raindancer
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Post by raindancer on Mar 7, 2016 19:22:18 GMT
**update**
Thank you all for the kind thoughts it helped to read them all. He finally got his pain under control after about 3 hours . Then we came back to the room and I spent a good portion of the night trying to keep him comfortable. We got some sleep from around 4am-6am which is a record for the hospital.
He will be getting up to walk in a few mins. He has about a 10 inch abdominal incision so he's a little worried about this, but also very determined to heal well and go home by the weekend.
He has crohns disease and the surgery was to remove a section of his small bowel. He already lost his colon years ago. We lost his mom to a mrsa infection in 2006 following a similar surgery so I tend to really feel panicked when he has surgery.
In addition he has been struggling since last May and so the loss of Akathy hit especially close to home for me these past months.
Again. Thank you for again being a space to vent and worry.
is the worst.
Everyone is chatting and laughing and talking and I just want the knot in my stomach and the lump in my throat to go away. It won't until he comes out. It's still a few hours probably. Historically his surgeries don't go well, and take much longer than expected.
I'm so worried and stressed out, but my kids are here so I have to keep putting on my mom face and stay positive.
All I really want to do is curl up in a ball and sleep and wish it was over.
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Post by elaine on Mar 7, 2016 19:24:10 GMT
(((Hugs)))))
Prayers being sent up for your dh, his doctors, and you.
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mlana
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Post by mlana on Mar 7, 2016 19:24:19 GMT
I'm so sorry. I get what you mean about the Mom face.
Marcy
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Post by FLA SummerBaby on Mar 7, 2016 19:24:32 GMT
Hang in there-- the waiting IS the worst part. Just pray for peace and try to focus on your "mom face" for now. Hope this is a smoother surgery than seems to be the norm for your hubby.
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Post by anniefb on Mar 7, 2016 19:24:55 GMT
Sending hugs and prayers for you!
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Post by valincal on Mar 7, 2016 19:25:46 GMT
Big hugs. Hope it all goes smoothly. Take care.
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Post by flanz on Mar 7, 2016 19:25:58 GMT
So sorry. Is there a friend you can call to come pick up your kids and another friend who would come and sit with you? (((HUGS)))
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2016 19:28:08 GMT
sending prayers and hugs
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2016 19:30:04 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers for you both.
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Post by Mystie on Mar 7, 2016 19:30:59 GMT
Oh, honey. I am so sorry you're going through this. Try to take some deep breaths, all the way down into your stomach. And get up and walk around a little bit. I will pray for your husband's safety and for your peace of mind.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 7, 2016 19:33:26 GMT
Hugs and prayers going out for you and your DH.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Mar 7, 2016 19:34:24 GMT
Hugs.
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Post by valleyview on Mar 7, 2016 19:36:12 GMT
I'm so sorry! Waiting areas are so uncomfortable. Prayers for a quicker surgery and good results.
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Post by BarbaraUK on Mar 7, 2016 19:37:11 GMT
That sort of waiting is the most awful experience! Hope it won't be long before he's out of surgery. Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts your way across the Atlantic.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Mar 7, 2016 19:38:56 GMT
Take a deep breath. Take another. And again. You are probably shallow breathing right now and that is not helping. Your husband is in expert hands. It is always stressful for those in the waiting room. Breathe. Use the bottom of your lungs.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Mar 7, 2016 19:39:13 GMT
Oh I am so sorry. I hope all goes well. Try to breathe deeply to calm your nerves.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Mar 7, 2016 19:39:58 GMT
Aww so sorry you are worried. I hope he comes out soon and that it goes better than expected. Hang in there.
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Post by leannec on Mar 7, 2016 19:40:24 GMT
Positive thoughts coming your way for your dh  |
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 7, 2016 19:41:44 GMT
Positive thoughts sent your way for an uneventful and quick surgery. I hope your husband's recovery is speedy and goes better than planned also. Hang in there.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2016 19:42:21 GMT
Hugs and prayers for you.
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Post by raindancer on Mar 7, 2016 19:42:57 GMT
thanks everyone. I'm trying to breathe. I had the flu last week so that's harder to do than you might suspect.  The last time he had major surgery we were younger and dumber and poorer. This time we are not, and so his preparing for a worst case outcome has had my anxiety level at max. I know it's likely fine, and that he is smart to have things in order, but it really made me feel panicked and that hasn't subsided. |
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Post by mrsp on Mar 7, 2016 19:45:22 GMT
It is so hard to wait! My husband had one surgery and I wasn't satisfied until I could see him and talk to him. Till then, I was sort of a basket case.
I only tell this story to entertain you- My SIL came to sit with me and the very second they showed us into the waiting room, she turned to me and asked if I wanted to visit the gift shop. Of course I wanted to sit there and freak out on the inside! My SIL isn't bad, she just has the energy level of your average jack rabbit. And she loves to shop!
Best wishes and prayers to you and your husband and the doctors!
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Post by pridemom on Mar 7, 2016 19:47:34 GMT
I have learned that waiting without a support person for me is not good. I need another adult to distract me when DH has had surgery. He's had four since we married and I waited alone for two of them. My mind is my worst enemy in those situations. Hugs and prayers for a good outcome.
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Post by auntkelly on Mar 7, 2016 19:48:52 GMT
I'll say prayers for you and your DH.
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Post by raindancer on Mar 7, 2016 19:50:45 GMT
I have learned that waiting without a support person for me is not good. I need another adult to distract me when DH has had surgery. He's had four since we married and I waited alone for two of them. My mind is my worst enemy in those situations. Hugs and prayers for a good outcome. My mom flew in, my kids are here, and a good friend of ours. I just have no desire to chat/laugh/make small talk. So I feel rude, and like a trapped animal. But here I am. I feel like at least in my own head my cranky self isn't impacting others negatively. |
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Post by caro on Mar 7, 2016 19:53:23 GMT
I am so sorry. The waiting is awful. Big hugs.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 7, 2016 19:54:39 GMT
More (((hugs))) and positive thoughts for your dh & you!
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Post by Patter on Mar 7, 2016 19:55:56 GMT
Praying it goes well and he gets out sooner than expected. My DD does the same thing--takes longer and has a worse outcome than expected. I am sitting in her hospital room with her right now--2nd heart surgery since Feb. 10 of this year. I find going on a walk and people watching always helps. And if your weather is nice, step outside. It does the body SO good to get fresh air and some sun. Hugs and prayers!
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Post by J u l e e on Mar 7, 2016 20:01:18 GMT
(((HUGS))), with no chatting or laughing expected. I'll just sit here quietly with you!
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Post by MizIndependent on Mar 7, 2016 20:02:34 GMT
Always stressful, ((((hugs)))). Hang in there, I'm sure he'll come through with flying colors. |
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