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Post by elaine on Jul 29, 2014 0:05:42 GMT
Well, except that you said that you said this, which, to me, is a problem with skin: My sister is chasidic and it is a culture that is all about modesty. If that truly IS important to you, I was serious that you might want to try it. I actually have been swimming in that environment. I did it to swim with my sister and her daughters. But I could care less what anyone wants to wear to the beach or a water park. The human body doesn't offend me. Not even cheeks or boobs. It is important that someone cover the "important parts. You can show any skin you want, but there are certain parts that should stay covered. I'm am totally fine with a properly fitting string bikini. The key word is proper. Gotcha! That is different. Sorry!
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Post by carly on Jul 29, 2014 0:07:35 GMT
Why do you have to call the lady an asshole? Just because she thinks different than you do how is she harming you? She didn't say she approached the people and told them they look like shit. I think the asshole here is you. Um when you come on here and shame women due to their size and bathing suit then yes I think you are an asshole. And yes this attitude is harming women as a whole. It is an awful way to think. Ummm your attitude is absolutely no better, calling the woman an asshole how about if you feel so passionately about it approach it in a better way. When you have a conversation with someone and you would like them to see your point of view calling them an asshole is not the way.
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Post by seikashaven on Jul 29, 2014 0:09:54 GMT
I'm pretty sure you can tell I'm fat in both a bikini and a one piece. Lycra doesn't keep secrets well.
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Post by Linda on Jul 29, 2014 0:14:54 GMT
I think it's great that there are women who are comfortable rocking that bikini even if they aren't perfectly tan/in shape/non-stretch-marked/etc... Go them!
I'm not one of them - I have a skirted tankini (size 16) that replaced my skirted tankini (size 20W) mid-summer. I'm hoping next summer my skirted tankini will be a smaller size still. But it's likely still to be a) skirted and b) a tankini or full one-piece... I just don't have the self-confidence to put ALL my imperfections on display. But I AM wearing a swimsuit and taking my kids to the pool and I'll be damned if I'm going to let anyone tell me I'm too fat or too old or too....to do so. I can do a fine job of down-talking myself.
But I'll be honest - I've looked at some folks at the pool and wondered why they choose the suit they did - and it's occurred to me that perhaps that was the only suit they HAD and that they couldn't afford a new suit for an infrequent need or that perhaps that was the suit they could afford. I could get my daughter a bikini at Walmart for under $10 - and I see lots of those cheap bikinis at our local pool. I didn't - she won't wear a bikini - but it cost $30 on sale for her suit - mine was $50 on sale. That's a lot of money to many at our local pool - folks with decent incomes tend to have their own pool not use the public one here.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 0:39:14 GMT
Um when you come on here and shame women due to their size and bathing suit then yes I think you are an asshole. And yes this attitude is harming women as a whole. It is an awful way to think. Ummm your attitude is absolutely no better, calling the woman an asshole how about if you feel so passionately about it approach it in a better way. When you have a conversation with someone and you would like them to see your point of view calling them an asshole is not the way. And I disagree and that is okay.
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Post by carly on Jul 29, 2014 0:47:10 GMT
Ummm your attitude is absolutely no better, calling the woman an asshole how about if you feel so passionately about it approach it in a better way. When you have a conversation with someone and you would like them to see your point of view calling them an asshole is not the way. And I disagree and that is okay. I am sure you do
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 29, 2014 1:03:48 GMT
I'm not a huge Kim K fan but I absolutely think she is beautiful and I love her body including the butt
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Post by tallgirl on Jul 29, 2014 1:22:48 GMT
I generally think finding flattering clothing is important. But when it comes to swimwear I think differently. Swimwear should cover private parts but other than that - it's about being in the elements and feeling the water and the sun on your skin. If people want to wear very little, whether their figures are perfect or imperfect, I say go for it.
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Post by lovemybabes on Jul 29, 2014 1:35:02 GMT
If it covers the private parts, then I am good.
I care not if you are a 3, or a 28. I am an 18...and I wear what is comfy for me. Just cover the nipples, and the va-jayjay.
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Post by valincal on Jul 29, 2014 1:41:14 GMT
You know what skeeves me out at a water park (or anywhere, really). Used, abandoned BAND-AIDES. I can handle a random wad of hair, but a bandage skeeves me as much as baby corn does. I hear ya'! I was at a pool once and a man and his wife were examining a piece of plastic that was floating in the water in front of them. It turned out to be a swimsuit crotch-liner someone must have forgotten to remove. Yuck.
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Post by doxielady on Jul 29, 2014 1:43:28 GMT
MANY years ago, I used to go to a local beach that was "clothing optional". I was surprised at the wide variety of body types that felt completely comfortable with their size and shape. I was impressed with their confidence and wished that I held the same self confidence. I just don't. I never have.
I say - good for them! I still wish I had just a little of their confidence!
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Post by melanell on Jul 29, 2014 1:44:24 GMT
Then don't go to a water park, beach, or lake where wearing a bathing suit and the sight of some flesh is appropriate. I'd recommend finding a pool that caters to observant orthodox/chasidic Jews - I promise you won't see anything you wouldn't want to, and there would only be women there when you would be allowed. Seriously? Exaggerate much? I have NO issues with skin, male or female. None at all. Private parts are private for a reason. But I don't see how this is a modesty issue at all for the OP. She really is coming off (to me at least) as saying that she can't stand looking at someone so large so they should cover themselves up to cover up some of their size.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 1:47:57 GMT
You know what skeeves me out at a water park (or anywhere, really). Used, abandoned BAND-AIDES. I can handle a random wad of hair, but a bandage skeeves me as much as baby corn does. I hear ya'! I was at a pool once and a man and his wife were examining a piece of plastic that was floating in the water in front of them. It turned out to be a swimsuit crotch-liner someone must have forgotten to remove. Yuck. But they did realize everyone's actual crotches were in the water, right?
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Post by freebird on Jul 29, 2014 1:54:13 GMT
You see some fat chick that "shouldn't be out in public." I see someone that's happy, confident and looks like she's having a lot of fun. To her I say... high five sister, pass me a beer.
I've decided I don't give a flying fuck if someone doesn't like how I look.... really. I care if my husband finds me attractive. That's pretty much it (he does). So why would I care about a bunch of people at a waterpark that I'll never see again and their opinion of me? I just... don't.
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Post by valincal on Jul 29, 2014 1:56:06 GMT
I hear ya'! I was at a pool once and a man and his wife were examining a piece of plastic that was floating in the water in front of them. It turned out to be a swimsuit crotch-liner someone must have forgotten to remove. Yuck. But they did realize everyone's actual crotches were in the water, right? True enough!
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Post by kelbel827 on Jul 29, 2014 2:09:04 GMT
I'm surprised that they stay on at a watermark. Some of the rides can be brutal.
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Post by Native New Yorker on Jul 29, 2014 2:27:23 GMT
So you don't think they know that they are fat? How kind of you to let them know, I'm sure they have no idea. Ya never know! I had no idea how much weight I had gained until I saw myself on video. I was surprised. I knew that I gained but it seemed amplified in the video.
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Post by PEArfect on Jul 29, 2014 2:32:22 GMT
I don't have the confidence to wear just any suit off the rack that fits me. I want it to be flattering and hide the areas I'm most self conscious about.
I understand that some people have more confidence, and will just wear whatever fits, but don't you want your suit to be flattering? Some suits are just better for certain body types. I see those type of articles during swim suit season every year. "If your apple/pear/whatever shape try these styles when shopping for bathing suits." Along with pictures.
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Post by Jen in NCal on Jul 29, 2014 2:40:37 GMT
My issue isn't so much that of body shaming, but they don't choose suits that are right for their body style-wise. I have seen a lot of women who do not fit the cultural "norm" in two piece suits that look fantastic. I think there are certain styles of suits that look better on certain styles of women. Just like I think that there are suits that the model-thin bodies shouldn't wear.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 3:20:09 GMT
Because their bodies don't meet your expectations of perfection? Body shaming is not cool. I don 't care what they wear but a 300 lb woman is not attractive in a bikini. What I did admire was the lady who had a full port wine stain on her whole right side of her body and she was rocking a bikini. I don 't know if I could do that. Attachments:
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Post by moveablefeast on Jul 29, 2014 3:26:54 GMT
I don't have the confidence to wear just any suit off the rack that fits me. I want it to be flattering and hide the areas I'm most self conscious about. I understand that some people have more confidence, and will just wear whatever fits, but don't you want your suit to be flattering? Some suits are just better for certain body types. I see those type of articles during swim suit season every year. "If your apple/pear/whatever shape try these styles when shopping for bathing suits." Along with pictures. Don't I want my suit to be flattering? Well yes and no. By your definition - hide "problem" areas - no, I don't really care too much about flattering. Because really, it's a swimsuit and unless I want to wear one of those nice Mormon getups it is really not going to change too much about my big butt being identifiable as such. I don't pick suits based on my body type, I pick suits based on what fits comfortably, what is going to stay in place while I'm playing with my kid or swimming laps, what colors and patterns I like. That is my working definition of flattering - I feel good in this. Most of the suit types recommended for my body type are skirted suits or tankinis with a looser torso, to "hide" stuff I'm not supposed to like about my body. I have one of each right now and neither one is my favorite to be sure - I don't like how the extra fabric floats around when I'm in the water. Flattering has this connotation that there is a right way to look, usually thinner/younger/etc. and God forbid that anything else be visible - for example, I have a friend who won't wear sleeves above the elbow because she's self-conscious about her upper arms. Which, look, I think everybody should wear what they prefer, but that's not what I chose. I prefer to let the arm flab fly free in my summer tanks. I feel good, I feel good when I look in the mirror, we're different people with different ideas of flattering and that's really okay. Maybe it just comes from a lifetime of being kind of pudgy and plain but when I stopped wearing things so that other people would like how I looked and started wearing things so that I would like how I felt, life got a lot easier and I stopped really caring too much if people think my swimsuit is unflattering. Fashion magazine buying guides are way at the bottom of my interest list because I'm kind of over the idea that I need to camouflage my big ass for someone else's viewing comfort.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 4:00:54 GMT
I think your thread title would be fun for people to fill in the blank, like Mad Libs. "I went to a water park today and I have seen _______________. " You know what skeeves me out at a water park (or anywhere, really). Used, abandoned BAND-AIDES. I can handle a random wad of hair, but a bandage skeeves me as much as baby corn does. I agree with the band-aids but a random wad of hair grosses me out too. Even when I have to clean out my hair brush Oh me too. Can't do the hair clumps. In my old apartment building, an old woman used to collect the hair clumps and was em up and SCRUB HER DISHES WITH IT. Said it was a free natural way to get them clean. I about barfed and turned down every dinner invite she sent our way!
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 29, 2014 5:57:20 GMT
Part of me think eeeuuuw.
Part of me thinks good for them for not being ashamed of having real bodies, with all their imperfections, and not the photoshopped flawlessness of celebrities who are famous for being famous, and who make no real contribution to society.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 29, 2014 6:15:46 GMT
We went on a cruise, and people from Europe could have cared less. I wonder if body image thing is a USA thing? Believe me, it's not. From late winter until fall, magazines are full of "get the perfect summer body" articles. (At least in Scandinavia, and I very much doubt it's different in the rest of Europe either).
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Post by miominmio on Jul 29, 2014 6:28:30 GMT
I don't care about age or body-type, if you want to swim and have fun, good on you. But please, PLEASE don't wear white swimwear, because I really don't need to see if you've had a brazilian or not.
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Post by lesleyanne on Jul 29, 2014 7:02:00 GMT
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Post by mrst on Jul 29, 2014 7:58:47 GMT
I live in NE Spain and everyone wears what they like at the pool. Regardless of age and size.....I just love it!
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Post by peasapie on Jul 29, 2014 9:02:18 GMT
And I worry when I wear a full dress head to toe swimsuit... lol Where can I get one of these? ??
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Post by Aheartfeltcard on Jul 29, 2014 13:02:06 GMT
Well, I don't know...let's look at this from a different angle. I bought 2 swim dresses from Lands End. I am 5'6" and 110 lbs. I am thin and out of shape. I was under 40 yrs old at the time. The lady behind the counter said "these are for you? Why? You don't need to cover yourself up."
I disagree. And I didn't like that she said that. I don't think I look nice in a bikini and the truth is, I'd rather have people wondering what I look like than put it all out there.
To each his own.
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