I don't have the FB problems others seem to. I don't routinely feel envious of anyone, or get tired of drama, or anything. Overly political or religious folks go on hide or get unfriended, but I've only had to do that just a few times. It is what you make of it.
I do have a few friends who are constant Debbie Downers, but I leave them there for entertainment value. As I said, it's my Happy Place. DH and I also have a few longtime losers we've known since HS who get indefinite passes just because it's fun to read their rants about local law enforcement and how the man is holding 'em down. LOL
If nothing there makes you happy, it makes sense to leave, but I love the pics of friends and family especially since I moved 900 miles away from most of them. I like to read the good news, fun updates, interesting links and articles, etc.
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Post by bonserella on Jan 13, 2016 21:54:17 GMT
I doubt I will give it up but I will hide/unfollow people if they annoy me - ESPECIALLY during election season - and sometimes I see something that makes me feel a certain kind of way & I can't even figure out why it does (does that make sense?!)
I agree that fb is not the cool scene for teens anymore - mine are all about snapchat & instagram. They still have fb pages but hardly ever post.
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Post by marianne on Jan 13, 2016 21:58:07 GMT
It serves its purpose for me. I consider it a resource, or tool if you will. It allows me to conveniently and inexpensively stay in contact with those family and friends that I care about, that are scattered all over the country. I'm really good at ignoring things I don't care about so don't get caught up in anyone's drama or hysteria or oversharing. I continue to find it useful and for the most part, enjoyable and informative.
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Post by Minty118 on Jan 13, 2016 22:04:27 GMT
My problem with facebook lately is that I don't see anything that my friends have posted. All I see are posts of my friend's friends that my friends have liked or commented on. I liked facebook from five years ago when I could actually see what my friends and family were doing. I thought that was what it was for, not seeing what people I don't know are doing.  |
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Post by KelleeM on Jan 13, 2016 22:07:35 GMT
I wish I could but I just can't. I did delete almost half of my "friends" this week. I will probably delete more as well...
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Post by stittsygirl on Jan 13, 2016 22:11:00 GMT
I gave it up a few years ago for many of the same reasons. I still have an account but it's only to keep up with a group that's part of a lawsuit we are also involved in in Texas. My husband, on the other hand, is quite active on FB, and if there is anything interesting going on with our family and friends he'll let me know  . |
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Post by iluvpink on Jan 13, 2016 22:12:16 GMT
I'm tempted. I don't like how it's become all about people's politics, rants and causes (all sides). Especially how it shows me their likes, even if they don't post I about those things I can see from their likes. Plus I hate how it has the trending news headlines. Both get my blood boiling or make me sad. I just want a happy place to chat.
The braggarts, drama queens, etc annoy me too.
However I have a few relatives that I keep in touch with that way and a few support groups that I belong to and find very helpful. So I stay.
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Post by leannec on Jan 13, 2016 22:15:40 GMT
I still love Facebook ... my FB friends are in real life or Peas and no one has drama so it's all good |
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Post by StephDRebel on Jan 13, 2016 22:17:46 GMT
Nope, i just have people on my wall that I like.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jan 13, 2016 22:29:02 GMT
I'm wondering why I'm still there I post so rarely and I'm sick of all the "shares"
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Post by bonster on Jan 13, 2016 22:47:01 GMT
My problem with facebook lately is that I don't see anything that my friends have posted. All I see are posts of my friend's friends that my friends have liked or commented on. I liked facebook from five years ago when I could actually see what my friends and family were doing. I thought that was what it was for, not seeing what people I don't know are doing. I totally agree with this! I feel like this has become mostly what I see, and I don't care to see it! |
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Post by Megan on Jan 13, 2016 22:54:14 GMT
I deactivated and only recently relogged in. Guess what? The drama in mom groups is still there, my friends pics are still there to look at, the stupid memes about politics are still there ... I'm glad I did it! I'll check in every once in awhile but it's not going to be a habit again.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jan 13, 2016 22:58:39 GMT
I haven't technically given it up (I still have my page and continue to get the email alerts), but I almost never go on anymore.
The reasons I don't go on anymore are what you mentioned - I get irritated almost every time I do. I usually ignore the alerts, but every once in a while I'll get one about someone who I haven't heard from in a while, so I'll check it out. Once I'm there, I'll scroll down my timeline and invariably, someone posts something ridiculous or braggy or TMI and it just hocks me off and I'm reminded why I don't go on anymore and then I'm out.
I'll probably never close out my account because should I need it, it's nice to have so many people just a click away.
Do I miss it? I did in the beginning, but not anymore. And like you, my kids aren't really on any more, so I don't need it for that.
Like I said, I would probably never quit completely, but I find myself much happier not knowing that my husband's cousin has the most fabulous daughter EVER, my old coworker is sad (but we don't know why) or that my neighbor is at yet another bar while her kid runs the streets.
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Post by twinks on Jan 13, 2016 22:58:42 GMT
Sometimes I stay on FB just for sheer entertainment. I have a friend who claims she is the "widow" of a "husband" that she never married, all the while maintaining the last name of her x-husband. Her "grief" after years gets somewhat entertaining. It reminds me that I, at least on a day of her postings, am more sane than she.  Also, there are some things that I would not otherwise know about if I were not on FB. A good friend died this past week and I would not have known about it unless I was tagged by her daughter in the posting. What I have a real problem with is all the political crap that is being posted. They are not going to change my mind, or convince me to vote a particular way. I have learned that I can "hide" those posts, but, they are still overwhelming. |
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Post by Nicole in TX on Jan 13, 2016 23:05:08 GMT
Yes. I decided I need to spend my time minding my own business, not others.
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Post by katlady on Jan 13, 2016 23:07:18 GMT
I haven't given up Facebook but I have "unfollowed" most of my friends. I stay on FB for information/news from businesses and such. I unfollowed most of my friends because I got tired of the politics, religion, buy this from me, support my cause, etc. If I want to see someone's postings, I go to their wall.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 13, 2016 23:12:35 GMT
I enjoy Facebook. My friends and family are pretty drama free. I skip right over the political posts.
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Post by Ryann on Jan 13, 2016 23:13:46 GMT
I deactivated my account several months ago. Just last week I initiated the process to have my account permanently deleted. It should take 2 weeks for this to happen. So yes, I have given it up and don't feel my life is lacking without it or that I'm missing out. And if it matters, I'm 37 yo, so not yet old but not exactly young either. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jan 13, 2016 23:14:49 GMT
Thankfully I really don't get any of the drama that other people seem to experience so I have no need to give it up.
In your case I would probably consider blocking the drama causing people first, but if crap was still getting through then I guess I would have to consider giving it up. It's supposed to be fun and entertaining and a way of keeping in contact with people. If it's not fun for you anymore then don;t do it.
I totally get your FOMO though haha!!
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Post by anniefb on Jan 13, 2016 23:34:19 GMT
I haven't quit but I will go for many weeks without posting anything. I will jump on, read whats going on, then move along. Too much drama in most situations.  |
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Post by jenjie on Jan 13, 2016 23:36:28 GMT
I love Facebook. But I'm currently trying to step back awhile. I'd say "take a break" but it reminds me too much of Ross - "we were on a break!"
I'm not spending as much time here either for the same reason. It's become a diversion, an escape for me. I think I've been using both to avoid thinking about what's going on in my own life. I need some quiet in my life to see what comes to the surface. This week it's not pretty.
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Post by lorieann13 on Jan 13, 2016 23:55:42 GMT
I only keep my FB account to keep up on events with two local Autism groups I belong to that my IRL friends are part of (and help run). I just deleted 53 friends. Only 10 were on-line friends. The rest were friends from school that I just dont feel connected to anymore.
I just have 100 friends now and may delete more. 6 are family, 20 are irl autism mom friends and the rest irl friends.
In about December I just got tired of the same posts. It's either workout related from one friend along with husband drama, selfies from another, oh look my life is totally perfect posts, I check in and post a pic no matter where I go posts, continual complaining about kids behavior from another, random who care posts or vague booking. I havent posted in almost 2 weeks.
Do i really need to share that my kids are back in school, or that the dog had fun at the park, or that tonight is a gf df cooking class and Im going?
Nope.
I also have to laugh when friends post that they dont feel the need to post pics of their date or family activities when a mutual friend did so day before. Whatever.
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Post by mom on Jan 14, 2016 0:05:28 GMT
The more time I spend on facebook, the more I wonder why the heck I am "friends" with people I have never met and have no interest in meeting. Why can't I just take the plunge and delete all these people? I am the same way. I usually delete a few a month. lol |
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Post by bonster on Jan 14, 2016 0:33:03 GMT
It's not even drama. I have stopped following the people who posted the drama stuff most often. I just feel like I have to wade through SO much stuff to get to the few things that I do want to read. For now I'm just going to make it a point to check much less often. I have gotten in the habit of checking while I'm waiting for an appointment, checking while I'm watching tv, checking while I wait for kids at lessons. It just feels mindless sometimes and a habit (if that makes sense).
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Also, there are some things that I would not otherwise know about if I were not on FB. A good friend died this past week and I would not have known about it unless I was tagged by her daughter in the posting. What I have a real problem with is all the political crap that is being posted. They are not going to change my mind, or convince me to vote a particular way. I have learned that I can "hide" those posts, but, they are still overwhelming.
Time to get off the internet!
