Susan Klebold interview is on 20/20 tonight

I am recording it also. I was actually coming here to post that it was on.

I am recording it. I have to be in the right frame of mind to watch it.

She's never done a TV interview but is doing one now because her book is being released. I understand that the proceeds are going to mental health charities but I still think the book is poor form.

I'm watching it now.

So sad it seemed a lot of people /officials missed signs that those 2 kids were not well.

I liked the analogy that they all had pieces to the puzzle but were unaware of how they all fit together.

But don't you think those families relive it with Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech and all the other shootings too.

I guess my point is she deserves to be able to heal too.

I think she will be condemned and judged no matter how she acts or what she does.

I'm sure they hurt. Every day.

Her story is important to tell. Probably one of the most important stories out of the horror that is Columbine. Because we NEED to understand. To see what she missed. To know what was rationalized away. So that other parents don't make the same mistakes.

Because if it helps one parent, one teacher, one friend, one counselor recognize a warning sign and prevent another tragedy, then it's worth it.

She said she wished she would have dug deeper into why he was moody/isolating himself.

She also wished she had read that story he had wrote in school and had followed up with the guidance counselor.

She also said she wished she had gone thru his room instead of respecting his privacy.

This.

It is so important to hear what she has to say. I only caught part of the interview and intend to watch the full interview later. She does indeed talk about what she missed. She talks about her parenting. How she would say something like "Hey, Dylan, are OK? It looks like something is bothering you" and how she would accept a brush offed answer from him. She talks about what she would have done differently. She talks about how several people each had a tiny piece of the puzzle and how not one of them put the pieces together. It is clear that she blames herself for not putting it together.

While writing the book may have been part of her healing, it is clear that she is not healed and that is not what this is about. She is still tormented by the death and destruction. There is mention that families have come to her and spoken of forgiveness, yet I don't think she has forgiven herself and certainly not her child.

Columbine was the first. There are so many now that we don't even know them all. There are too many to just count off now. There have been 270 school shootings of any sort since then. 270. WTF. Truly, if one parent or one teacher or one counselor stops a single shooting, this was worth her breaking her silence.

My child was a baby when this happened. How sad it is that many of our children have grown up in a world where school shootings are now a thing. It was not a concern when I went to school. A bomb threat was just that, a threat. Today, a bomb threat throws entire towns into a panic. I see it here with the posts. I see it on FB. Back in the day, a bomb threat was like a fire drill. You went outside for a little. The police and fire trucks came. You went back inside. It rarely even took an entire period.

I hope so too.

Yes I agree as she talked I said to my hubby geez that was our 2 older boys at points in their teens.

I think a lot of parents would chalk it up to being part of growing up as a teen much like she did.

One of my boys was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 17 and I know I beat myself up daily on signs I missed before his breakdown that led to his diagnosis.

I think as parents we struggle with parenting/ giving kids freedom but also rules and the whole privacy thing and she didn't even have the whole social media thing either then to contend with.

Does anyone know where I can watch this after the fact? I didn't even know about it but I'd like to watch it.

Yes, Yes, Really Red!! I too would like to hear from the Elementary teachers of these boys.

As an Elementary teacher we try. We try to explain to parents various things about their child. Some just DO NOT want to hear it. Then their child goes into the next grade and the next teacher is sharing the experiences with the previous teacher. The experiences with both the child/parent match up.

At the Elementary level we document and document and document even more. Are things done with all of that? Yes, if the parent hears us. If the parents don't then all it ends up to be is a pile of paperwork.

It's just sad.

Why is their peace more important than her healing?

I feel for the families of the dead and permanently injured as well. But this poor woman has to live with the fact that her son did this terrible thing. And how she missed the signs that something was wrong. Her healing is just as important as theirs I think. I can't imagine how guilty I would feel if my child did something so terrible. Not sure I could ever quite reconcile it in my head.

I know it was just a TV show - but it puts me in mind of the Criminal Minds episode where the agent trainee came on board to help profile because her father had been a serial killer.....and how at the end, she couldn't reconcile the fact that he was so awful, but she just couldn't hate him. And how she spoke of how the families of these killers feel - they are ashamed and horrified, and want to apologize and can't.

While I think the issues her son had were way beyond 'typical' teen boy behavior, none of what she said she saw before hand necessarily pointed to violently killing others. BUT clearly it was more than normal average teen boy stuff. There was also very conflicting signals. Felony robbery is serious stuff, not normal teen phase. Then on the other hand he was released from his community service sentance with a glowing statement. I feel for her because it's so hard to give children privacy and still know what's going on.

I certainly DO go into my children's rooms. I do not read their journal.


I have to wonder what the one guy who knew they were getting guns and making ( thankfully wrong ) pipe bombs was thinking they were doing?? I'm not saying it's 'his' fault, but I'm curious how he rationalized away that they were building pipe bombs?

And it was interesting that the other boy WAS in therapy. We all think if we see the signs we can get our children help. But they got him help and it wasn't enough. Somethings you just can not fix or help.