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Post by mztfied on Jul 26, 2014 3:35:00 GMT
People are living longer for sure.
My own beloved Mom made it to 97. Her quality of life was pretty good until the last 5 years.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Jul 26, 2014 3:43:35 GMT
No one in my family has lived that long. I would only want to if I was healthy and could enjoy it.
I work in a nursing home and we have had several people live to be over 100 but the most of them spent their whole day in bed sleeping or crying. They didn't know what was going on or why they are there. Most of their loved ones had passed away before them so I also think they were lonely.
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Post by Mrs Depp on Jul 26, 2014 3:47:06 GMT
No, I wouldn't.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 26, 2014 3:50:31 GMT
My grandmother lived to be 100, last few yrs were bad. Up until then though she was very active. healthy as a horse. HER mother, my great-grandmother lived to be 101. So I sort of have it in my genes. I work in a hosp, so I see ALOT of elderly. Quality of life in those nearing 100 is getting better and better. I had a 97 yr old patient just this wk that could kick some 70 yr olds butts. HA!! sharp as a tack!
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Post by papersilly on Jul 26, 2014 3:51:47 GMT
My neighbor's aunt lived to be 100. She was healthy but she was just tired of living. She just about outlived everyone. Although she was relatively healthy, she couldn't live independently. She was living in an old age home because her son was in his late 70's and wasn't well enough to take care of her. She had the usual old age symptoms and according to her, life wasn't fun anymore. She finally passed in her sleep.
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 26, 2014 3:54:31 GMT
If my quality of life was good, sure. Although, it has to be hard to watch all your family and friends die.
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 26, 2014 4:09:37 GMT
My dad's parents both lived to be 99, and he kind of thought it was likely he would too. But he started really slowing down some before he hit age 90, and then the last couple years he was failing more quickly. He was on oxygen the last couple months of his life and died just before he turned 93. My mom said he had talked about not wanting to live as long as his parents if he felt like he did in the last year or so. I firmly believe quality of life matters.
My grandmother was sharp as a tack until the last few days and was in pretty good physical health, despite horribly high blood pressure. She was more than ready to go; said she had lived long enough and never wanted or expected to make it to 99.
My mother-in-law died last fall at 97. She had more health issues during the last few years and I think that was no picnic for her. She told me she had never expected to live so long without her husband.
Having watched all of these people right up to the end, and getting older myself, I can see where just living longer isn't always what people want. Physical health and mental sharpness matter for quality of life, but so do relationships.
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Post by gizzy on Jul 26, 2014 4:14:59 GMT
That is so sad. I used to think I'd like to live forever. I'm more than a little afraid of dying. But I'd hate to outlive the rest of my family.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 4:22:21 GMT
My Grandmother almost made it to 99 and it wasn't until she was about 96 or so that she really began to have a hard time with her limitations, health etc.
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Post by houston249 on Jul 26, 2014 4:28:17 GMT
If my health was still good then yes.
Both my grandmothers lived into their late 90's (96 and 98). Both had all their facilities until their last week on this earth. They were amazing woman. Both of them sold their homes (in different states) to come and live in a the same retirement home while they were in their late 70s to be nearer to their children. In their 80s they both, on the same day, moved into my parents home and lived there until they died.
One of them even started dating a nice gentleman when she turned 95. She said that 30 years between men was long enough. The other said she wasn't sure about that and would wait a few more years!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 4:29:15 GMT
If quality of life was ok, yes. But I would hate to be a burden on my family or the system.
But I also envision that even though I probably wouldn't still have a spouse, I would have a large family that would visit frequently, there would be lots of love. Otherwise I don't know what my reason for living would be at that point.
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Post by ntsf on Jul 26, 2014 4:48:47 GMT
my in laws are 93, and 87 and in very good health my mil swims an hour every day..still skis. my dad is 88, just bought a new car, skis and is very healthy and active. I had one great aunt live to 99, and her sister lived to 104 1/2 and had difficulty seeing and hearing, but her mind was sharp til the last two months. and in good health. my dh's grandmother was 100..and again healthy tila month or two before death.
as long as my mind was sharp, I would be ok with it.
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Post by msliz on Jul 26, 2014 4:59:31 GMT
My mother's aunt finally died when she was a month shy of 110 years. I kid you not.
By then, she was blind, deaf, had lost her mind years before, and was too weak to move. She was skeletal, and her skin was like paper. It was so sad to see her like that. But when I held her hand, she recognized it as the hand of someone who loved her, even though she had no idea who I was.
I have no desire to live to that age, or rather to that state of minimally existing. Let me die in my sleep before I become trapped in my own body.
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Post by kristi on Jul 26, 2014 5:03:54 GMT
No, most people I know suffer mentally & physically at the advanced ages.
My grandmother is 91. She was doing great until she broke her hip. Then heart surgery. Now her mind is going. So sad to watch.
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Post by roxiemarie0524 on Jul 26, 2014 5:18:03 GMT
No, I don't think I would. It would be hard to watch my family and friends all go before me.
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Post by betty on Jul 26, 2014 5:19:02 GMT
This sounds much like my Granny and her two sisters. They all eventually in their 80's ended up in the same retirement home in seperate apartments. They still had sibling rivalry about whose apt was the best!
They all live (d) well into their 90's. My Great Aunt Helen is the last one left (she was the 'baby' sister). She's always been the life of the party..the one dancing and partying, the one wearing a bikini in her late 70's, the one still dating & dancing in her 90's. As long as there is some quality of life 90 - 100 would be ok.
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Post by *Marjorie* on Jul 26, 2014 5:49:57 GMT
No one in my family has lived that long. I would only want to if I was healthy and could enjoy it. I work in a nursing home and we have had several people live to be over 100 but the most of them spent their whole day in bed sleeping or crying. They didn't know what was going on or why they are there. Most of their loved ones had passed away before them so I also think they were lonely. It's for this reason that I wouldn't want to live to that age. Can you even call that living? |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 26, 2014 7:06:57 GMT
Only if I was ambulatory, continent and still had my marbles.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 26, 2014 7:13:25 GMT
Taking into account that almost everyone on my father's side get dementia in their late seventies, no I don't want to live that long. My last surviving grandparent is 88, is blind, has lost her hearing and doesn't recognize anyone anymore. Last week she was diagnosed with advanced cancer, and when I heard she was too weak for surgery, I was relieved for her.
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Post by PEArfect on Jul 26, 2014 7:17:52 GMT
It would depend on my health. My grandmother turned 87 in July and she always tells everyone she WILL be celebrating her 100th. Her doctors always tell her that she has the body and mind of a 60 year old. Her mother was 93 when she passed, but the last two years she suffered memory loss.
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 26, 2014 7:24:53 GMT
As long as I was of sound mind. Body? Don't care as long as I had my mind. Reason being I'm obsessed with tech and electronics. It amazes what has happened in last 20 years in the advancement of technology. I remember my first computer with dial up. I remember my first mobile phone that came in a big case.
iPads? Who ever would have dreamed. I remember when the first phone came out that took pics. Why would you need a phone that took pictures??? And TV's? I grew up in the 50's and this tiny b/w tv was mind boggling. I look at my flat screen HDTV and think wow!
I want to live to be 100 just to see how technology advances. I could be bed ridden but as long as I had my faculties and had my iPad, I'd be golden.
Look at what advancements we've made in 20 years. I want to be around for next 20. And when you're 68, that's asking a lot!!!
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Post by my.unquiet.mind on Jul 26, 2014 7:54:19 GMT
I'm honestly not sure.
Even under the best of circumstances (good health, no dementia, capable of independent living, stable financial situation, etc.), I'm still not sure I'd want to live to such an advanced age. Basically, I'm not certain I could deal with the psychological ramifications of living to be 100+ Years old.
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 26, 2014 8:40:20 GMT
My fathers aunt lived to be 101, and she was as healthy as one can be at 101. Still living at home by herself, volenteering at her church, gardening. All of her siblings lived long as well, but she married into my family tree so I don't have her geenes.
In my family, the women tend to live long, but dementia always lurks. I really don't want to end my life like my poor Grandmother, who spent her last 20 years disappearing, piece by piece. I've actually been inspired to follow the 5:2 diet after watching the documentary, where they saw some signs that fasting might prevent dementia.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 9:03:48 GMT
No, I don't want to live to be 100. Mid 70s is probably about the oldest I want to get based on my family history. My grandma is 94. She is healthy but frail and starting to fail mentally. She has had a sound mind up until about 18 months ago. Even on her bad days she is still in pretty good shape. It is just odd moments when she gets things mixed up like she and my aunt working in a nursing home (they have both been a RN for a NICU not a nursing home!) She is able to live in her own home with a bit of help. She stopped driving about 5 years ago.
When I first moved back she told me she was tired of living. She had seen everything she felt the need to see. Done all the projects she wanted to do. To her it is like being on a long vacation.. exciting at first but now she is just tired and wants to go home but she can't get home.
Losing one's peer group (the people who experienced many of the same things you experienced and can relate to your personal history), missing your own older family members who have long been dead... it is hard to experience and to watch it being experienced.
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Post by fruitysuet on Jul 26, 2014 9:13:26 GMT
No, I don't think I would. It would be hard to watch my family and friends all go before me. Amongst all the replies this one matches my thoughts most. I would hate to outlive my children for example. |
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Post by hop2 on Jul 26, 2014 10:27:30 GMT
I'm pretty sure I won't have to. The oldest person in my direct line made it to 84 but had Alzheimer's for a good 10 years, no thank you, I sure hope not. All of the people who kept their minds died youngish the oldest being 75.
My mother smoked in the car and house for the first 20 years of my life. My parents rarely put sunscreen on us when we were little I remember many severe sunburns. I finally had to buy my own sunscreen in my teens. My dad died of skin cancer ( even though he always had them taken care of ) I have zero expectations of making it past 75. In fact I would consider that lucky if I had my mind and made it that far.
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Post by ten&rose on Jul 26, 2014 11:49:02 GMT
My great grandma made it to 103.5 and only went downhill the last year. She was an amazing woman. I have lots of long genes so God willing I'll live a long time.
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Post by akathy on Jul 26, 2014 12:13:10 GMT
My maternal grandmother lived to be 102. She as able to live alone until she was 99 and had her mind until about 101 and then she slowly started losing ground. She was able to celebrate her 100th birthday with lots of family at a supper club and even drank a couple glasses of wine  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 12:32:06 GMT
This is how I feel too.
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Post by shamrock on Jul 26, 2014 13:33:02 GMT
One grandmother will celebrate 101 in a couple of weeks. She is in wonderful health, but has dementia. I don think she's known me for 5+ years. She's never really remembered my husband & he's been around 20 years (married for 14.) she lived alone in her house till a year ago. I don't want her life. My dad can't visit her because she gets so upset about not being in her house anymore. But the house she asks about isn't even the one she lived in for the last 60 odd years.
My other grandmother is 97. She also lived alone till the last year. She has macular degeneration which makes it difficult for her. She is still very sharp! She knows us all, even my boys & keeps up with our lives. She has an active social life now that she's in an assisted living place. She still smokes (but has never smoked around me or my boys in the 11 years since she found out I was pregnant). But we joke that the cheap scotch and white wine she drinks preserve what the smoking damages lol! I only hope to age like her.
Both outlived a husband. 101 lost hers to Parkinson's 30 years ago. 97 lost hers to WWII. He most likely would have lived long as well as his sisters and mother had made it yo their 80s at least.
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