Correcting kids that aren't yours (at your house)

I don't have a problem correcting other kids in my home. It's typically a gentle "That's not the rule in our house", "That's not how we treat things/people in our home etc." And I don't have a problem with other people doing it with my kid in their home.

Yes! What is with the screaming?!?! A tantrum screaming would be one thing, but screaming/screeching when you're having fun? What is that???

I have no problem correcting any child in my home, and had no problem with anyone correcting mine. If the parent does nothing, I'll speak up with a gentle reminder that we don't run in the house or whatever needs correcting. I expected my kid to behave in other people's homes and I expect the same courtesy in my home.

Of course I will correct other people's kids when they're at my house if their parents don't do it. It's my house, and I don't want my things to get broken. Luckily, it doesn't happen often, but if necessary, I will not hesitate.

I'm comfortable correcting certain things.  If a kid is doing something that is disturbing everyone or could damage my house, I'll say something (after giving the parent an opportunity to do so first if h/she is present).  If it's something like poor table manners or something that doesn't really impact me, I don't.

i've had to. Not fun but necessary.

I try to rein myself in when the parents are around - as a teacher, I am very comfortable correcting OPKs, and I worry that other parents will think I'm being presumptuous. In a case like jumping on the furniture(!), however, I would not hesitate to say something.

It's easier in my own house, where I can invoke "house rules." Harder is at a party when I'm not the host, where kids I have in class are tearing around, and I can tell things are headed south in a hurry - usually, I just pull my own kid out of the scene, but I have occasionally redirected the whole shenanigans on the basis of "staying safe." I would not do that with kids I didn't know.

I can be sensitive about other people correcting my kids if I think what they're doing is okay. For example, I've had friends tell my kids (with me right there!) that they shouldn't sit in a certain place on the subway, or that they shouldn't walk so far ahead of me. Um, they ride the subway every day, and they know how far away from me they're allowed to be. I don't say anything, though, because I figure they're trying to be helpful.

If someone had to tell my kids to stop running on the furniture, I'd be mortified that a) my kids were being so rude, and b) that I hadn't noticed it first! So yes, if my kids are doing something like that, PLEASE DO correct them!

Generally, I give the parents a chance to correct them (unless there's immediate danger, ie the pool or messing with the dog) and I always hoped if I wasn't around someone would correct my kid. I do remember getting upset at my sil when ds was little (4 or under). She's teacher and was just always on him at the dinner table. Constantly nitpicking at him. We didn't let him walk around during dinner time, or throw food, or get loud or any of that nonsense but I do remember getting aggravated with her.

OMG - one time dh went running out of the house thinking someone was hurt. Nope, it was dd's friend just standing in the back yard screaming   

We have no problem correcting other kids at our house. For me it's just me telling them that our rules are x, y, z.

We don't allow screaming, jumping on furniture, throwing balls/toys or running in our house. My sister allows all of those in her house 

i have no problem with it and don't mind other correcting my children either.  the only time it ticks me off is when someone is all over MY kid for something and meanwhile, their kids are not held to the same standard.  

my girlfriend used to BEG me to correct her son... she said he just doesn't listen to her. maybe it's a case like that???  when she would correct her son at HER house she would say "oh, merrick hates when you make that much noise.  stop or she's going to leave and take her son with her and your playdate will be over".  i was like   , this kid is gonna HATE me!  

I correct OPKs in my house if the need arises - in front of their parents if necessary. And when I leave my kids in the care of someone else, I tell them to treat them like they would their own - discipline included.

I have no problem telling a visiting child to knock it off if they are doing something they shouldn't be. Just as I would hope that their parent would do the same to my child if they were acting up at their home. I speak to them the same way I would my own kids because my expectations of behavior are the same for all kids present.

Similar sort of thing - I own a candy store and parents will often say to their kids "If you keep on doing that the lady will shout at you". What's wrong with telling the little darlings that what they are doing is not acceptable and they have to stop?



I will correct OPK in my home if necessary but if the parents are with them I do wait for them to do it first. My kids are grown now but I would have been horrified if they misbehaved anywhere and certainly would expect them to be pulled up about it if I wasn't there.