How long kids wait before family found out she was pregnant?

We told our our parents, siblings, family and friends at 12 weeks after we heard the heartbeat. Before that, only my husband and I knew.  I didn't tell my husband until it was confirmed by a doctor.

IME, word starts spreading after the first trimester. I wouldn't expect to hear earlier than that.

My DD is pregnant now and I knew from week 5, but they didn't tell anyone else until closer 12 (with the exception on his parents).

No grandkids. My husband and I both stood in the bathroom watching for the plus sign when I was a day late. It was positive and we called our parents immediately.

8 months with son. I really didn't show until then.
We even didn't tell people we were married. I guess we just didn't want to share.


I can't remember with daughter. We were so careful to say anything until we knew she was was actually going to bake. Girls fathered by a Mac are extremely rare in my husband's family. Extremely rare as in my daughter was the third one in 200 years. We almost lost her at the end. The same goes for the next three ( not mine) The last one spent 2 months in nicu.

I miscarried our 2nd child before 12 weeks. Only my DH knew because my mom had become disabled to the point of no longer able to care for herself. I miscarried the weekend we moved her in to live with us. (As a Christian, I believe she met our child in heaven when she died a few years later). Eventually our closest friends knew.

It meant we were so much more secretive with our next pregnancy... No one was told until I was showing.

Our DS is 12 and DD is 9

My dd is still too young lol, but we didn't tell anybody until we were 6+ months, (when we told only our parents) and I let my boss know at seven months that I would be taking maternity leave. I never showed until the last month when we told everyone else - unfortunately, she came 3 weeks early so most people knew for about a week. We are intensely private 'in real life'. The same thing when we got married - we just did it, told people after the fact if they asked.

We had a few miscarriages after that (which of course we kept private, seems to be our MO), and then with ds I was on bed rest at 6 months so we told everyone then.

Thank you for keeping the secret, I can only imagine how proud you must be!!! Congratulations

Make sure your DD is OK with you announcing to the rest of the family first. My brother's MIL told the extended family before my brother and SIL were ready to have the news shared. They wanted to announce themselves but not quite as early as her mother busted at the seams from the secret. It made for some tense moments between them the rest of the pregnancy.

With my first, I kept quiet until 14 weeks, told my parents, grandparents and brothers and let word spread from there. ExH told his parents and brother around 8 weeks. They don't have extended family beyond that. With my second, we told my DH's Grandma the day we got a positive test because it was DH's recently deceased Grandpa's birthday. She kept it quiet for a long time. We told my brothers and SIL pretty early on, too, but waited until after I had an amnio (14-15 weeks) to share with the rest of DH's family. We announced to extended family and friends with a FB picture of an ultrasound and no comment. That was fun since we don't share the family planning topic openly and most figured we weren't having another.

For both of my kids I waited until after the first trimester. My coworker was having a rough time conceiving and I was just very cautious. Timingwise it worked for us to tell our parents at Christmas for the first and thanksgiving for the second.

Congratulations, Grandma!

My kids aren't old enough to have kids, but we told people pretty much immediately. With #1, it took us 5 years to get pregnant with him. As a fertility patient, I had regular appointments, so friends and co workers all knew because of those appts. I was 2 weeks pregnant when we knew with him. With #2, I was throwing up constantly and in the middle of a move. My inlaws were helping. So, because they knew, my parents also were told. I was 3 weeks pregnant. #3, I was hospitalized, so even the kids knew immediately.

If I miscarried, we decided we wanted the support of friends and family. But then, I was pretty open about our fertility issues.

My youngest sister and I have a deal that we tell each other first and then call whoever else we want to know. I decided at the beginning that I would tell those people who are my support network. I thought about who I would go to if anything happened. That helped me decide who to tell.

first, I told my parents and outlaws right away- at 5 weeks. lost it by the 8 week ultrasound (had a D&C)

second, i told my parents after the first ultrasound. Outlaws were told after my parents. Had my little girl in August 2011.

third, i told my parents after the positive- so... 5 weeks? Told the outlaws after that and lost it at 9 weeks. (medically managed miscarriage)

fourth, we were doing femara for fertility, i told my parents right away, outlaws too. Lost it (twins actually) by the 7 week ultrasound (had a D&C) and then a week later had to have laparoscopic surgery because there was also an ectopic. Yeah, that was fun. UGH!

fifth, we were doing femara for fertility so I got a 6 week ultrasound- we monitored my HCG levels for 2 weeks, saw the heartbeat, heard the heartbeat, told my parents and his parents. doctor said it was a boy. I'm due with our little boy in 4 weeks! My daughter (almost 4 at the time) actually read my pee test and told my parents for us. LOL

We.are.done. after this kiddo! I only have one tube left and will be almost 42! LOL

If my kids told me they were having babies I would absolutely lose it- but I'm a late breeder as someone here called it. Truth is I could have a 30 year old child like my college roommate, after we graduated.

I ended up telling my Grandmother early because I was with her. The I had to call my parents because I knew Grandma was a pro at secrets- but she wouldn't want to do it.