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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 22:22:30 GMT
Why do women insist on judging other women based on what they feel comfortable wearing. Does it fill a void? Make you feel superior and oh so much better about yourself? I personally think it makes you look like an asshole. So tired of it.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 28, 2014 22:24:08 GMT
I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 22:25:27 GMT
I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit. That's your issue not someone else's.
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 28, 2014 22:26:07 GMT
I'm so glad to see this thread stall before it even started! We really don't need to do this to each other. Wear what you want, sisters. Just get out there. OK< then I'm going to wear 56 Band-aides and slowly slough them off into the public areas as the day progresses! Julee invited me to do this. I'll be cheering you on from my towel while wearing my mismatched bathing suit!
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Post by liya on Jul 28, 2014 22:34:57 GMT
I wish I had the confidence to wear a bikini. Not all of them are skimpy. I judge myself. Others will judge me. Sigh!
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Post by Scarlet Ohana on Jul 28, 2014 22:44:00 GMT
So you don't think they know that they are fat? How kind of you to let them know, I'm sure they have no idea.
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Post by meriannj on Jul 28, 2014 22:45:56 GMT
I'm so glad to see this thread stall before it even started! We really don't need to do this to each other. Wear what you want, sisters. Just get out there. OK< then I'm going to wear 56 Band-aides and slowly slough them off into the public areas as the day progresses! Julee invited me to do this. HA I just choked on my diet coke reading that!!!!!!!!!!! but EWWWWWWWWWWW the visual....
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Post by melanell on Jul 28, 2014 22:46:58 GMT
Yes, and if they are out there in their bikinis then they are doing just that, right?
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 28, 2014 22:48:08 GMT
I totally think you should wear what you want, but if you're shoving a size 24 rear end into a size 8 bikini bottom, than I will have to draw the line. To me, there is a difference between wearing something that fits you well and covers up your important bits and letting it all hang out in public. That's is just me, though. I totally agree with this.
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Post by elaine on Jul 28, 2014 22:48:29 GMT
I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit. Then don't go to a water park, beach, or lake where wearing a bathing suit and the sight of some flesh is appropriate. I'd recommend finding a pool that caters to observant orthodox/chasidic Jews - I promise you won't see anything you wouldn't want to, and there would only be women there when you would be allowed.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 28, 2014 22:48:46 GMT
I really try not to be judgy. I don't care if people wear a bikini, a tankini, a one-piece, matching, mis-matched etc.
But please let it be the right size.
ETA: And no falling off band-aids!
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 28, 2014 23:00:41 GMT
I follow a lot of women on Instagram who are on weightloss journeys and one just hit her 100lb loss ..she is actually still considered overweight but man has she really transformed herself. So for a reward she went and bought a bikini. She never wore one before and hasn't had a regular swimsuit on since childhood. She rocked it!!! She was so confident she posted how she cried because she felt so proud. To be honest I'm sure people who don't know her story judged her thinking she shouldn't be in it...I say eff them!
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Post by caro on Jul 28, 2014 23:06:52 GMT
Because their bodies don't meet your expectations of perfection? Body shaming is not cool. I don 't care what they wear but a 300 lb woman is not attractive in a bikini. What I did admire was the lady who had a full port wine stain on her whole right side of her body and she was rocking a bikini. I don 't know if I could do that.
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Post by janeliz on Jul 28, 2014 23:14:24 GMT
I fall on the side with those who say that people should wear what makes them feel good, and that body confidence in women and girls (and heck, men and boys too) isn't such a bad thing.
I can remember when I was a teenager at the beach or pool. I had a perfectly cute figure, but refused to wear a bikini because I was sure I was too fat and everyone would be staring at me and talking about how terrible I looked. What a waste of time that was! Worrying about what everyone else thought when I could have just been wearing a cute bikini and having fun. Nowadays, I think people are far less self-conscious than they used to be. I appreciate that.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 28, 2014 23:18:46 GMT
I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit. Then don't go to a water park, beach, or lake where wearing a bathing suit and the sight of some flesh is appropriate. I'd recommend finding a pool that caters to observant orthodox/chasidic Jews - I promise you won't see anything you wouldn't want to, and there would only be women there when you would be allowed. Seriously? Exaggerate much? I have NO issues with skin, male or female. None at all. Private parts are private for a reason.
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 28, 2014 23:18:55 GMT
Caro, seriously? Nearly an entire thread discussing how body shaming is not cool and you come back and post that?
I weigh 125 pounds at 5'9 and you know what? My body is not "attractive" in a bikini either. Shield your eyes.
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Post by luanne on Jul 28, 2014 23:22:24 GMT
I Going to Noah's ark in Wisconsin dells and people watch. I love to see all the tattoo's. Some are really cool while others makes me scratch my head.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jul 28, 2014 23:30:30 GMT
Yes, and if they are out there in their bikinis then they are doing just that, right? Yes absolutely better to be moving!
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Post by ahiller on Jul 28, 2014 23:31:54 GMT
I totally think you should wear what you want, but if you're shoving a size 24 rear end into a size 8 bikini bottom, than I will have to draw the line. To me, there is a difference between wearing something that fits you well and covers up your important bits and letting it all hang out in public. That's is just me, though. This is exactly what I was coming to post. I'd imagine that this is more what the OP was referring to, rather than the "body shaming" she is being accused of. I do have to laugh at some of the handclaps on this thread though. How many of the posters criticizing the OP have been on threads making fun of Kim Kardashians butt or her choice of maternity wear?
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Post by carly on Jul 28, 2014 23:33:14 GMT
Why do women insist on judging other women based on what they feel comfortable wearing. Does it fill a void? Make you feel superior and oh so much better about yourself? I personally think it makes you look like an asshole. So tired of it. Why do you have to call the lady an asshole? Just because she thinks different than you do how is she harming you? She didn't say she approached the people and told them they look like shit. I think the asshole here is you.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 28, 2014 23:36:06 GMT
The only thing else I want to say is this:
I am overweight. Not a lot, but enough that I am fluffier than the average woman-or what I perceive to be the average woman. The news tell me I am at least two sizes smaller, but I am short, round and curvy.
I am very self-conscious in a bathing suit. I wear a tankini with a cute little skirt because I worry about my thighs. I wear an under-wire style top because I am worried that people will make faces at my now sagging breasts. The tankini top is worn in hopes that it will help disguise my midsection. I am a middle age woman who lives with an abiding concern about the judgement of how my body looks in a bathing suit by others who think that "fat" is ugly and think I should cover up even more.
Reading some of the responses here make me realize that I am not that far off the mark.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 23:36:57 GMT
I totally think you should wear what you want, but if you're shoving a size 24 rear end into a size 8 bikini bottom, than I will have to draw the line. To me, there is a difference between wearing something that fits you well and covers up your important bits and letting it all hang out in public. That's is just me, though. This is exactly what I was coming to post. I'd imagine that this is more what the OP was referring to, rather than the "body shaming" she is being accused of. I do have to laugh at some of the handclaps on this thread though. How many of the posters criticizing the OP have been on threads making fun of Kim Kardashians butt or her choice of maternity wear? Not me. We come in all shapes and sizes. No need to judge for that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 23:38:41 GMT
Why do women insist on judging other women based on what they feel comfortable wearing. Does it fill a void? Make you feel superior and oh so much better about yourself? I personally think it makes you look like an asshole. So tired of it. Why do you have to call the lady an asshole? Just because she thinks different than you do how is she harming you? She didn't say she approached the people and told them they look like shit. I think the asshole here is you. Um when you come on here and shame women due to their size and bathing suit then yes I think you are an asshole. And yes this attitude is harming women as a whole. It is an awful way to think.
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jul 28, 2014 23:38:45 GMT
I'll judge if you don't cover your titties and your jayjay. Nobody needs to see that.
But some flab hanging out? I envy them for being brave enough to show their flab. I'm definitely not.
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 28, 2014 23:39:02 GMT
I do have to laugh at some of the handclaps on this thread though. How many of the posters criticizing the OP have been on threads making fun of Kim Kardashians butt or her choice of maternity wear? Just for the record, you will never find me on one of those threads. This issue (weight, body size/shape, clothing) is one of my hot button topics and I try to sit on my hands, but every once in a while I jump in as nicely as I can. And then I just get more pissed off. I seriously abhor shit like this. And I don't care if standing up for other people looks like a handslap.
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Post by yoko on Jul 28, 2014 23:48:46 GMT
I saw this online and liked it-
How to get a bikini body: Buy a bikini Put it on your body.
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Post by moveablefeast on Jul 28, 2014 23:49:59 GMT
I on the other hand was at a water park in Northern Virginia the other day and observed that many women who did not have bikini-perfect bodies looked terrific in their bikinis. One in particular was probably a size 18-20 and rocked a bright pink bikini and looked absolutely amazing. I wanted to say something like "You really rock that suit" but I didn't want to appear to be making unwelcome body commentary, so I just thought it. But damn she looked good in that bikini.
I wear a boring tank suit because I like my boring tank suit. But I have plenty of cellulite on display when I'm at the water park 'cause I have big fat legs. I figure if some yap wants to comment on my big fat pasty-white* legs on display in a bathing suit, that says a whole lot more about them than it does about me.
* Because sunscreen > melanoma
Oh, and if you're wondering, I ate pizza AND chips at the water park with my kid and her cousin. And it was delicious! Along with the non-diet Coke I washed it down with! So if you want to assume you know what I eat all week based on what I ate on a Friday afternoon at the water park, that's fine too.
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Post by elaine on Jul 28, 2014 23:59:31 GMT
Then don't go to a water park, beach, or lake where wearing a bathing suit and the sight of some flesh is appropriate. I'd recommend finding a pool that caters to observant orthodox/chasidic Jews - I promise you won't see anything you wouldn't want to, and there would only be women there when you would be allowed. Seriously? Exaggerate much? I have NO issues with skin, male or female. None at all. Private parts are private for a reason. Well, except that you said that you said this, which, to me, is a problem with skin: I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit. My sister is chasidic and it is a culture that is all about modesty. If that truly IS important to you, I was serious that you might want to try it. I actually have been swimming in that environment. I did it to swim with my sister and her daughters. But I could care less what anyone wants to wear to the beach or a water park. The human body doesn't offend me. Not even cheeks or boobs.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 29, 2014 0:02:44 GMT
Seriously? Exaggerate much? I have NO issues with skin, male or female. None at all. Private parts are private for a reason. Well, except that you said that you said this, which, to me, is a problem with skin: I'm sorry, but I disagree with most of you. For ME, it's not a question of whether or not their bodies look good in the suits or not, or whether or not they feel good or not in what they are wearing. For me, it's about modesty. I am no pearl clutcher, but there is only so much of someone (Male OR female) that I need to see in public. I don't need to see someone's cheeks or boobs just because they feel good in the outfit/suit. My sister is chasidic and it is a culture that is all about modesty. If that truly IS important to you, I was serious that you might want to try it. I actually have been swimming in that environment. I did it to swim with my sister and her daughters. But I could care less what anyone wants to wear to the beach or a water park. The human body doesn't offend me. Not even cheeks or boobs. It is important that someone cover the "important parts. You can show any skin you want, but there are certain parts that should stay covered. I'm am totally fine with a properly fitting string bikini. The key word is proper. If I want to see boobs, I'll go to a nudist beach. ETA: Sorry for the tone I took. It was on the rude side.
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jul 29, 2014 0:04:05 GMT
If I were at a topless or nude beach, then go for it. But most water parks have rules, and covering titties are one of those rules, which is why I would expect them to be covered, per the rules of the park.
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