Passover Question

I would think they would decline food as I am thinking your kitchen is not kosher.

There is kosher wine out there,my local liquor store has a section

I was invited to share a Passover meal with my friends a couple of years ago.
Very specific foods are served.

As it is time to eat each food, a "script" is read. Each person was given a little pamphlet to follow along.
Different guests at the meal read a paragraph or two. (To my surprise, I was invited to read.)
IIRC, it is part of the story of the Jewish people and the reason for Passover.

At the end of the meal, the children are invited to look for ?? (I'll have to go find what that is). This involved the kids under age 10, I think.

Also, I would go to the bookstore and look for a children's book about Passover. I know your boys are older, but that would give you all a quick overview of what's happening.

One more thing: matzoh spread with butter makes a fantastic tea time snack. The matzoh at Trader Joe's (imported from Israel) is the best.

And matzoh ball soup rocks. Add a little chopped fresh parsley to your matzoh balls, even if the recipe doesn't call for it.

I have a friend who is Jewish (and keeps kosher) and I always wish that she would invite me to Passover dinner. We aren't good enough friends that I can invite myself though.

In some ways, I am the single most unsophisticated boob on the face of the planet and while I know a little about what would happen, I would love to be a participant so I can learn more.

Is that weird?

Don't take wine. Wear dressy casual - nice pants and top.

Chances are you'll go through the Seder first. Seder means order, so you'll follow the dinner in order. Start with chanting the order, saying the 4 questions of Passover, and then taking turns reading the answers. Throughout you'll drink / bless 4 glasses of wine. You'll know dinner is close when you start eating /blessing matzo with different symbolic toppings and dipping a green vegetable in salt water. The traditions are all symbolic so there will be a lot of explaining for you.

The meal is traditional. Matzo ball soup, fish, meat, Kugol, etc. Afterwards the kids search for a special piece of matzo - the afikoman - the Seder cannot continue until everyone has eaten a piece of this special matzo. Your kids will search for it in the house (or hide it) and will sell it back to the head of the table (or he/she will pay them for clues).

Don't take food. Flowers are fine. Don't be worried about saying anything wrong - can't think of anything that could be bad - just have fun.

it's fine to be curious.
Passover is a celebration in which we as Jews are asked to welcome the stranger, so there should be a lot of tolerance for lack of knowledge on aspects of the different parts of the Seder.
I don't drink wine, just Kosher Grape juice.

we use the question section to ask modern questions and bring up discussions about things that need fixing in the world. there should be some lively discussions this year!

FYI, Charoset is sweet but not a dessert part of the meal. it has its own place in the Seder, after we bring out the Matzo and bless it. We make a Hillel sandwich made of matzo, horseradish, and charoset.

Desserts are all flour free, or wheat free, unless they are made with Matzo flour. there are lots of recipes. We love macaroons !!! yum!!

The movie is a pretty good start - pretty accurate compared to what they'll hear at the Seder.

Matzoh is also good mixed with eggs for breakfast! eggs, garlic and onion...and maybe some herbs!

Love Matzoh ball soup all year round, but it's traditional also for Passover

"The Mom said she has some fun tricks to teach the story to the kids, whatever that means." I bet I know what she is doing. One of the things that happens during the sedar is that plagues are mentioned that happened to the Jewish people. I don't want to ruin it for you, but I am thinking that she will have some extra items that will help the kids remember what the plagues are. There are kits that you can buy that have "props" in them that represent the plagues. My husbands aunt used these one year. They were funny and they really helped us remember the plagues. There were 10 plagues that God put upon the Egyptians for not letting the Israelies go. For example, one of the plagues is insects. So that that plague, she might have a bunch of plastic little bugs that get thrown around. Don't tell your kids about them. If that is what it is, it's more fun when it is a surprise.

you need to ask if the family is Conservative, Orthodox or Reform. there might be a huge difference in the length of the Seder. the Reform Seders are usually shorter. We always had 10 Plagues bags when I taught preschool. Our Seders at the Jewish Preschool was maybe 1/2 hour. Rabbi approved! we had lots of music and even had a time when the children could get up an dance to Miriam's Song.
Whatever information you get from us or online will be general. the family where you are invited most likely have their own traditions and hopefully activities for the children.

Lots of good advice above. Definitely have a snack befit you go. If you want a hostess gift either flowers or a bottle of kosher for Passover wine. Not plain kosher - Kosher for Passover. Ask at the big grocery or liquor store. Plague bags are fun, everyone enjoys those. Enjoy!